In fact, all the letters were sent by Leeds at a small local post office in the name of Frankie's father. With these letters, she mended the little white lie, and at the same time peered into Frankie's heart, for fear that he would make a difference in the growth of a family without a father and lack of masculinity.
Frankie wrote in the letter what he had done recently, what friends he had made, when was the last time he felt upset, and so on. Leeds randomly fabricated the name of the ship he saw on the stamp, and unexpectedly one day, the ship actually sailed to the Port of Scotland. Frankie began to expect that the father who intimately called himself "Dear Frankie" in the letter, the brave, tall and knowledgeable father, would come to see him?
Liz encountered a problem. Under multiple considerations, in order not to make Frankie sad and to make him more involved in this lie, she decided to hire a man to play the "father of a day."
This story is very similar to the one we read and understood when we were young: a girl was very inferior. Later, she suddenly began to receive anonymous lilies. Every year, her birthday was never late. Her mother joined her in her fantasy, and they all speculated that it might have been sent by a shy boy who had a crush on her. Year after year, these words accompany the girl through the ups and downs of adolescence and realize her self-identity. She no longer feels low self-esteem and begins to face life with sunshine. Later, she became an adult, fell in love, got married, and had children. Those lilies that once occupied the largest part of life slowly retreated to the second line. She was a little forgotten, but more accustomed to it. She never knew who sent the flowers until the year when her mother died, she did not receive the lilies. Since then, she has never received lilies again.
The difference is that the girl in that story is accompanied by her father, but Frankie does not. And another bigger difference is that Frankie knew from the beginning that the letter was written by his mother. But he didn't dismantle it, but instead used his mother's way to let her know what he thought and told her that I was fine.
The domestic violence in the film is just a few sentences. We can't speculate whether Frankie remembered it, but Frankie was hurt by this for sure. From the perspective of psychoanalysis, even if there is "childhood amnesia" that cannot recall the memory of the exact event, the bad effect it leaves must be significant. Domestic violence caused his father to be absent, and the "gift" left by domestic violence prevented him from hearing the voice of the world and was honed to become a master of lip language. Although he has always been a "master behind the scenes" and understands the operation and direction of all these things, he still didn't control and joined the scene. He created space for "dad" and mother, he secretly hid "dad" for himself a stone suitable for dipping, and he was emotionally out of control when his friends stimulated him "I bet your dad won't come to see you" Stroking the cruise ship tiles on the wall.
After all, he is just a child. Perhaps domestic violence made him sensible too early and learned the bitterness of adults too early, so he became good at observing words and emotions and hiding emotions, but there will always be times when he can't hold on. His emotional needs are sometimes ignored by this mother who cares too much about not hurting him and doesn't know how to love him in reality. Because of this heavy burden and "lie", this mother was neurotic. Once Frankie got close to the truth of the matter (she didn't know Frankie's hole), she started to cover it up in a hurry. When Frankie was instigated by his companions to look through his mother's closet to find evidence of "Will Dad come to see me", Liz walked in with a gloomy face, angered them, and showed no mercy to the little girl who came as a guest. If I were Frankie, I would be very sad. I am deaf, but it is not your fault; I do not have a father, it is not your fault; but if my mother wanders in the past for protection but refuses to participate in my present and future, it is your fault Up.
He didn't wear a hearing aid to prevent his mother from being guilty, and he had long been relieved of the fact that he could not hear, and he could laugh at the ridicule of his companions.
In the family, children often act as bonds and healers. They are observers of the family, and the more children who invest in this kind of observation, the more they care about the family. This is the case with Frankie. He tried to heal the wounds left to his mother in the past and her guilt, hoping to start a new life together.
Many times, we think that our children don’t know or understand, so many parents quarrel in front of their children. The children dissuade and comfort, but the parents wave aside and say "you don’t understand"; we think the children don’t know, so we cheat on some small things He, for example, tells him that there are monsters in the amusement park, and then avoids the child's desire to go to the amusement park, and he lies on the sofa and reads the newspaper. In fact, they knew that their parents had quarreled because of a certain aunt; there were no monsters in the amusement park, but the father didn't want to go with him.
The child's heart is so fragile, and so worthy of love.
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