This old movie explains in detail the gas lamp effect, which is mental and psychological control. The "gas lamp effect" is also called cognitive negation. It is actually a psychological manipulation and brainwashing by "distorting" the reality in the eyes of the victim. The manipulator instills false, one-sided or deceptive words into the victim for a long time, so that the victim begins to doubt himself, question his own cognition, memory and mental state, and finally achieve control of the manipulator's thoughts and behavior. American psychologist Robin Stern was inspired by this movie, and based on more than 20 years of clinical experience, wrote a book called "The Gas Lamp Effect: Away from Emotional Violence and Manipulation." In the book Robin Stern described that "gas lamp" is actually a form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize, and even more difficult to get rid of. Tony Ferretti, a practicing psychologist in Florida and the author of the book "Battle of Love," said, "The ultimate goal of people with gaslight effects is for power and control. They are essentially transferring One's own deep insecurity." In real life, the "gas lamp effect" exists more in intimate relationships, such as parent-child relationships, husband and wife relationships, etc.
How to get rid of the gaslight effect 1. Establish your own social system and don't rely too much on someone. When you always need to pass through a person in contact with the outside world, you also give this person the ability to control your life. Therefore, you need to build your own social network, without passing through a person to transfer information between each other, so as to prevent the manipulator from isolating you from the people around you and controlling your results. 2. Perceive "manipulation", start from trivial things and get out of control. In fact, you can be aware of the process of being manipulated, but sometimes you believe in someone too much, which leads to self-doubt and self-distrust. When you are aware of this process, you can take charge of your own affairs by yourself, starting with small things, and slowly getting out of control step by step. 3. Believe in yourself and analyze others and their behavior objectively. You need to fully understand what kind of person you are, so that you can clearly understand from the evaluations of others about you which evaluations are objectively true and which are wrong and distorted. Only after knowing enough about oneself can he rationally look at the manipulator and ta's behavior, and distinguish whether he is distorting the facts and concealing the truth.
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