I thought it was boring for the first half an hour, but when it was nearly halfway through, I realized that the more I watched it, the more shocking it became. Especially when the protagonist NJ and his Japanese client are in a bar, the scene of that Japanese client playing the piano intoxicated is the one in the whole movie, except for NJ’s meeting with his first love girlfriend in Japan, the most letting the body experience the passion of life. Part, other times, is always so depressed, so boring, so irritable. Most of the scenes of the entire movie were completed in the elevator and at home. At that time, the colors of the pictures were always monotonous and the atmosphere was always dull.
At the end of the movie, it was 8:30 in the evening. I saw NJ’s youngest son read his confession in front of her mother-in-law’s spiritual position. He said in the last sentence: "I miss you so much. Especially when I see that, I haven’t The little cousin of the name will think of you often telling me: You are old. I want to tell him that I think...I am old too.”
I got up and went to the kitchen to make dinner for two people. The dinner was eggplant meatballs. Beat the noodles.
The green onion, garlic cloves, peppers and star anise in the pot were immersed in the pot. I suddenly turned off the fire in the smoke, ran into the study and asked my lover: "Do you think that the son in the movie is a copy of the father, and the daughter is The mother’s copy. The father and mother are so different. In fact, the father’s first love is the same person as him. You said that if the father didn’t leave so willfully, he would end up with this first love. Together, I have lived for nearly twenty years. Will his life still be as helpless, so monotonous, and dull as it is now?"
He lowered his head and pondered seriously, and replied, "It will be better."
"Hey! Why don't you say that it will be much better? I think it will be much better" I exclaimed dissatisfiedly.
He smiled: "I never like to talk so full."
Yes, this long life is indeed full of helplessness and difficulties. Life was originally just a simple repetition of firewood, rice, oil and salt. As we grow older day by day, one day we will calmly discover that there are very few things in life that can be completely controlled and mastered.
We need to succumb to this environment, we need to conform to the laws of nature, and we need to appease our inner conflict with reality.
But at this time, who is accompanying you to succumb? Who is accommodating with you? Who is comforting you with you?
I think that the person who accompanies you can completely determine your feelings and mood during this process, and the quality of life!
The reason why NJ and his wife's life are so monotonous is that they are two people who cannot understand each other. Just like NJ’s daughter and her first love boyfriend in a small bar, it’s almost like a conversation between a chicken and a duck:
Male: "Do you like the movie just now?"
Female: "A bit serious"
Male: "Then you prefer comedies , Don’t like tragedy?"
Female: "No... I just don’t like someone deliberately telling the story so tragic."
Male: "But, in real life, there are both sad and happy things. Such a movie. There is a sense of reality! How else would we like to go to the movies?"
Female: "If movies are like living life, then who would want to go to movies and live a life?"
Male: "I think my brother-in-law That's pretty reasonable. He said: After the invention of the movie, human life has been at least three times longer than before!"
Female: "Nonsense! How come!"
Male: "The life experience gained in the movie is at least ours It’s right to double your own life experience. For example, killing. No one of us has killed anyone, but we all know what killing is all about, and we have experienced various killings several times. This is what we are in the movie. I got it.
Female: "I won't kill people. If life is so miserable, what's the point? Moreover, we treat others well, and others will not treat us badly, so why bother to think about the murders? "
M:" I'm just used to give an example of it "murder." Of course there are others. For example, he also said that without a cloud and without a tree, it is not beautiful, so people should be like this too. I was very moved by this sentence, and it changed my thinking on many things. "
Female:" This sentence you say it still seems a tragedy, it should sound beautiful fishes, right? "
I think if I were that fat guy, I would want to walk out of the small bar immediately and find a quiet place to meditate on that wonderful movie alone, and it would be better than to share my feelings with someone who doesn't understand what I'm talking about.
NJ and Fatty, as well as NJ’s first girlfriend, are idealistic people. They stick to themselves in the bustling crowd, and are cold-eyed but are involuntarily involved in the torrent. They are unwilling to give up on themselves and join in boring repetitions. But they have to cooperate with others to live, so they live hard and live lonely.
NJ in the play has a good career (a partner in a company), good work ability (a partner depends on him), and a family that outsiders seem to have (wife and two healthy children), but they don’t experience it. The sense of happiness, accompanied every day, is nothing but a sense of powerlessness and helplessness in life, and even more terrifying is the sense of loneliness and hopelessness that lingers around me every day.
And this loneliness, I think, is because he can’t get support in his own environment, and his wife can’t hear his inner voice (so they have lived together for nearly 20 years, but NJ said that he never loved him except his first girlfriend. Anyone), the partner at work holds completely different values from him. In his life, he has no friends, no spiritual support and nourishment. He just depends on the man’s instinctive sense of responsibility to support his life.
To be honest, I really like a man like NJ-silent, restrained, and stick to himself.
"This is exactly the sadness of those idealists." I was eating noodles and talking to my lover about my views. "These people are a minority in society, so few people can understand them. And you are not careful. If you are an idealist, you can only have a chance to get a spiritual communication platform by finding another person with the same idealism. It is not easy to find such a friend. Now if you want to find such a lover , My goodness!"
I paused, took a few bites, and then continued: "He must meet the following conditions: equal age, single, financially capable, mental and mental health, and at the same time so lucky, you still I met and are in the same city. And these are just basics. The most important thing is that you happen to fall in love with him, and, oh my God! He loves you too...this, this, this is simply too difficult !"
“You don’t have to have the same type of people to have a communication platform.” He will always be slow. “When two people are together, they need to adapt and adapt. As long as two people can settle down to communicate, respect and understand each other, It is also possible to achieve a creative life, so that it will not fall into the situation like in the movie."
"But!" I replied heavily, "Yes, it is indeed understandable. For example, if two people have been together for a long time, they may understand each other better. But the problem is that I can understand you most of the time. , I know that a certain behavior of yours happens because of your certain characteristics. But I have reservations about some of your thoughts and behaviors. Because although I understand, it does not mean that I support. At this time There is a problem. Does the person who is not supported dare to do some behaviors and ideas that he originally wanted? Do you think there is a problem? Different values may mean different lifestyles. , How many people, especially men, can have the mind to accommodate the lifestyle that they didn't agree with and didn't like?"
He was silent.
But I didn't feel the victory, on the contrary, I felt inexplicably sad.
Because I see that many people are finally waiting for a long time. They have to choose a person who is completely different from their own world, different pursuits, and different thinking modes, and then work hard to adapt, work hard, and finally change themselves beyond recognition and accept Reality and self tolerance, falling into NJ-style paleness and helplessness.
Idealists, who are you company with in this life?
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