After the release of the ban on the media evaluation of "Road to Return", it has received enthusiastic comments from the majority of movie fans. Although the evaluation of this movie is not very high, it is very important to Ben Affleck.
In the past period of time, a falling apart marriage, a controversial superhero movie, and a repeated journey to abstain from drinking, Daben suffered a triple blow from love, career, and life. The high exposure rate as a public figure has made Ben a famous emoji emperor. "Walking the Dog", "Butter Hand", and "Sad Affleck" are also pictures frequently used by media platforms. But Ben never gave up. With the support of his relatives and friends, he continued to fight against the past, steadily fighting, and finally regained the trust of Hollywood with this "Road to Return".
In "The Road to Return", Ben plays the role of a former high school basketball star who has a broken marriage and is addicted to alcohol. After receiving an invitation to the position of a high school basketball coach, he decides to give up drinking completely and start his life again. No matter how you look at it, this role is highly overlapped with the true nature in reality, and it can be described as a "true" appearance. In addition to showing Ben Affleck's "Road to Return" outside of the play, this film is also quite instructive for the vast number of "addicts" who are eager to change today.
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Jack is a construction worker, working at sunrise and resting at sunset, working hard. At first glance, he is as ordinary and ordinary as us, but at the same time he is also an alcoholic.
On the way home from get off work, he would drink a drink to relieve fatigue. This is not a problem in itself, but the key is that he is still driving.
And his main entertainment at night is to watch the game sadly while drinking sadly.
Even when taking a shower in the morning, have a drink to refresh yourself.
Before attending a family gathering, you must sneak a "work first as a respect". I don't know if it's a warm-up preparation or I'm afraid that I won't be able to have a good drink at the party.
From this point of view, we still think that we are different from Jack, but in fact we often do the same things.
Sometimes we want to use our free time to learn to charge, but when we get home, we want to play the game and adjust our mood first. As a result, we play it all night.
What do we spend the most time on after get off work? Undoubtedly mobile phones, Douyin, King of Glory, Weibo, why know that these things are just a waste of our time, but we still have to spend time on them?
The so-called addiction is nothing but a disgust, but I still can't help but do it.
2
There is nothing in this world for no reason. There is a reason why Jack became an alcoholic.
Jack used to be as happy as most people, a lovely son and a caring wife, but unfortunately, he came to this family. Jack's son suddenly suffered from cancer when he was nine years old. After dozens of chemotherapy sessions, the illness still took the child's life.
After the loss of his beloved son, Jack used alcohol to relieve his pain for a long time. He became dependent on alcohol unconsciously, physically and psychologically. Once he encountered something that made him uncomfortable, he would conditioned to escape by drinking alcohol. Reality, don't give up if you don't get yourself drunk.
Indulging in alcohol not only damages Jack’s health, but also destroys Jack’s spirit. In the end, it also makes Jack lose the opportunity to change his life time and time again, step by step toward the abyss of darkness.
When he lost his beloved son, Jack was in great pain, but his wife Angela's pain was not under Jack. But Jack can't help his wife to walk through this difficult road. Instead, he indulges himself in alcohol, repeatedly betraying his wife, marriage, and son. In the end, his wife can only leave him, which is pitiful. hateful.
When Hayes High School offered Jack a job as a coach, because alcohol consumed his will, he had no motivation and courage to change the current situation and accept a new job, so Jack wanted to refuse at first. But he was not willing to take this rare opportunity in his heart. This kind of ambivalence continued to torture him, and finally forced him to use a lot of alcohol to relieve this pain. However, the more he drinks, the more he will become depressed, and the cycle goes back and forth, but It is falling into a vicious circle.
Fortunately, Jack accepted the job, and even cheered up, leading the team all the way to triumph, defeating powerful enemies, and reaching the playoffs.
Jack could have taken this opportunity to get rid of the past, start over, and get a good chance of redemption, but fate made a joke with him again.
So when Jack saw that his friend’s child’s condition deteriorated and brought back painful memories, he immediately became anxious, irritable, and painful. In fact, due to his dependence on alcohol, Jack could no longer rely on his perseverance to face the current situation. So even though Jack had been abstaining from drinking for some time at this time, he finally decided to get drunk and relieve his sorrows.
And this drunk also when Jack lost his coaching position, but also lost a chance for redemption.
Anything that can make you addicted must also make you miserable.
Similar to Jack, how many of us are deeply poisoned by "addiction".
As the overlord of the mobile game industry, Glory of Kings has always been loved by the majority of players with its exquisite interface and user-friendly operation. The average number of online accounts per day is 3 million, and the highest number of simultaneous online users exceeds 1 million.
At the same time, it is also the most gold-absorbing mobile game in China. In the whole 18 years, the global king of glory has reaped a total of 22 billion yuan in profits. Among them, Apple ios users contributed 12.4 billion yuan. Mainland Android users contributed 9.6 billion yuan. In 2017 and 2018, it ranked first in the mobile game revenue list for two consecutive years.
Like all games, the reason why King of Glory is so attractive is that it is extremely addictive.
In this fast era, while emphasizing quick gains in happiness, it also increases the possibility of addiction.
If you accidentally fall into the trap of happiness, you become a slave to pleasure.
In order to play games, sleepless nights and sleeps all night, the impact on work and health is small, the most important thing is to lose the ability to live in real life.
I have a friend who devotes time and energy to the game completely, is only interested in game-related topics, and reacts extremely irritable and irritable to all the factors that disturb her playing the game, including his spouse, parents, and superiors. Because of not talking to people for a long time, I lost the social communication ability and spoke intermittently.
While we experience the satisfaction brought by the game time and time again, we are also raising the threshold of happiness. The easier it is to get satisfaction, the less we have the patience to try activities that require more time and effort.
"Addiction" is the culprit that makes us lose our self-control and willpower. Under the inducement of full of entertainment and sexual stimulation, we invest more and more time, money and even life for this.
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Jack's addiction to alcohol originates from the pain of losing his beloved son. This pain continues to torture him, but alcohol can help him temporarily get rid of his troubles. Over time, Jack can't help himself out of being immersed in the pleasure of alcohol.
Addiction has its own reasons.
3 million years ago, when a Homo sapiens went out to forage and saw a fig tree, he would choose to eat up the figs for the first time. The reason for his behavior was not the "wisdom inheritance" from generation to generation, but dopamine. .
Dopamine is a kind of magical substance, it can make people feel happiness, but human instinct is to pursue this happiness. Those primitive people who can produce dopamine by ingesting high-calorie foods can store more energy. This is a very survival advantage in primitive societies where food is scarce. This is why modern people are so unable to resist the temptation of sweets and fried foods. .
Our behavior has long been firmly controlled by the survival instinct of human beings .
When you scan a short video, "the next one will be more fun" may be generated, which is because positive feedback is at work.
Playing games, you will experience gradual progress in the process of leveling up and becoming stronger .
In social software, you can experience powerful social connections .
The pursuit of positive feedback, gradual progress, and strong social connections is undoubtedly an important part of the survival ability of primitive people. They can all stimulate the production of dopamine. Generations of human beings have long been screened by the "survival of the fittest" mechanism. These abilities are embedded in their genes.
It can be said that the designers of modern network products have insight into people's hearts, and while harvesting people's dopamine, they also control people's physiology and psychology, so that people can no longer do without them .
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Fortunately, "addiction" is not uncontrollable, but the process is a bit difficult.
Jack decided not to enter the bar for the first time after a disastrous defeat, because the attention of the team began to gradually replace the status of alcohol in his heart.
For us, we also need to find something that can be used to replace, and use one kind of "addiction" to replace another kind of "addiction", but this newly found "addiction" is more meaningful.
Exercise, reading, and systematic study are all good choices.
When Jack first took over the Hayes team, he was still drunk as always. He maintained the mentality of being a monk for a day in the affairs of the team, but being in it, it is difficult not to make changes. After being repeatedly defeated and humiliated by his opponents, Jack finally made up his mind to make a change.
Entering the bar was only the first step. Then Jack began to develop tactics for the team, research opponents, coach players, and step by step to increase his investment in the job of coaching. When he was completely busy, he would not even think about going. Drunk?
Therefore, we want to control our addiction. It is not enough to introduce a new project. We must be able to invest in it step by step to keep ourselves busy.
If you don’t like to read professional books, you can read novels first; if you’re too tired to run, start with one kilometer and gradually increase your exercise; if you want to learn to improve yourself, but you can’t concentrate, you can concentrate on studying for 5 minutes today and increase tomorrow In a little time, maybe one month later, you can concentrate on studying for half an hour every day. All in all, there are more solutions than problems. In the long run, with perseverance, we can definitely control our desire for mobile phones.
People have addictions because of vacancies in their hearts. A moment of gratification can hardly conceal a long period of emptiness. Every era has its problems, and our problem is that it is difficult to find the goal of life .
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