I was busy graduating a while ago, and for a while I almost stopped all social activities. But in fact, there is no real effective result in the days when I am not going out. Because of his late-stage cancer, all the work in the end was still backlogged before the death line. I also know my urinary sex, those days before desperately are actually invalid time. But when someone asked me to go out to play, my first reaction was to refuse. Of course, being home is one aspect, and more importantly, I felt deep in my heart that I should not go out to play if I have unfinished tasks, just like my mother taught when I was a child. You can’t watch TV until you finish your homework.
Finally finished writing the thesis, graduated successfully, and entered the state of looking for a job. There was a lot of free time, but when someone made an appointment, I still instinctively refused. The other party asked why? Because I'm looking for a job. But looking for a job is not a job. You don't have to look for it all day long, right? But in addition to finding, I have to do a resume, write CL, learn skills, and always have to do something. Do you also want to do these at night? Okay, I admit that it is mainly because I feel that I am not in the mood to play. But you have to go out because you are in a bad mood. Being with friends will make you feel better. Forcing me to face up to my heart, I feel I don't deserve to have fun before I find a job. Finding a job here used to be an offer, through a certain course, finding an internship, and finishing the paper smoothly Graduation... The tasks are seamlessly connected, and there is even a coincidence period. In other words, I have almost always been in a state where I feel I am unworthy of enjoying life.
It seems that the more rational people are, the more they will have this irrational state of mind, fearing happiness, or more accurately, fearing that they are not worthy to enjoy happiness. Because rational people know that all the good things in this world are priced, but they don't know if they can afford it. So when Diane was still enjoying a hot kiss tentatively one second before, and the next second when she was found by her daughters and went straight to pack up and leave, I could understand her completely. I even thought that as early as when we had dinner together, When enjoying the magnificent western scenery on the plane, she had already previewed this scene countless times in her heart. But I didn’t expect that the old pilot would hold her face and say It’s OK to be happy. If this is a young man’s chick movie, the young male protagonist should be sad or angry. Is it because of a different life experience, the old man glanced at it. Just see the crux of the problem.
Fear of happiness is not only the exclusive match for the literary and old age. Vivian, who seems to be savvy and capable, leads a celibate life after breaking up, drinking and eating meat from a big bowl (yes, meat). She was the first to introduce fifty shades of gray to the old sister, but After reuniting with the former lover, he didn't dare to take a step beyond the thunder pond. She kept an observation deck on the rooftop of her hotel. Every day, she could see the places that two people liked the most, but after the other party confessed on the rooftop, she flinched. The queen has a way to have fun, but when the real happiness that can satisfy her is in front of her, she dare not accept it. Your Honor deactivated the dating site account after making an appointment with two people. Among the four people, the only one who faces up to his own needs and perseveres in pursuing the simplest happiness is Carol. After all, he is also a sex person. People who deal with food every day know how to listen to the call of nature, and also in the way of sex Never wrong yourself.
The whole film uses a small yellow book as a wedge, and it is actually just the phrase "don't be afraid". Don’t be afraid of getting older, because there is no law that the elderly can only be dying; don’t be afraid of dating and falling in love, the big deal is to break up again, it’s not undivided; don’t be afraid of happiness, how long can you enjoy it anyway? It's OK to be happy, at any age.
Sometimes I feel that I am really old, but look at these seventy or eighty-year-olds who are still active on the screen and tirelessly teach people who are dozens of years younger than themselves to enjoy life. Look at the silver silk and clean themselves. The decent and decent old ladies who met the old sisters in the theater again felt that they were not old, but weak. I don’t know how old it is to believe It’s OK to be happy.
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