The feeling comes from two issues.
The first one is: Will you let your children try the "unfortunate" you have experienced yourself?
I think the answer of most people may be negative.
Just like my wife, she is a doctor. Because the current medical environment is not good, not only does her hard work fail to earn an enviable income, but she also often fails to gain the understanding and respect of patients. Therefore, when she is tired, she will have a classic saying to my daughter, that is: "You grow up, you will kill me, and you will not be allowed to study medicine." I
don't want my child to suffer the same sin as myself.
This is easy to understand.
But Bailey's father was not like that.
Bailey's father was also a professional football player and also joined a professional team to participate in major competitions. But the unnamed people retired early due to injuries and did not even have insurance. In the end, they had to go back to the slums of their hometowns and make a living by cleaning the toilets.
Therefore, Bailey's mother is not willing to let her children play football, repeating the mistakes of his father. However, when Bailey's father discovered that his son really loves football, he not only did not object, but privately encouraged him to practice on his own. In the end, Bailey's mother was finally moved, not only agreed but also assisted Bailey to pursue his ideals.
There is a touching section in the film.
Bailey left his hometown and entered the national team, but he was not used to European training. He was ridiculed by his teammates and criticized by the coach. In a training session, because of the use of "Jingjia", he suffered a knee injury and was almost unable to participate in the World Cup. At this time, Bailey collapsed, he regretted not continuing his studies, and then found a job to support his family. But Bailey’s mother said to him on the phone: "We made this decision together, and it was correct! No matter what happens, your father and I will always love you."
Unlike some parents in our lives, Faced with the failure of the child's persistence, he would only say "Who told you not to listen to me before".
The second is: If your child is laughed at by others, how will you cope with him?
I think most people may be angry, but at a loss.
Because verbal violence does not have a definite injury like physical violence. Most of the time, the child has obviously felt the humiliation, but the parent hasn't felt it yet or feels it but ignores it.
Bailey did the same when he was a kid.
Bailey was not actually called "Pele". His full name was Edson Alantes do Nascimento. "Pele" was just an insulting nickname given to him when he was a child.
Bailey used to fight with others because of this. When his father found out, he told him this: "When I was your age, I often fought with others, especially when those older kids gave me nicknames. But as I grew up, I Realize that a good player must be clear that only anxiety can give you fighting spirit.... If you want to become a professional player, you must accept the truest self."
Later, Pele was selected to the national team. Before leaving, Bailey's father gave him a dress with the word "Bailey" on it. Bailey felt incredible, because "Pele" was a nickname given to him by those wealthy children who laughed at him. However, Bailey’s father said, “No, this is the name people cheer and shout when they see you playing football and when I find you have the potential that I don’t have.... So, you must Be stronger than me! You must not feel humiliated when someone speaks harshly to you and your performance, you must stay strong in your heart, my child. "
Say so good!"
People live in the world, whoever is not said by others, who is not said by others.
Only if you have a strong heart, you will not be influenced by others. When the whole world knows that "Pele" is the king of the ball, who would think that "Pele" is not a kind of glory but a kind of humiliation?
Therefore, life is your own, and the choice is yours. Even if anyone says you can’t do it, you should believe in yourself and work hard! come on!
I think this is not only what we should tell our children, but also what we should do ourselves.
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