This is a film about memory and psychological healing. People who go to the story to watch this film will be disappointed, because it is very difficult to portray the psychology of the characters. It's difficult to unfold too much plot. As far as the title of this film is concerned, it should be reflected in "memory" rather than "memories". "Remembrance" is the recollection of things that happened in the conscious state. According to Freud's theory, the content of "memory" can also be the existence in the subconscious state, and it is usually presented in the form of dreams. According to the plot shown in this film, Xiao Xingying even thinks that her grandmother Marnie is a figure she fabricated. In fact, Marnie not only really existed, but also stayed in her memory (subconscious).
Why is it said that it is a film about memory and healing? After clarifying the following three questions, everything becomes clear: (1) How did Anna become a lonely and introverted child; (2) In what way did Grandma Marnie change her; (3) Her happiness finally changed How was it obtained. Of course, these issues are interspersed together, and it is difficult to separate them completely.
For the first question, we must first make it clear that Anna's current state and all her emotions are almost related to her early memory. The reason why Anna is lonely and introverted, and the reason why her heart door is closed to everyone, is because she has already remembered things very early. When grandmother Marnie passed away, someone in her family could take care of her, but she was eventually thrown into society. That is a gray image in the movie. Whether the old man who claimed to be alive a few days ago was her great-grandfather or her great-grandfather, the people whom the old man took her to reason with should be her close relatives. Moreover, on what grounds does the old man use the theory? It doesn’t seem to be "family affection", because it can be inferred from the words of the two men "Why are you still talking about that matter, that matter has already been resolved", "I've said it several times, it's not about money" They argued about the inheritance and the care of the orphans. It seems that the inheritance has been divided up, but no one wants to raise the orphans.
She still has a vague impression of this memory. This feeling of abandonment directly caused her to hate herself: "I am what I am, ugly, stupid, unhappy, and unpleasant." As a result, she angered others and became mean. For example, she called her adoptive mother "auntie", who thought she was nagging like a goat, compared Mr. Eleven to a bear or a sea lion, and called Xinzi a fat pig. A child can be introverted, but cannot be without friends. Judging from her illness and a classmate returning her schoolbag, the reason she has no friends is that she refuses to accept others, not the other way around. The reason is of course the gray memory. She is afraid that her friends will know that she is an orphan, a child abandoned by her relatives. If the same knot cannot be opened, she may die alone. However, people need to be paid attention to. People who cannot get any attention can hardly survive. This is determined by human society, so self-salvation begins. She basically achieved her goal in three ways. One is to get sick. Not long after the film started, she had an asthma attack due to the shift of the teacher’s attention; the other was to avoid. Although it is a bit contradictory, avoiding often brings more attention. Fleeing from the mail bucket attracted Xinzi's attention; third, looking for a friend who could keep the secret, Marnie, who was as old as her, became the object of her imagination.
This explains the second point, why Marnie, who was originally a grandmother, became her dream friend. The movie shows that the matter between her and Marnie seems to be her dream, her imagination or fantasy. In fact, this is related to the experience her grandmother told her. These experiences are also recorded in "Marnie's Diary", and they are fantasised. Or the person being fabricated is precisely herself, Marnie's experience is real. When grandma told her about her experience, she was still young, so even when she grew up, she couldn’t really restore it, but all events entered her subconscious mind, but it took the right time to meet the right stimulus to be released, that wetland The mansion is the stimulus to restore her subconscious memory. Throughout all the "interactions" between her and Marnie, it is not so much that Marnie has changed her, as she has changed herself. She got her first "friend" and agreed to keep secrets; Marnie made her find the important feeling that she can make friends, that is, she is also a responsible person, can also be the support of others, a self-feeling oneself People who are useless and have strong self-esteem generally don't take the initiative to make friends. When she heard that Marnie was forced to be taken to the barn, she was filled with righteous indignation; when she and Marnie were in the barn, she clearly took care of Marnie; the reason she wanted to take Marnie to the barn was because Marnie said that she could not bear the fear of the barn. She wanted to help Marnie overcome. What she said to Marnie was actually what grandma had said to her: "I have overcome many terrible things, and Anana must be able to do it too. , Because Anna is my only granddaughter!" It was because of the power that her grandmother gave her, she had the first "friend" in her dream, and it was the experience of associating with Marnie in her dream that she made friends The second friend Caixiang, the third friend Mr. Eleven, and Hisako and Nobuko. In addition, she also learned to forgive during her relationship, forgiving Marnie’s leaving without saying goodbye, and also understood that “leaving” does not mean betrayal. All of these provide for her to let go of her resentment towards her relatives and to re-accept her foster mother’s feelings. Got help. It can be seen that Anna's overcoming communication barriers, building self-confidence, and restoring a healthy personality cannot but be attributed to the memory of Marnie.
Whether Anna's happiness depends on whether her injured heart can be healed. Although the partial recovery of her subconscious memory has allowed her to have friendship, have friends who can talk to, her temperament has changed greatly, and she is willing to accept and forgive others, but the feeling of abandonment in her early memory is unforgettable, so it brings The trauma of the heart cannot be healed by talking to a friend. She was raised by her adoptive mother's family and received government subsidies, which made her feel "out of the ordinary". She hopes to live "ordinarily" every day without feeling discriminated against and "differentiated." Even if the adoptive mother no longer concealed the truth from her, she would forgive this "concealment" because she experienced the "love" of her adoptive mother, but this kind of "love" could not make up for the "love" of her relatives, and she must accept the "love" of her adoptive mother. There are limits. In her subconscious, she still feels that she is abandoned, so for the deaths of her parents and grandmother, she still says "I don't forgive them...leave me alone". It wasn't until she forgave Marnie that she left without saying goodbye in her dream, and it was not until she finally combined Marnie's friendship with her grandmother's affection that she truly realized the feeling of being loved. When the "love" of her relatives is restored in her memory, she can truly let go of her resentment and re-accept the affection of her adoptive mother. Her happiness lies not only in knowing her life experience accidentally, but also in her realization that "love" has never been far away. (Author: Planting flowers on slate, please keep the article complete 2015-04-24)
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