When accepting each other’s intimacy, we are always not ready

Dan 2022-01-17 08:01:57

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The gay writer Louise, who has been away from home for twelve years, decided to return to his hometown, ready to announce to his family that he is about to pass away. The plane landed before dawn. He drank coffee at the airport, watched the sunrise at the airport, and then took a taxi home. He wanted to minimize the obtrusive elements in this return, just like on every important day, he would send postcards to his home, which made him look like he was just going on vacation. But when he stepped into the house and saw a family member he hadn't met in more than ten years, the strangeness engulfed by his rigid body movements and embarrassing greetings made him understand that all preparations were futile. For his return, his family was even more at a loss than he did. This at a loss is a mixture of joy, embarrassment, doubt, condemnation, avoidance, and love. It's like two cliffs facing each other, between which lies the real desolation created by physical space and time that shields each other. They know each other's intimacy well, but now, this is a kind of intimacy that needs to be reconfirmed. Louis' time is running out. He needs to confirm this intimacy one by one within the limited time and tell them that his death is approaching. Of course, he may not have this kind of consciousness, and he may not need to confirm anything. This is just a personal feeling that arises when I watch a movie. In the movie, Louis has a separate conversation with each family member, and everyone feels different about Louis's return. The feeling of oppression produced by the squeeze space, the irritation created by endless quarrels, the awkwardness between the characters' desire to get close to each other but resisting deep, the anxiety pervades the whole "Just the End of the World" from beginning to end. Sister Susanne's memory of her elder brother is vague, he did not participate in her growth, and she did not understand him at all. But like every young man confined to a small town, Louis represents another world to her, a world completely different from the daily and boring family life in a small town that lacks drama. Therefore, she always pays attention to Louis, his published articles, and looks forward to every postcard he sends home, exploring the space full of imagination through just a few words. Thinking that one day, she will also leave and go to the wider world. As for why Louis came back? She believes what he said may be just a nostalgic trip, a short return to find inspiration for writing. The brother's wife, Catherine, was a bystander. Before Louis stepped into the house, she barely knew him, and her husband Antoine avoided mentioning him. Louis is like a guest to her. She does not intend to know him, and at the same time, like her husband, believes that he is not interested in his own life. She won't think about why Louis came back , And refused to act as an emotional medium between brothers, which is not what her role should do. Brother Antoine is the ignitor of anxious atmosphere. He always interrupts other people's conversations harshly and makes some untimely vulgar metaphors. The return of Louis makes him a manic beast. He always maintains a rattling posture. , Refused to enter Louis into his heart. Behind his strong self-protection, there is actually a deep inferiority and loneliness. He who is eager for adventure, like his sister Susanne, wants to escape the boring small town life. But for whatever reason, he failed to leave like Louis. Because I didn't leave, I simply rejected everything outside, because they would only make myself more confused and prove my failure in life. He didn't want to know why Louis was coming back. He used a self-defense posture to resist Louis' confirmation of intimacy. As for the mother, she knows everyone's inner thoughts. She knows that Susanie wants to leave. She also understands Antoine's low self-esteem. She even had a foreboding that Louis might never come back after leaving this time. She can make the best desserts in the world, but she can't change anything in front of her. She can only ask Louis to treat his brothers and sisters well, talk to them more, and let them feel that they are needed. Louis had a one-on-one conversation with everyone, but these conversations ultimately led to no solution. In the movie, every character says that I don't know you, but they are afraid to go deep into the other's life; every character longs for intimacy, but can't afford this kind of intimacy. Therefore, after the mother said "I don't know you, but I love you", she should add the sentence "Write this sentence down and write it into one of your dramas" to relieve the burden of intimacy. "Next time we come back, we will be better prepared." When accepting each other's intimacy, we are always not ready. Come to resist Louis' confirmation of intimacy. As for the mother, she knows everyone's inner thoughts. She knows that Susanie wants to leave. She also understands Antoine's low self-esteem. She even had a foreboding that Louis might never come back after leaving this time. She can make the best desserts in the world, but she can't change anything in front of her. She can only ask Louis to treat his brothers and sisters well, talk to them more, and let them feel that they are needed. Louis had a one-on-one conversation with everyone, but these conversations ultimately led to no solution. In the movie, every character says that I don't know you, but they are afraid to go deep into the other's life; every character longs for intimacy, but can't afford this kind of intimacy. Therefore, after the mother said "I don't know you, but I love you", she should add the sentence "Write this sentence down and write it into one of your dramas" to relieve the burden of intimacy. "Next time we come back, we will be better prepared." When accepting each other's intimacy, we are always not ready. Come to resist Louis' confirmation of intimacy. As for the mother, she knows everyone's inner thoughts. She knows that Susanie wants to leave. She also understands Antoine's low self-esteem. She even had a foreboding that Louis might never come back after leaving this time. She can make the best desserts in the world, but she can't change anything in front of her. She can only ask Louis to treat his brothers and sisters well, talk to them more, and let them feel that they are needed. Louis had a one-on-one conversation with everyone, but these conversations ultimately led to no solution. In the movie, every character says that I don't know you, but they are afraid to go deep into the other's life; every character longs for intimacy, but can't afford this kind of intimacy. Therefore, after the mother said "I don't know you, but I love you", she should add the sentence "Write this sentence down and write it into one of your dramas" to relieve the burden of intimacy. "Next time we come back, we will be better prepared." When accepting each other's intimacy, we are always not ready.

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It's Only the End of the World quotes

  • La mère: We'll be better prepared next time...

  • Suzanne: Drop it, mom. Jeez!

    La mère: Our aerobics song. I'm obsessed, it's a real find.

    Suzanne: Everybody found it, mom.

    La mère: Translation said it's about Picasso being in love, or Picasso... anyway it wasn't clear.

    [they both start dancing to O-Zone - Dragostea Din Tei]