When I was 20 to 30 years old, I was thinking about one thing every day: getting old.
Why do you want to grow old?
The reason is simple. I simply think that one day, I am sitting in the park, looking at the parents (mostly mothers) who are pushing their children for a walk, and mocking: "what a waste of time!" Face those young people who are lively and dancing, and tell them that you will become me someday, but not as graceful as I am!
At the time, my life plan for myself was to grow old with dignity, and I must live alone and live alone. In my opinion, an old man who lived alone in his later years had a house, a yard, a dog, and oh, she was still a woman. In the eyes of outsiders, her life must be a story, a wonder woman.
I may have set my aging goal prematurely. When we were in middle school, the teacher asked us to write essays. I especially liked one word, so I walked alone. Zhen Zhen travels alone, I really like this word so much, I will use it at the end of almost every composition:
In the tide of the times, in the prejudice of society, she or he walks alone.
How cool! That's how Batman lives.
In short, old age and death are probably words that contemporary young people can freely think about.
1. The art of socializing with death
This kind of imagination continued until I accompanied my grandpa to see eye diseases. My grandpa is like a combination of Kominsky and Norman in the play. First of all, he is probably the same as Norman. He doesn't like people very much. Except for my grandmother, he is not very social and stubborn. He could also go out for dinner and walk with other aunts, and when he came back he started to complain with his grandmother: "Oh, Xiao Wang's old man is too strong, I can't handle it, next time you go to dinner for me!" In summer, he didn't turn on the air conditioner. When others came to the house, he would wear a big pants vest to receive him. Others came from afar in shirts and trousers and said that they wanted to turn on the air conditioner.
However, he has another side of Kominsky. It is taboo to avoid medical problems, and to avoid socializing with doctors to the greatest extent, but once something goes wrong with the body, the desire to survive will start to grow wildly. For example, my grandfather had cataracts not long ago. It is reasonable to say that the peace of mind surgery is not a big problem, but he feels that cataracts are not only cataracts, but also a series of sequelae such as dizziness, epilepsy, and Alzheimer's. This situation is probably that once he thinks that he might not be able to see, all diseases will come, of course, including his own sexual life disorder.
Well, when my grandfather was sitting in the outpatient room with trembling shock, facing a lot of terms the doctor said that he didn't understand, he said anxiously: "Doctor, I don't quite understand what you mean. But you see, I am so old and have this disease again, so I won’t just die like this?” At that moment, I discovered that my grandpa had never spoken to a certain person so sincerely, and his eyes were full of love. And desire, as if this doctor is his life's love.
At this moment, plus watching the drama, I thought, oh, it turns out that socializing with death is a daunting thing to do.
This is not a matter of socializing with your own death, but also a matter of socializing with the death of your loved one. Just like in the show, Norman spent the whole season socializing with his wife's death, trying to reach a settlement. So is his wife. The last thing to consider before death is to ask Kominsky to take care of Norman, and to find someone to take care of him for Kominsky, hoping that this will make them and their own deaths and their own deaths. reconciliation.
To put it bluntly, don't be too painful, and walk down gracefully and comfortably.
As for young people, when you haven't made a good social reconciliation with the living, don't be so anxious to reconcile with death.
Two, a lovely old man
Getting old is the theory of relativity.
How to say?
Probably, if you have a companion, a lovely old man, who will never leave, understand your hobbies, know your weaknesses, always accompany you, do anything, then you will not be old.
I like that Kominsky said when Norman was about to give up his life, you are not alone, you are not alone, you still have me, hello, can you see me, because I can see you.
I like when someone likes to express love implicitly, or thinks love as it should be, someone enthusiastically says, you still have me.
Especially when you are old and socializing every day is to attend a funeral. The daily gossip is not marriage and childbirth, but so-and-so dying. Until the people around you leave one by one, you feel that you should reconcile with death. At the time, there was an old man who said, hey you and me, don’t give up so easily.
Yes, that is the sentence at the end of the season, you got me babe. Not hypocritical at all, very cute.
"Are you going home today?"
"If you want, I can stay anytime."
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