As a psychology lover, "Under the Gas Lamp" is a movie not to be missed. As a woman, George Cook's "Little Women", "Gone with the Wind", "La Traviata" and "Fair Lady" have detailed and profound female images and psychology in each of the films. This "Under the Gas Lamp" allowed Ingrid Bergman to win the first Oscar statuette in her life.
Even if you watch this 1944 film today, it still brings different feelings to people. The gaslight effect has also become a pronoun, referring to the process by which one person manipulates and brainwashes another person through verbal and mental abuse. Because this film has a lot of psychological hints and some psychological knowledge, many people mistakenly believe that it is Hitchcock's work, but it is actually directed by George Cook.
The film very intuitively shows us how a beautiful girl who was originally normal-minded and able to think independently, under the control of her demon husband holding a psychology bible, lost her self step by step, lost her self-esteem, lost her emotional control, and finally The story of almost collapsed madness. (Simply put, it is how a normal person can be driven crazy by a planned and premeditated person.)
Paula is an orphan. She has no parents since she was a child and was raised by her aunt. Aunt is a well-known opera actor, she has a good life, and treats Paula like her own life. But her aunt was murdered accidentally, the murderer absconded, and the police did not solve the case. Paula was sent to Italy, an old friend of her aunt, to learn singing skills from the famous musician Guadi, who was willing to train her into an outstanding opera actor.
However, Paula is in love. She fell in love with Anton, a handsome, considerate, and talented pianist.
She was absent-minded and unable to engage in singing. When she was discovered by Teacher Guadi, she told the teacher that she was in love and she was too happy, so she could not appreciate the feeling of tragedy in the opera. Teacher Guadi said: The real tragedy has already affected your life.
Teacher Guadi encouraged her to enjoy the sweetness of love and look forward. Faced with Anton’s passionate pursuit and marriage proposal, they had only met for less than 20 days. Paula hesitated. She proposed to travel alone, so she had to think about it. But where does Anton give her a chance to meditate? Wherever she went, Anton followed, and she was romantic, warm, and considerate. His gentle offensive dispelled all Paula’s doubts. He has a warm and sweet home, a husband who loves herself and loves herself. For the orphan Paula, a stable, affectionate and lasting intimacy is her. I have always wanted but couldn't.
So she and her husband returned to London, the old aunt's house that once left her painful memories. But since she moved into this house, everything has changed.
Her jewellery and brooches were clearly put away, but they were always missing. But in the end, it was found elsewhere. The husband said that her memory had deteriorated. After her husband left home, Paula would always hear strange noises on the roof, like someone walking above. The gas light also started to flicker, and she was very scared. But her husband told her that it was Paula who was suspicious of giving birth to ghosts, her hallucinations, and that she was sick. The husband also hinted to the servant that there was something wrong with the lady's brain.
Anton will give Paula some things and ask her to keep them away, but he secretly hides these things, and then sternly asks, where did Paula hide the things? Why are you so confused that you can't even do this little thing? !
Anton reprimanded Paula like a child, not allowing her to go out, contact with strangers, rest assured, and don't be ashamed of going out. At the same time, hiring chefs with ears and frivolous, coquettish maids, often keep Paul from coming to the stage in front of the servants. Paula felt that her memory was getting worse and worse, she couldn't do everything well, and even the servants were mocking herself.
But her husband’s accusations, reprimands, and indifference made Paula afraid of losing her husband’s love. She was both worried and painful. On several occasions, Paula had almost instinctively approached the truth, but Anton severely criticized her. Obeyed obediently. Sometimes Anton would be extra considerate to her. This kind of cold and hot, unpredictable attitude made Paula think that it was all her fault and that there was a problem with her brain.
It turned out that all of this was an Anton's conspiracy, because he was focusing on the property that Aunt Paula left to Paula, as well as those precious rubies. That's why he approached Paula step by step, tortured her, and almost drove her crazy.
Now in such an open environment, it is not easy for an adult to control and mentally abuse another person. But there are still many people who are enduring the cold violence of their spouse. Many couples are constantly being the best critics of their spouse. The resentment and pressure of life are invisible to the spouse. Numerous family tragedies originate from Here.
But today, I am not talking about adults. Adults have their own independent thinking and the ability to fight back. What I am more worried about is the underage children who are under the effect of the gas lamp.
How many children have spent their entire lives under the gaslight of their parents.
Because the parent-child relationship is unequal, extremely unequal.
The mother can control the small world in which the child lives, and she can decide whether the child’s living environment is comfortable or chaotic.
Mother is the one who can help you discover your authenticity, the one who helps you build your own values and stability, and the one who can help you learn to manage your emotions.
It is a pity that when raising children, too many mothers have never received sufficient maternal love and formed a perfect personality in their own growth experience, so when facing their children, an immature mother is often the most likely The person who destroys the child’s authenticity and sense of worth.
Gas lamps are emotional and verbal abuse. Adults should manage their emotions well, but parents tend to lose temper with children suddenly, and we tend not to lose temper with strangers, bosses, and colleagues. Because our children have no ability to resist.
To put it bluntly, many times, we treat children without being polite to strangers.
If you don't agree with this, you might as well remember your childhood.
Do you think you have lived for your parents for the first half of your life?
Whether you deviate from your parents' unintentional education methods, judge and recognize you, make you feel ashamed of yourself, you suppress your true personality, live intensely, and attack yourself inwardly.
You seem to have a perfect life, but deep down in your heart, you are still eager for perfection. You always feel that it is an unattainable state?
You have been working hard to achieve the expectations and requirements of your parents, to complete each goal, even if you know that you are torturing yourself, but still never stop?
The loyalty of children to their mothers is often shocking.
In the recent news, the little girl who committed suicide at the age of ten said in her suicide note:
When you read this letter, I may be dead, because I did not study well, and I died not because of my parents, nor the teacher, but because of myself...
I'm gone, you don't have to beat and scold me every day. Although my parents beat and scold me, I know they are all for my good.
The teacher refused to let me take the exam, and there is no point in my life in the world.
Whenever I see such social news, I can't help but feel sad and angry.
What kind of beating and scolding, what kind of environment allows a ten-year-old child to give up the courage to live? ! ! !
Everything she did was to satisfy her parents.
But she did not have the ability to resist, she lived in such a self-hatred every day, she strang herself on behalf of her mother.
She agrees with what her mother said, she is not a child who makes parents worry and satisfaction.
So, she killed herself.
Why do we demean our children everywhere? ? ! !
Just because his (her) score is not ideal? Just because of bad reviews from others? Just because we ourselves can’t resist the pressure of this world? Because of our incompetence, we pass it on to our children?
The original intention of every parent was to hope that their children would be healthy and self-reliant.
But even in the process of nurturing, due to various pressures from the outside world, we are also running farther and farther on the wrong path.
We suppressed him, yelled at him, threatened him, denied him,
Children do not experience the love and happiness their parents give, only endless depression.
But the child loves his parents and is loyal to his parents.
In order to gain the love and attention of their parents, they do not hesitate to distort their lives, contribute their lives, and live themselves like sacrifices.
A child who has not been loved by his parents is so self-hatred, self-aggressive, and self-tortured.
They don't know who they are or what they want.
They live in conflicts and contradictions, and because they want to be recognized and loved by others, they are often more likely to be used and hurt by others.
If there is pure love in this world, I think it is the love of children to their parents.
However, we often pay more attention to the opinions and evaluations of others, but we only fail to see our children.
Our inadvertent words, actions, evaluations, and accusations, day after day, have caused so much harm to our children.
I am not accusing all parents. We are also human beings. We have also lived in the mud. Our childhood may not have been fully loved.
But now that we have children, we might as well take a good look at them, take a look at their strengths, and see what their unique features are, and then ask ourselves: Do you believe in your own children, or do you believe in external evaluations?
You might as well give yourself some time to clear up your mood and face your child in the most peaceful state of mind.
Let him feel your peace, warmth and love.
Don't let your children live "under the gas lamp."
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