Why is respect for the flawed self so moved?
Because we all have similarities to her, but our faces, behaviors and actions have long been put on the masks of normal patterns. There is no ups and downs in our hearts, we can easily frown and furious, but suddenly we are satisfied after an instant. Or rejoice? Why isn't the inner villain like her, rushing hurriedly when out of control, eager to vent?
There is a woman like this in our hearts. Whether we have many self-confessed or recognized shortcomings, we need to respect, take good care of, listen to her voice, and do what she wants.
Love everything about yourself, including the absurdity.
If people around you tell you that your behavior is ridiculous, will you continue? Would you still be proud of it?
She can lose people's approval, avoid interpersonal communication, and even be discriminated against, ridiculed, and mischievous from childhood to adulthood. However, she has enjoyed the joy of thinking through images, the joy of imagination, and of course, pain. For example, the "head beheaded" automatic door, such as a room that becomes a horror space without its own name tag.
When people asked about her achievements, she would be excited and proud, telling them all the details in a fast voice, smiling directly and proudly, ignoring whether people asked them symbolically or really wanted to know.
At the university graduation ceremony, she could repeat her achievements—the importance of the "juicer". She sang aloud, with a weird voice that made people laugh, but I was so moved that I cried. At the autism conference, she can say aloud that although she has Asperger's syndrome, she can achieve success step by step. When she stood on the podium, her words were,
I am Temple Grandin!
What a proud one of me! ! Do i have it? Can I speak confidently and proudly like her? How many times have I been ashamed to say my name because authority figures say my name is not good, how many times have I wanted to change my name, and when I understand my nature, how many times have I wanted to abandon it? At this time, I was bursting into tears, and I knew deeply that I wanted to love all of myself like her! And it's not just love, it's love!
Really love life, love life
Look at her wide-open eyes, whenever something new enters her life, she has a strong curiosity and a heart of exploration. She likes to blend in and substitute. She blocked the autistic shortcomings of the outside world, and successfully turned her into a cow, so she became the world itself.
Her rules of the game are very subtle. She respects cattle and life. She can only eat jelly and ice cream, but she will not be fiercely cynical, will not kill cattle, and choose the slaughterhouse as an academic work base to keep the cattle in The goal is to be most comfortable before being killed!
This world, nature, isn't it like this? Survival of the fittest and the survival of the fittest, so there is no need to fight and change the rules of the game. Instead, let life be more respected and enjoyable in the rules of the game.
The courage to save up
Whenever I see her reciting hello quickly, I can't help but laugh secretly. She always tilts her head to one side when talking to people, trying to avoid any eye contact. But, the point is, she still said hello! She still talked to every stranger or no stranger, when she needed the courage to speak most, and she often said the content of a sentence.
Yes, avoiding eye contact and introducing herself quickly, she can protect herself from injury. At the same time, she also saved enough courage to take every first step.
I believe that many people can't take this step, including myself, because we can't allow ourselves to behave strangely like her. When we encounter a person or organization we want to contact, we will first observe carefully, and then make a scene in our minds that will appear if we say hello to him. Generally, after thinking about it, either that person has disappeared, or that we are going to say hello if we deny ourselves. Decide.
In this way, the opportunity slipped through the gap of strict logical judgment. How many times did a security guard come to rush someone, or the person's pace too fast? Besides, after failure, will I create other opportunities? Will you catch up with the distant figure?
And we also know that if we can summon the courage, logical judgment can help us greet us in the right way, and the success rate is definitely higher than her. But why has this become our resistance?
Only see the action of the target
Just do what she thinks, her ability to act is simply amazing! Because her shortcoming is that she can basically only use images to think, without too much logical thinking to judge whether it is worth doing or the result of doing it.
She only needs to overcome her fear, stare at the "doors" one after another, take a deep breath, and then strode across.
Sometimes there is even no need to walk through the door of the fear process, but just a word that makes her happy, such as the word "miracle" caught when she doesn't want to go to college! ! As a result, she only saw the amazing scene of "Miracle", leaving behind all other gray negatives, and moving forward!
Isn't this the same as what is said in "Secrets" and "Light of the Law of Spirituality"? This is manifestation. We need to work hard to learn one of them-the law of manifestation!
The simple way of genius The
school did not allow "juicers", and she immediately wrote a report on it. The janitor said that she could only pass by men, so she disguised herself as a man. The security guard said she wanted a certificate, so she went to the magazine to apply for the certificate. You need to know why the cow is panicking. She crawls like a cow everywhere where the cow must crawl. The sketcher didn't help with the work, so she wrote down and drew the design drawings by herself.
Independent, simple, in one step. She can always tell the most important points that people are most concerned about at critical moments-you don't have to change anything for your stand, I will change myself to meet your requirements! You don't have to do anything, I will do everything! The only thing you need to do is to take a look after I change and finish, and then put a "√" or a "×". Of course, if it is marked with "×", I will come again, if in order to achieve the goal, I must pass you.
This also attracted a lot of people to come for her, and marked with praise and affirmation red √!
Therefore, it is also because she is surrounded by a
roommate who loves very much about her, the blind girl who always smiles tenderly, beautiful and pure as an angel~! This also allowed her to learn to listen to the world with her ears.
There is also her aunt in Sunshine Ranch, who is gentle and tolerant and understands her. She recognizes everything about her. Not afraid, but worried, but it always brings her peace, warm smile, and love.
Her mother gave me a very strong reaction. In fact, she was also very emotional and would lose control of her behavior a bit. She is the one who really faced and experienced the shortcomings of this child. But her heart is indeed sad and proud—Different, but no less.
Scientists and teachers do not appear on many occasions, but they are very important in her memory. Like many good teachers, he gave a genius tolerance and guidance, telling her that the difficulties of life are just passing through one door after another.
I don't know when she learned to love others, maybe it's just that I can't feel it. However, those two subtle physical contacts made the blind girl take her hand, and at the teacher’s funeral, she understood that she cherished the people around her, and a slight hug with her mother... After
watching the movie, we tight Hug tightly, tears streamed gently. He remembered that in watching the movie, he saw many scenes saying, "It looks like a cat~!" "No wonder the cat likes to hug so much", his heart trembled, so warm. In a tight hug, I knew I was walking to open one door after another.
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