Until graduation, people who say I am fat told me that they can't make jokes because people who are really fat, and because I'm not fat, they can make a joke with me.
Later, there was a popular joke. Our class has a simple and cute classmate A who does not like to study. Before the end of each class, when he asks us what the final homework is, we will enthusiastically tell him that there is no homework. Or XXX during homework, in short, no one will tell him the truth. When the person next to him heard someone say this, he immediately told him the same "lie".
And Friend A almost missed a day of class because of our joke, because we lied to his teacher to take a vacation the next day.
My friend B once dated a boyfriend C, and B gradually alienated us from each other. Sometimes he would call me to complain. She said that C often didn't take the initiative to contact him for a few days. Sometimes, she couldn't call him. After thinking about it for a long time, C answered the phone and told her that he was playing a game and would come back later. B and C often quarrel about this matter. C always said that if other people's boyfriends would not answer the phone at all while playing games, it would be good for him to answer the phone. And after being together for so long, two people can't talk to WeChat and phone every day like before, no boyfriend can do it. B gave an example of a couple who stayed with her for a long time and contacted every day. C also said that she could not fully understand the situation of others, not to mention that she really loved her and treated her very well. B thinks about how good C is, and feels that he is a little bit tricky. Every quarrel ends with B’s "I'm sorry".
In the end, they broke up because of endless quarrels. When B told me her story, she was still asking me if she did a lot of wrong.
It seems that everyone who is serious, upright, easy-going and trusting others has a gas lamp over his head, and many lamplighters are unaware of their actions. And I think these behaviors disguised as "jokes" are more terrifying than the long-planned crimes of the male protagonist. Because of the latter, there are always good sober people around who can help the heroine get out of the predicament and tell the heroine the truth; while the people around the former will join it unconsciously. And these psychological cues may bring many negative effects to the "victims." The reason why they become victims of the "gaslight effect" is that it is easier for them to use others' evaluations of themselves to evaluate themselves. With constant hints, they will be more suspicious of their own perceptions, and thus believe in other people's views more. .
These "offenders" are often people who are more intimate with the "victim". They will first gain the trust of the "victim", make the victim believe in their love, and establish authority. After that, it began to twist right and wrong, separating everything from right to wrong, and pushing the wrong to the "victim", and finally leaving the "victim" irrelevantly.
Fortunately, with the help of a detective, the heroine finally walked out of the shadow of the heroine.
But in life, we can't hold the idea that we need a good person to save, because it is very likely that you will jump from one pit into another. What we can do is to give ourselves some time to tell ourselves what kind of person we are, instead of trusting the judgment of others around us.
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