Empathy

Gregory 2022-12-25 23:30:08

In fact, I think the content of this movie is very realistic, except that the final HE is a bit too fast. . .

I CAN RELATE.

This Harper is exactly the same as my wife, and even said the same. I have asked my wife to watch this movie tomorrow.

My wife has been with me for 10 years, and we got married in Australia in 2019.

My parents are ok and treat her very well, and sometimes my mom feels that his family doesn't know and feels wronged for me. . .

Her family relationship is not very close. Patriarchy is supreme. Everyone has secrets. She told her parents about her relationship with me many years ago. The consequences were serious enough to explode. . .

Later, when she ran into her mother on the road, she would suddenly leave me behind. . . It's also not coming out of the closet. It's exactly the same as Harper's lines. I feel that the pressure at home is already great, and I still have to put pressure on her. Tell her parents, she will hurt her parents. If you don't tell her parents, she will hurt me.

I let her watch this movie just to make her feel how much sacrifice I have made. Because she has never felt my sacrifice, once this conflict point is reached, she just feels that I don't understand her.

There was a time when I wanted to break up. . .

But we really love each other. . .

Later, she went abroad with me and we got married in Australia. We did not have a marriage proposal process. When I got married, because of the inconvenience around, I didn't buy a wedding ring and used the pair of rings I bought before. Two months after my marriage, I happened to go to Melbourne to take a test, so I bought a new ring from Cartier with her on my back. Want to go back to surprise her, go back to get off the plane and drove the night car home. . . Hit a kangaroo. . . . Of course, it was a curse when I went back. . .

Up to now, I can only avoid talking about her family. What she said to me was, I'm not ready. It's just that when I'm abroad, I can't beat my family at eight. It's not a big deal. It just feels like a minefield all the time. . .

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Happiest Season quotes

  • John: Hey, Harper not coming out to her parents has nothing to do with you.

    Abby: How could it not?

    John: Remind me, what did your parents say when you told them you were gay?

    Abby: Um, that they loved and supported me.

    John: That's amazing! My dad kicked me out of the house and didn't talk to me for 13 years after I told him. Everybody's story is different. There's your version and my version, and everything in between. But the one thing all of those stories have in common is that moment right before you say those words. When your heart is racing and you don't know what's coming next. That moment's really terrifying! And once you say those words, you can't un-say them. A chapter has ended, and a new one's begun. You have to be ready for that. You can't do it for anyone else.

    [pauses]

    John: Just because Harper isn't ready doesn't mean she never will be, and it doesn't mean she doesn't love you.

  • Tipper: We have been so worried about seeming perfect, but maybe we don't even know what perfect is. We have one daughter who has been unhappy in a marriage and felt like she couldn't tell us! And another daughter who just had her heart broken because she was afraid we wouldn't love her if she told us the truth. And the only reason that Jane is okay is because we gave up on her after she wouldn't stop biting in preschool. That is very far from perfect, if you ask me.