I always thought this was a very simple question. I thought I would answer without hesitation, the prodigal son will not change his money, and knowing the way back is the most precious thing. Of course it is worth another chance. After I watched "Boy A" at the beginning of the month, I still think so. I thought, why don’t people want to give Jack a chance? He worked so hard, changed his name and changed his surname, and acted bravely. He just wanted to be a good person, an ordinary person, a person who can love and be loved. Why didn't he get a chance until he died.
I thought that if there was such a teenager A by my side, I would understand, support, and give trust.
However, I just thought it.
I had a close girlfriend in junior high school. One day she came to my house to play, and after she left, I found that there was little money in my wallet. I have been wary of her since graduating from junior high school and have never contacted her again.
With such a close friend, the trust destroyed by stealing can't be built again. I used to stay up all night without talking, but in the end I just let it go, and I haven't had any nostalgia or reluctance until now. It's not that I am cold-blooded, but once some trust is broken, and some boundaries are crossed, I can't look back.
For that close girlfriend, I will never leave money and belongings unsuspectingly, and for a girlfriend who once told others my secrets, I will never do my best with her without any ill will. For a boyfriend who has had an affair, I will look at every woman with whom I associate with suspicion. This is how some people gradually move away. Some high walls are slowly built in this way. This is not what I am willing to choose, but a forced choice.
The situation encountered is just a small case compared to Junior A. What would happen to me if a teenager A was by my side?
Of course, I can speak beautifully and justly, and act like a priest with a benevolent face. But I know that I will drift away from Teenager A. It's not that I don't want to forgive or tolerate, but I can't do it. I am very small, timid and fearful of life and fear of death. I am afraid that one day the lamb who is lost and knows how to return will suddenly madly lead me to ruin and hurt me. I don't want to wear tinted glasses, but I can't.
Buddhism has a karma cycle, good and evil retribution, Adam ate an apple casually and brought evil into the mortal world, not to mention that you killed someone and set fire to deceive and leak your secrets. Of course, you can say that A has paid the price. He stays incognito. He enters the juvenile management office or goes to jail or leaves his hometown. But some injuries can't be healed after you disappear for a few years, and some trust will never happen again.
When A did such a thing back then, maybe it was instigated by Phillip, but when you still have the right to choose your life, you made this choice yourself. The so-called little things are forgiven, but everything has a price, and growth has to pay a price.
Growing up, the young and ignorant one paid the price and wanted to be reborn. But, life has changed. A has changed from having the power to choose life to being chosen by life. Survival is the rule, and it is no longer your choice.
Therefore, A can no longer beg for others' acceptance, and has been turned away by society after making mistakes. Of course, in the film, the pitiful looking at A, who is so weak and eager to be kind, is so pitiful and pitiful, and there are people in the film who are willing to accept A sincerely. But the majority of society is not so empathetic. If you make a mistake and be punished, you can end the re-distribution of cards? Life will tell you that punishment will never end. What does it mean to make a mistake and become an eternal hate? You can no longer be as beautiful as an angel after you step on some quagmire.
Do I believe that the boundless sea of suffering is the shore, or do I believe that the country is easy to change and its nature is hard to change?
I don't believe it. It doesn't matter to me whether you look back or whether you keep getting stuck in the mud. Because I will never believe you again.
I'm not empathetic and full of benevolence, I think, but I can't do it.
This is life. You make mistakes, and you pay.
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