1. Don't persuade others to be kind. Although utilitarianism and prominence often have negative externalities that cannot be ignored, it is also difficult to sustain if environmental protection and the interests of disadvantaged groups are used at the expense of opportunities for latecomers to "rise".
2. The reality is that a considerable number of people pay attention to themselves and their family members first, and then other strangers, even if this "differential" distribution of attention makes the world more "zero-sum game".
3. Although how you think is affected by the whole society, if you want to change, the most direct method still seems to start with yourself. However, the situation of the self and the understanding of change cannot be stripped of the environment and information channels in which it grows. Ignore the social framework and reject the holistic understanding of oneself. No matter which kind of change is made, it will be extremely difficult: because people's happiness and pain are not only caused by family members. If they cannot affect the society in which they live, most of the changes in themselves , It is impossible to be thorough and continuous.
4. In addition to blood relationship, utilitarian calculation, within the family, empathy and mutual assistance-why should friendship stop at kinship? To be sure, it seems that any "reckless" transformation of human nature has caused tens of thousands of disasters, but is this an irrefutable declaration: all attempts to expand human compassion are the "utopian fantasy" of those who smoke "opium", and We must learn to turn a blind eye to the unfortunate who have suffered bad luck?
5. Human beings collectively negotiate, fabricate myths, formulate rules, and pass on to future generations in order to "live together", but which myth can make people more "selfless"? Is there any rule that will not overcorrect, and inadvertently encourage the "exquisite self-interest" in human nature? Equality precedes freedom, or freedom precedes equality? This may depend more on the actual situation on the ground, just as love and harshness are both necessary for children, tolerance and bottom line are irresistible for companions, but the only constant is that "living together" requires rational communication, comparison of hearts and no escaping. .
6. However, what made the above skills take root? After all, before forgiveness, people are easy to get angry; when coping, people are accustomed to fighting together; after being rational, people can't help but prove that they are "superior"... Love is not enough, and even friends will be indifferent. Lust, every impulse and frenzy, if you can't obey the foresight of the consequences, then love can't do without "killing each other."
7. In order to eliminate injustice, what mankind needs is not only a seamless principle of behavior, but also the continuous "reverse self-seeking" and "being lenient to others". However, this kind of good habit does not seem to be cultivated more widely because of technological advancement and improvement of life. On the contrary, humans have begun to use "double standards" more frequently, this short-sighted evil language.
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