Family affection tampered with by love

Jovanny 2022-01-11 08:03:08

"Broken Arm Mountain" made me fall asleep, "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon" failed to grasp the subtleties, "Lust Caution" was okay, "Wedding Banquet" did not want to watch. Compared to many famous works by Ang Lee, I prefer his "Diet for Men and Women" 15 years ago. This commercial and literary name has harmed me for many years. I thought it was a Hong Kong film similar to "Nine to Five". After reviewing it twice in one month, there is a deep meaning that cannot be explained. It wasn't until I brushed my teeth last night and thought of a statement that I decided to review it.

Eating men and women is a great desire for people. It seems that "Diet for Men and Women" talks about men and women. Lao Zhu's three daughters, big and small, whether they work or study, are all in the boudoir, and it has become a lot of concern for him. A widowed man summoned his daughter to come to him with a table of food made by himself. The four of them sat on the edge of the round table. Apart from the complaints and hatred of "an eye for an eye", there was almost no communication, only those who robbed the white. "I announce", the dinner became a family press conference. Love is the heart disease of the eldest daughter, the seasoning of the second daughter, and the fantasy film of the third daughter. The state of the three daughters indicates three different emotional tenses. This situation is a bit like a simplified "Pride and Prejudice."

Turn off a bit. I once discussed "Diet Men and Women" with Brother Zuo Wen, and Lao Zhu's kitchen naturally became a common topic. Sit firmly is a gourmet who is sick and recuperating at home. There are 28 pots in the pot alone, but Lao Zhu's kitchen is even more fascinating. It looks like eighteen weapons and is complete. There is a shot that makes it difficult for him to get pine and cypress branches as firewood. It is really a pursuit of excellence. Taiwanese cuisine encompasses all major factions in the mainland and extracts the essence of Chinese cuisine. However, "Diet for Men and Women", which involves more than one hundred Chinese cuisines, reveals such a message that the various cuisines are integrated with each other, and there are no nuances. The three rivers and five lakes have all entered the sea, and the dragon and phoenix ribs have long been shark fins. Lao Zhu sighed with emotion: People are careless, and it's meaningless to eat well.

How can family affection be tampered with little by little by love? Before the daughters left, family affection was entrenched and crisis-ridden. The eldest daughter thinks she understands her father and is determined not to marry, and plans to serve him well in this life. The second daughter is beautiful and capable, with a rebellious personality, she always plans to leave this home. The third daughter is so cute that she can't talk about going or staying. But it was very dramatic that the eldest daughter could not bear the inner impulse and was the first to marry. The ruthless words that had been sworn to at the beginning suddenly turned into weak lies. The third daughter unintentionally cut in on personal relationship issues and found a kind and wealthy family, which also went smoothly. But the second daughter has endured various blows, and finally chooses to return to her father. The last sound of the film is now more silent than the sound "Dad", which is directed at people's hearts.

Every family cannot avoid the weight distribution of family affection and love. Now and then, love transforms into family affection, and family affection separates from love. In this way, love changes the pattern of family relationships. When the only friendship is also blown away by the rain and the wind blows away, Lao Zhu in the cold rain and cool breeze is empty in his heart, but he also unexpectedly reaps love. This is the climax of the whole film: Gui Yalei, who speaks Changsha dialect, has the chance to win, and went to a banquet with his daughter Jinrong, thinking that Lao Zhu is the blessing of cultivation in this life, not wanting to be at the banquet, the old man announced his favorite person loudly When it was Jinrong who had a lot of younger self, the audience thundered, and Gui Yalei cursed: You old man...I don't want to live anymore...

Drink, eat, male, female? Ang Lee slowly opened the four words to tell the story. Benefiting from the "diet", Lao Zhu finally had children with Jin Rong. If it happens in real life, this can definitely be in the newspaper. Appetite, sexual desire, contribute to the endless life? However, based on Lao Zhu's proficiency and research on Chinese food culture, he also said that medicine and food are of the same origin, this kind of thing can happen. The word "male and female" probably refers to the three loves of the three daughters, and it is also Lao Zhu and Jinrong.

The family relationship was tampered with by the daughters' love, and then filled with their own love, and then there was a new family relationship. The water tank was full, shallow and full, but the water quality remained fresh and delicious. In fact, Lao Zhu thought very thoroughly: life cannot be like cooking, only cooking after all the ingredients are ready.

The old Zhu holding a wine glass was very energetic: "Since everyone can sit together and eat, it is fate... In fact, if a family lives under one roof, they can still live their own lives, but the scruples that arise from the heart are The meaning of a home as a home." This "scrutiny" is very interesting. The contradiction between people in a family is very strange, it is a kind of "scrutiny." Scruples let everyone gain a sense of presence in the family, and all reflections start here. Family is not all about warmth, not all about understanding, family also creates and resolves contradictions, family is painful and more loving. A family needs a sense of formal reunion, and it also defaults to the rule of harmony but difference.

So I think this is not a story of Electra, nor a love story of love between men and women. It is about the addition and subtraction between family affection and love, and it is a family balance. The image of Lang Xiong's father is deeply rooted in my heart, and Lao Zhu's imperfection and tolerance are a universal truth. But I just learned that Lang Xiong passed away in 2002.

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Extended Reading
  • Chelsea 2022-03-28 09:01:08

    One of the "Father Trilogy" directed by Ang Lee. The mundane details of life. Highlights extraordinary ethical concepts. Cozy and touching.

  • Lola 2022-03-19 09:01:07

    People who seem to be the least able to hold onto traditions and loneliness persist to the end.

Eat Drink Man Woman quotes

  • Chu: Raising daughters is like cooking a meal. You lose your appetite by the time you're finished.

  • Chu: These past two days, I... something wrong?

    Jia-Chien: No, it's fine. Nothing.

    [Jia-Chien makes a face from the soup]

    Chu: Say it!

    Jia-Chien: The ham was oversmoked.

    Jia-Ning: It's fine.

    Jia-Jen: Father probably forgot to taste it.

    Jia-Chien: Or his taste is getting worse.

    Chu: My taste is fine!