In the process of watching the movie, I have been thinking about a problem. It is never explained in the movie how dad takes his daughter out of the shadow of losing her mother, how to make up for the lack of maternal love, but can make a young girl smile again. There is the self-confidence of independent women, the kindness of love, and the courage of determination and determination in that smile. I think this should be the film's understatement and the deep meaning melted into the story. From the moment a girl became a "mother goose", she might really understand the meaning of life for her. To take care of the new students, to take responsibility, to help the weak and to teach skills, these are the duties of a mother, but In the role-playing, she understood the meaning of love and found her mother's "figure".
Sometimes we are saying that an incomplete family will definitely bring the trauma and loss of the children's soul to some extent, so we should give a lot of love in other ways to make up for this lack. But often forget to let children really learn how to love, let them feel caring and giving, to a certain extent, let them have the ability of self-healing, have the opportunity of self-adjustment and self-remodeling. Adults often feel guilty and self-blame from the perspective of their elders, and their inner emotions are compassion rather than optimism. The attitude of giving love will also make children feel invisible, that is, "You are making up for me, not really understanding I". Therefore, I think the father in the film is a good father with high emotional intelligence, love and understanding.
The role of father is different from that of mother and cannot be replaced. He does not attempt to replace this role. Instead, he asks Amy to assume the identity of such a "mother goose", giving her the power to choose and love, and use wise methods to assist. She gave her confidence. After losing the mother, the child's mind may not fully mature overnight, but he must be eager for more understanding and care. What is different from the children of normal families is that they will suddenly think about the relationship between survival and death, will not be able to accept a lot of sudden excessive enthusiasm, will reverie the connection between themselves and the world, so they may not necessarily hope that the remaining relatives will be too much. Emphasizes her loss, but gives her time and space to liberate herself. Nature is such a magical classroom. It is full of magic to give her the "right to custody" of wild geese, which gives her the best chance of self-healing. According to logic, adults may object to her actions, and have various concerns and reasons to dissuade them, such as bacteria, inability to feed, and inability to teach them to fly. But the ingenious dad used those "disorderly" inventions to help her fulfill her wish, which is not the highest state of achieving her ideals. He is also telling Amy with his actions, "Everything I do is based on my love for you. I use my methods to support you as much as possible. I don’t need words to make you understand my heart. I am also living hard and working hard, and every time I help you is also realizing my dream. Seeing you drive the glider I made, I force myself to make it safer and more scientific, and I will use practical actions to practice it. Make the promise to your life.”
Many details made me cry, and I was touched with joy, that is, you will smile and experience the heavy care of father. He is as enthusiastic and full of energy as a child. You watch him trying to "please" Amy, but you feel confused by his stupidity. With such a father, it is not difficult to have a "Superman" daughter flying over the landscape alone. She is optimistic and strong, just like the parameters written in her genes, copied so just right, completing the challenges in her growth.
From the perspective of an educator, I see more of this new type of "learning of love" presented to us in the movie. It makes me think that when we are naive, there are more interrogative sentences in our heads instead of declarative sentences. Therefore, what we desire must be someone who tells me how to find the answer, not someone who tells me the answer. We are eager for opportunities for self-exploration and self-growth, just like an old Chinese saying: teaching them to fish is worse than teaching them to fish.
"Let us learn to love so that I can understand what I have lost and what I should cherish. Trust me, I will love myself, love the world, and love everyone who loves better."
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