Does not apologize will kill you?

Kaci 2022-01-17 08:01:55

I recently watched an unreleased American film called "Aftermath", which translated into Chinese is called "Falk" or "Aftermath".

The movie is about the PTSD caused by an air crash to the family of the deceased. Because this PTSD was not handled well, it led to another murder.

PTSD is also called post-traumatic stress disorder. People who study psychology or understand psychology know that PTSD is not discussed here. What I want to discuss is the response measures of relevant departments and staff after the family members of the victims of the air crash suffer PTSD.

The male protagonist is distraught after the plane crash of his wife and children, and his inner anger cannot be vented. He wants to find the relevant department and the relevant person in charge and ask for a "sorry".

The airline's lawyers threw the compensation agreement to the host, telling him that it was a large amount of compensation, and signing it would give him peace of mind for the rest of his life. If he doesn't sign it, he won't get half of the money. When the male protagonist listened to the lawyers' endless analysis of the pros and cons, he tried to express his opinions several times, but was interrupted by the lawyers. In the end, the male protagonist couldn't bear it and started filming the case. He grabbed the photos of his wife and children and forced them to get to the lawyers. In front of him, they asked them to look at their wives and children and asked someone to say "I'm sorry".

The lawyers looked at each other blankly.

No one apologized.

The male lead slammed the door and left.

At the same time, the staff of the airport operation tower who was directly responsible for the air crash also suffered. Due to his momentary negligence, which led to the plane collision incident, he himself could not bear the deaths of so many people. He was also there. Blame, guilt, fear, and pain for the air disaster. At the same time, public opinion from outside is also accusing him, even his house is covered with words such as "killer" and "murder".

He is also a victim of PTSD, and it is useless to see a psychologist regularly.

The airline suggested that he change his name, city, job, family, and start again.

He changed his name, city and job, and started again, but he did not feel better. When his wife and son came to see him on weekends, he said: "Every day before going to bed, I think that the next day will be better, but the next day It seems to be worse after waking up!"

A year later, the male protagonist found the staff who operated the tower through reporters. The moment the door was opened, the male lead stared closely at the staff's eyes and asked him to look at the wife and children in the photo and say "I'm sorry". The staff member thought that he was not a bad person, did nothing wrong, and refused to apologize. The angry male protagonist pulled out the hidden knife and stabbed the staff member. This scene was witnessed by the staff’s wife and children and caused another PTSD.

Ten years later, the male protagonist came out of prison serving his sentence and was followed by the staff’s son. When the son angrily pointed the gun at the male protagonist and wanted to avenge his father, the male protagonist said: "I'm sorry, I know I did something wrong. Now!" At that moment, the son burst into tears and fell limp on the ground.

All the anger for so many years requires a sentence of "sorry". This "sorry" prevented the tragedy from developing further.

Looking back at real life, how many people are willing to apologize and say "sorry" for hurting others?

I had a conflict with a friend recently. I didn't plan to delete his WeChat, but the last words he sent to me made me angry. In addition to "do it yourself", "I hope you can let go of my harm to you". Please, you hurt me. It’s fine if you don’t apologize. You still hope for me from a high position. Excuse me, why are you? There is a lyric that says "You hurt me and you laughed off", which is about this type of person.

Such people don't know how to apologize, because they want to save face, pay too much attention to and maintain their beautiful image. Once apologized, it seemed to prove that they were bad, weak, and incompetent. They could not accept their badness and weakness, so they would not apologize.

This kind of people are actually fragile people. Because they are too fragile inside, they have to pretend to be strong. To pretend to be strong, they must work hard to save face and maintain a good image, and not let others see their fragility.

Therefore, this type of person is also very tired, just like the operating tower staff in the movie, who do not admit their mistakes or apologize for death, so he really died.

Does not apologize really cause death? Yes, really.

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Extended Reading

Aftermath quotes

  • Roman: Maybe I should spend less time at the cemetery. The only thing is that Nadiya and Olena are there. They can't leave. So I go there and visit them, because... they can't go anywhere. They can't...

  • Jake: You know, when I was a kid I had this little stuffed bear. His name was Ishmael.

    Christina: Ishmael?

    Jake: Yeah.

    Christina: That's a weird name for a bear.

    Jake: And when we took trips I always had to take him with me or I wouldn't be able to sleep. This went on 'til much, much later.

    Christina: How much later? 'Til you were 24? 'Til you met me?

    Jake: I don't know.

    Christina: You always say that you can't sleep without me.

    Jake: Yeah, that's true.

    Christina: I just don't know what to think.

    Jake: What?

    Christina: Is that all I am to you? Some lousy substitute for Ishmael?

    Jake: Hey, being Ishmael's substitute is a big honor. I'd do anything for Ishmael.

    Christina: Did you have sex with Ishmael?

    Christina: I'm late for work.

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