My colleague is shrewd and capable. He usually likes to drive fast. He is the head of a department and is in charge of more than 30 employees. He is very skilled in management, and all his staff are obedient to him. I once said that he is a person with a strong desire for control, and this desire for control is also fully revealed when he interacts with women-one of his premises when talking about his girlfriend is whether he can control and control each other. If he finds that he is not in his own hands, he chooses to give up.
Many parents often take control in the process of nurturing their children. For example, control through love and control through matter. This kind of sentence is generally "If you are not obedient, I will not want you", or "If you want to be obedient, I will buy you what." If control by material is still a kind of negotiation, then control by love is a kind of harm to the child. This kind of harm often suppresses the child's personality and mentality, but the parents do not pay attention to it.
From quarrels between husbands and wives to wars between nations, most of the instigators are the people's desire to control. When things get out of control, games become fights and quarrels become wars.
The above ideas are derived from the movie "Footprints" that I watched last week. This movie is about a dialogue between an old man and a little man from beginning to end. The old man is a successful novelist, and the little man is a second-rate actor. The old man’s wife fell in love with the little man and wanted to divorce the old man, but the old man refused, and the little man came to convince the old man himself. So the good show took place. The contest between the two men started with a game of cat and mouse and ended with a bloody killing-the old man killed the little man a few seconds before the end of the movie.
Generally speaking, the novelist's desire for control is very strong, because he can decide the life and death of the characters in the novel. If this desire for control is brought to reality, it will be very scary. We can see that the old man does not love her wife at all. To him, she is just a gorgeous decoration and plaything, just as the old man decorates luxurious and cold villas, ubiquitous cameras, and well-arranged institutions. And all this depends on the small remote control in his hand. Therefore, when the little man rang the doorbell of his house, he began to step into the trap set by the old man.
The little man is a second-rate actor. The actor likes to play different roles, he likes to be new and challenge himself. The little man didn’t really love the old man’s wife. When the old man threw a bait—agreeing to steal the 1 million necklace, and then walked away alone, the little man agreed without hesitation. After the old man humiliated and played with the little man and got great psychological satisfaction, the little man began to take revenge. He disguised himself as a policeman, and the second time he visited, the old man was controlled by the little man. After two rounds, the two tied 1:1.
In the thrilling third round, the old man used the novelist's immense imagination, weaving a bright future for the little man, and the little man responded with wonderful acting skills. When the old man felt that the overall situation was in his grasp, the little man pierced everything and shattered the plot designed by the old man. At this time, the old man realized that the little man was no longer in control of him, so he drew his gun.
What this movie wants to say is that the desire to control is a bad thing. It will turn warmth into ruthlessness, make beauty cruel, and make the game gore. Only when people get along and love each other on an equal footing and sincerely, the world will not become abominable.
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