I remember that when I was young, my mother always demanded everything about me, such as reading, self-care, taste, etc. It feels like my mother always wants me to be a perfect person. At that time, I didn't know what kind of feelings she had for me, but I just thought that my mother was really too hypocritical, she didn't give me freedom, she always scolded me, and praised me very few words. Fortunately, my father is very kind to me, and he treats my mistakes gently every time. Although I have never expressed my gratitude to him in front of him, I have deeply defined the title of father in my heart.
Gradually, I learned more things, and I no longer felt so disgusted with my mother's scolding. On the contrary, I will try my best to achieve her hopes of me. Because I finally understood that it is love, but the way of expression is this. And Dad still treats everyone so tenderly. The love for mom and dad deepens and sublimates every second. . . As a result, whenever I touch on books and movies about family relationships, I always stay for a while, looking for memories related to myself from the bits and pieces.
When watching "Golden Pond", I naturally thought of my parents. What is true love? Some people say that the shelf life of love is very short, only 3 months. But when I saw the NOMAN couple, it seemed that they were only together yesterday. They love each other and have become part of each other's lives. I know this is just a movie, but it feels so real, I believe it. I think I can understand NOMAN's way of thinking very well, maybe it looks weird to outsiders. Paranoid, indifferent, low self-esteem, irresponsible speech, suspicious, easily injured, cold humor. It's just such a person, so that others can't care about him, even if it is a misunderstanding, it is not understood by others. You don't know which sentence of his is true and which sentence is false, and you don't know when he will be joking and when he will be serious. It’s like my grandfather and mother belong to this category of people. They have a very good heart, but they always give people an illusion in their expressions. They don’t express love because the love in their hearts is more important than what they express. Much more. They just ask for something and don't ask for anything in return. But when you only give them a little in return, they will give you more love. Actually they are very simple.
The one month I spent with Billy was short, but I experienced a lot. It seems trivial fragments, just a few words, NOMAN and BILLY seem to be really like twins, with a sharp heart, understanding and identifying with each other. The moment I saw the hook of the NOMAN probe pull the hook, I really felt that the 80-year-old NOMAN was just a child. Ethel is really the guardian angel of NOMAN. She loves him, understands him, and the sentence "seeing people is to watch with your heart" explains everything. "I'LL MISS YOU, NOMAN" exposed BILLY's love, desperately looking for them to jump into the lake to save them also exposed ETHEL's love, Chelsea is also very good at expressing his love. But NOMAN doesn't say it at all, and clumsy language will only make himself sound weirder. The only thing you can see is those few inadvertent "Chelsea", hugging that deeply.
The last episode of NOMAN's illness made me cry out to my heart's content. ETHEL's love for NOMAN has surpassed loving herself. The desperate and collapsed expression when she called the hospital madly should be the best evidence of her love for NOMAN. Just one sentence "I don't want you to die" is better than countless sentences of "I love you".
I pay my most sincere tribute to the two late elders, thank you for letting me see the true feelings of life.
Ah Q
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