One is a young woman , and the other is a
woman who is no longer young . A woman who is no longer
young
is going to age,
and the other is
going to eternity."
[Introduction]
Once I hate the woman who goes to the plastic surgery hospital very much.
Including the ubiquitous plastic surgery advertisements in the elevator, always impatiently burying the sentence "the world has become too superficial." It's strange that the ad copy is often written to a very high standard.
It seems that those particularly talented people are also crawling under the feet of money in this way, without "principle" at all.
In addition, they will always disdain those female friends who like to use expensive skin care products: What, do you have to pay for those fears? For women with inner strength, even if they don’t have beauty, it’s enough to have a romantic and adventurous soul, right?
And aging will come sooner or later, no matter how to resist, in the face of the torrent of time, human strength is not enough. Any attempt to retain the indicated youth is but a delusion.
One year, when I was working, I happened to interview a female artist in Berlin. She shot a group of works all featuring older women over forty years old, called "woman in heat", in the picture Every one of the women is required not to make up, and must not be cosmetically or deliberately dressed up. All the models that should be recruited are ordinary people, and their looks are by no means outstanding. Among them, there are several elderly women in their 70s or 80s, but they are free, wild, and unruly in the camera, and they are very beautiful. An inexplicable residual beauty and passion are conflictingly mixed with stains, sagging skin, and blessed flesh. According to the artist, she took photos of everyone for a long time to ensure that the model did not pretend to pose "a certain beautiful pose expected by society."
In short, when I saw this group of works at that time, I exclaimed that I saw an excellent example of "being yourself" for women, because this group of works did not promote "youth", "thin", and "beautiful" like the fashion industry. "So that year, I have been desperately recommending this artist to many partners, hoping to hold an exhibition for her in China. There is a secret goal in my heart to let Chinese women not follow the trend so blindly, and be brave to be themselves.
However, in the end, each opponent left a similar reaction.
"Wow, I have to say, this work is really great, but..." Basically, at this point, the other person's eyes drifted away, and then he turned to the topic of what to eat for dinner tonight.
I think they are still scared by these "women who are no longer young", whether they are men or women.
[Women Forty]
However, compared with asking a man to face the aging of a woman, is it more terrifying for a woman to face her own aging?
What kind of proposition is this?
In 2014, I encountered a movie called "Clouds of Sils Maria" (Clouds of Sils Maria), which has a sophisticated structure, which is indistinguishable from the real and the real. Compared with "Women Are Hot", it does not boldly and provocatively show people what people dare not look at directly from the front, but from the calm and dark side to show the story of how a woman faces her own aging.
In the film, Juliet Binoche played the aging international actress Maria. When she was 17 years old, she became famous for her role as "Sigley". She played the role of Sig. Li's youthful, attractive and moody girl plays a rival role with an older actress. The older woman is called Helena in the play. She is a successful middle-class person who owns her own business, but unfortunately falls madly in love. Sigri, who came to her company as an intern, after a series of seductions and juggling, until finally abandoning Helena ruthlessly, Helena ended her life in despair. After twenty years, the new director came again and invited Maria to re-act the play called "Maloya Snake", but this time she was no longer playing the young and beautiful Sigley, but that The humble poor old woman Helena.
Maria was obviously reluctant, and after repeated hesitation, she still accepted the offer. Before the filming started, I spoke to my young assistant Valentina (Christine Stir) every day, facing each other. I became increasingly confused between drama and reality, and my emotions grew out of control. When people climbed together to see "Cloud Snake", Valentina left with anger and never came back—as if it once again corresponded to the scene where Sigley abandoned Helena in the drama twenty years ago. . At the end of the play, Maria is left alone, on stage alone, and a new-generation actress Joanna (played by Chloe Moretz) who is careless, self-deprecating, and cynical, is competing head-on with the new generation of "Sigri".
[Women out of time]
Many people are amazed by the "play in play" of this movie, the intricate setting of the dual structure, indeed, like a snake biting its own tail, it is like an eternal reincarnation, an eternal circle , Women and women, constantly repeat their different but the same fate. The film is cold and calmly showing: every Sigli will one day become Helena.
Twenty years later, Maria, who is getting older and no longer popular, has to face the cruel facts-not only her never returning youth, but also she is no longer a "Sigley" "fact. For every woman, all women hope that they will always be "Sigli", always attracting the attention of everyone, and enjoying the admiration of all living beings, but the wheel of time does not stop for this, Sigli Will be replaced, replaced, Sigli is a position, and only a young physical body can sit on it. When Sigli grew her first white hair, her name was no longer Sigli, but Helena.
And Helena, who seems to be such a poor character in the film, is almost invisible, and is in a completely forgotten position: the actress who played Helena died in a car accident in the second year after filming, and no one paid attention to it. Her departure; the director said to Maria: It is precisely because of Helena’s mediocre acting skills that set off Sigli’s stunning modern interpretation; and when Maria was rehearsing, When making acting suggestions for the new version of Sigley, Joanna relentlessly and jokingly rejected Maria.
How did Maria break through? Just like in psychoanalysis, if we encounter a reality that is completely unacceptable to ourselves, what are our countermeasures? Is it to be pulled down into the abyss by my own fear, perish and destroyed, or to continue to walk out, accept the unhappy status quo, and admit that this is the reality?
Every Sigli will eventually become Helena. But Helena, can it be another Helena?
At the end of the film, Juliet Binoche offers you another look of Helena.
Here, Helena no longer feels ashamed that she is not the "center of the universe". She wants to have a love with Sigli, a vigorous one. If one day the sad Sigli leaves, she too She seemed to be prepared enough that she would not die again.
In fact, on this point, the end of the film is a little hasty. After all, a woman full of anxiety and fear of aging, facing her once "irreplaceable" dazzling position, is still being replaced by merciless ones. In the short course of our minds, we will be immersed in our own degeneration for a long time. Is it destruction or rebirth? This seemingly simple way out of our own choice often takes a lot of time in real life, a kind of self-giving up and self-denying power that pulls oneself down, and a way to pull oneself up and bring The power to walk out of the quagmire and embrace the new life will always be in the process of pulling and wrestling with each other until one party wins.
In the film, it’s just that Maria’s assistant finally couldn’t stand Maria’s high level of self-attention, and left such an event angrily, and at the end of the film a director who looked like a dick otaku came over to ask Maria to play the role. The philosophical narration of a transgender character in a "science fiction film" implies that Maria has stepped out of the fear that "she will be replaced" that everyone will panic and become a "transcendence". "Out of Time" woman.
"She is not old, and it can be said that she is at any age, just like all of us. My movies are not modern, in short, it is not the modernization of her (Joanna), she is beyond time." The director is right. When Maria explained that this is not a Hollywood movie, she said that she did not like the current era (viral Internet life and entertainment illusions), as the panic of the wrong era made him want to shoot such a movie. (It may become a masterpiece of movie history) A thought film packaged under the skin of science fiction. And Maria is an excellent candidate, her beauty is beyond time.
Beauty beyond time. At this point, you will find out why the role of Maria is not Juliet Binoche. Behind the scenes, she put on a black suit symbolizing Helena, with short neutral hair, handsome and elegant waiting for the show to begin. You will unexpectedly find that the powerful forces of men and women are gathered in her body at the same time. It is a woman who transcends time, whether it is Maria, Helena, or Juliet Binoche.
And the "cloud", the mist that was blown from the Italian lake, came to the Maloja Pass, and became an unpredictable "cloud snake", wandering freely among the mountains, without any mountains that could stop it. In the face of all the obstacles in the world, the cloud never expects to destroy the mountain peak, the cloud will wind around from the mountain, calm and calm.
[A woman is like a cloud]
And that cloud is also outside of time.
In the film, the black-and-white film "Cloud of Maloja", filmed in 1924, was played in tribute. This short silent film of only 10 minutes has no plot, but only shows the "protagonist"-the cloud. According to the mouth of William, the screenwriter and mentor of Maria who has never appeared in the film: The true essence of the landscape is revealed in these pictures. This kind of beauty is so powerful that one feels the insignificance of the flesh. When we stand on the top of the mountain and watch the clouds of Maloja rolling enthusiastically, at that moment, you will find an existence larger than yourself. We appreciate these never-the-same clouds, just as we realize that there are some women in life who can go to eternity when they are alive. When they break away from their narrowness and cast their eyes on a wider distance, they will know every kind of life. All are precious, including its rebirth, its maturity, its aging, its death.
After a long time, until I got married and had children, until my lover said that you also have crow's feet around your eyes, and until a 98-year-old grandmother lost the ability to eat, her whole body shrank like a piece of dead wood and finally passed away in a terrifying posture... I gradually understood that, The discomfort that everyone concealed but still revealed when they watched the portraits of aging women in "Women Are Hot" is an unavoidable fear for everyone. This fear, as in Sils Maria, is forgiven by herself at the moment, just as Maria finally stood in the position of Helena and understood the tremor after twenty years. What is the fear of a tall woman. When you are young and vigorous enough, you can't stand outside of time, because you always feel like you have the courage that you can never squander, and that courage is endless youth capital.
When I rushed home to see my grandmother for the last time, I was completely shocked by the sight in front of me. I never thought that life would be so unbearable one day. Life decayed to the end, it was a living bone. At that moment The horror was beyond words. The mother conveyed a surreal statement from the doctor: The synthesis of protein has ceased.
No matter how deeply we love, let us hold on tighter, the body has decided to stop here, the clock of life stops.
At that time, I just experienced the time when the body function was greatly weakened after giving birth. With a tired and sad look, watching the appearance of a daughter sleeping on the bed with the color of rose petals, sadness and joy are inseparable, grandma's life is gone, new Her life was born again, and another woman began to age again. A woman's life seemed to pass on like a river, and every time it flowed, it was not herself, but herself.
At that moment, I suddenly realized how self-willed it is to ask everyone to face their own "aging" without fear when they are young. The other party must accept the notion that "you can still be beautiful when you are old", just like when you were young. "Sigli" will always believe that she will always be the winner of life, and that she will never become a poor and decaying Helena, what a wishful thinking. Women will eventually have more propositions than men. When the flower-like beauty is also going to decline, all the decay in life will inevitably appear. How will you deal with it?
Fear is an indispensable bridge, it will build up your past and future, and it will determine who you will become.
[Living in the relationship of beauty]
We can still pursue beauty. Beauty is indeed not superficial. Beauty is profound. It needs to be deeply walked in before it can be obtained. The inevitable aging, fading, and death over time will always be inevitable. In the face of decline, we will still tremble, and we may be frightened and staggered with fear, but it does not matter, fear is inevitable. Inevitable. But this cannot prevent us from being able to live in a beautiful relationship forever. We will be afraid, and we will let go until we are calm and see something other than decay, such as beauty. True beauty, it is not a noun, nor an adjective, it is a verb.
It will change forever, produce, disappear, and be born again. The world does not give beauty as a gift to everyone, but it hides the relationship of beauty in thousands of things.
We may not be a beauty, but we can always live in beauty.
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