ANGER
One, wedges
The English title anger, literally translated is: angry, angry. Chinese translation: The rolling thunder is really a picture of sound and shadow, but without photoelectricity and lightning strikes, it will not be in place again. Or translated: Rushing out of adversity, purely inspirational film intentions, extending the theme and value of the entire film. What the film actually expresses is a person who is irritable, who is always punished for causing troubles, accepts behavior correction, and develops the ability to control emotions (curative effect 1)? Or lower the threshold for detonating anger (curative effect 2)? neither. This irritable person, as long as he is provoked, will continue to explode with fierce anger, especially aggressive behavior. In addition to describing "refusal", "seeing", "returning", "closing", "returning"..., this film regards "seeking the root" to find the family link of the original family as a happy ending of "cure". This film describes the course of "psychotherapy" or "behavioral therapy," but it fails to see the aforementioned two effects. Instead, he put the curative effect on "life education", and found the acceptance of his biological mother and patrilineal relatives and families. A sense of happiness from girlfriends, especially family relationships-is this a curative factor?
Two, get angry
Anger is the "warning color" of human beings. When cognition and cognition conflict, cognition and behavior conflict, behavior and behavior conflict, the "aggressive expression and physical and mental state" that erupt to oneself or the other party or a third party is called anger. When angry, the brain's αβθδ waves are all vigorously generated, blood quickly rushes to the head, blood vessels in the eyes and facial congestion and redness. The jaws must be clenched, and the jaw must be hard to cooperate and control the waves of intense brain wave storms that erupt. In order to support the entire explosive head, the facial muscles will twitch and the neck will be rough. The shoulder, neck, arm, chest and back muscles must be contracted vigorously to provide emergency strengthening support. With the strong compression of the heart to send and receive blood, the chest cavity must continue to strengthen expansion and contraction,... a "stupid stupid chicken"-a red-faced wooden rooster full of anger.
This "Wooden Chicken" type of immobile posture is a "stiff response" shared by the animal kingdom. The stiff reaction keeps animals and people in a state of alert. The anger disappeared, and his stiffness shrank. The anger exploded, and the stiff state exploded. When it explodes, the "alert state" changes to an "attack state"-staring at people, swearing, hitting people, hitting people with things, killing people with knives, shooting people.... In comparative psychology, animals all appear in a state of alert before they appear in a state of attack. The universal in the animal kingdom is that the alert state does not necessarily detonate the attack state. Beyond the animal world, "foraging needs" and "physical threats" are the two major stimulating conditions. Human anger is another unique state of alert. Pure thinking activities and non-aggressive communication and interaction can trigger this state of physical and mental alertness dominated by emotional expression. Moreover, human beings can enter the attacking state from the alert state, but they can also directly enter the attacking state.
When angry, high-frequency brain waves continue to discharge violently, which makes a person become nervous and anxious. Not only can they not relax but also lose their concentration, so they are unable to perform what is currently being done. After the angry waves pass, the αβ waves will all drop, but the θδ waves continue to be high-tension discharges and cannot drop, forming a trance state of "wandering". At this time, the individual is absolutely relaxed, but loses concentration even more. Memory, understanding, judgment, and creativity cannot be used, and they can't do anything.
The hero in the film is not just angry, but easy to get angry. Not only is it easy to get angry, but it is also easy to get irritated. Not only is angry or irritated, but also immediately detonates aggressive behavior. There are four different states of being angry, being irritated, attacking oneself and attacking others. The title should be changed to agression, or even attack, not just anger. Not "rush out of adversity", but "rush out to attack others."
Three, easy to get angry and love to get angry
People who are easy to get angry, we always say that they "love to get angry." It's not just easy, it's preference. Anger is a state of mind and body that is not conducive to health. Excitement when being angry, fatigue after being angry, and the destruction of the sequence of life events are all very bad phenomena. Why does a person develop from being angry to being angry? From occasional anger to getting used to anger, even anger is a must. Regardless of whether you think you are happy or bitter, you use anger to mark yourself as a person. why?
Regardless of the stimulus that triggers anger, it comes from internal thinking or the external environment, the type and intensity of the stimulus is called the threshold of anger. It means that when the intensity of certain specific stimulus to the individual exceeds a certain limit, it will trigger a state of anger. Some people have many types of irritants and have a low threshold, which makes them easy to get angry at every turn. But why does anyone do the opposite? It turns out that the first stage of the development of human behavior is "trial and error behavior." After the state of anger appears, if the after-effect of this behavior triggers punishment from others, the person concerned will raise the threshold of anger or modify the type of specific stimulus. Conversely, when another person or relative expresses fear, fear, crying, and changes their state to meet the needs of the person concerned, the person concerned will regard anger as an effective behavior, and repeated operations become a habit. When a child discovers that anger is an effective behavior for satisfying desire or disgust and dissolving a conflict state, he will "like anger."
Is the protagonist easy to get angry or is it easy to get angry? The answer is: Fischer is an angry and angry person. He takes advantage of aggressive behavior to effectively eliminate the aftereffect of anger-interpersonal conflict. Getting angry may have the biological basis of neurophysiology, but being angry is a question of behavior and morality. Fischer is not only easy to get angry, easy to get angry, but also easy to be irritated; not only easy to get irritated, but also easy to attack others. When the doctor is angry, he looks for a rational step down. When the doctor's wife was angry, she turned into grief and sorrow. When Fischer's mother was angry, she turned to cry and escape. When Fischer is angry, he attacks others.
Fourth, the first course of treatment
In the emotional education of children and adults, the most terrifying phenomenon is: anger (state) + aggression (behavior). In psychological counseling and psychotherapy, efforts must be made to cut the connection between the two, either to eliminate the former or replace the latter. The whole film attempts to describe-the process of receiving psychotherapy, but what it shows is-paradoxical psychotherapy, mostly general helping behaviors, few professional psychotherapy. At the beginning of the film, the Anthony kid enjoyed the birthday wishes from the family members and elders... He wanted everyone to show his favor first-he got the big hand from his father and the big hand from his mother. Fischer woke up at the whistle of the cabin, and the colleague in the bathroom said the second sentence "What's the crack Fischer?" "Hey, what's in your face?" He immediately knocked down the opponent with a heavy punch. Furiously rushed up and pinched the opponent's neck with both hands. After being pulled away, he immediately jumped on.
The psychiatrist asked, "I know you like fighting," and his answer was "For some people, only this way can be learned." The doctor said, "But you taught them, and you paid the price," and he was silent. The doctor asked, "Do you want to talk about this?" "What is bothering you?" He replied, "Why is there something bothering me?" "Because I jumped on a white man?" "I Is there something wrong?"... "Send him to a psychiatrist. The nigger is trying to kill his master. He must be crazy." The first stage of psychotherapy is: the therapist has the ability to first establish a good general interpersonal relationship, and then reconstruct it into a therapeutic relationship, or directly establish a therapeutic relationship. Therapeutic relationship means that the other person positions himself as a helper or a patient, and positions the relative person as a helper or a therapist, and develops-"I am willing to ask you for help, I hope you Can help me!" The "role relationship". With only two sentences and a laugh, the psychiatrist began and ended the general relationship-"I learned that this is not your first time here!" "Have you seen Dr. Williams in the past?" The Lord replied "No, he looked at me," and the doctor smiled "Oh" and prepared to start a therapeutic relationship.
The client looked at the photo on the table and said, "Is that your wife?". The client wanted to build a deeper signal of interpersonal relationship, but the doctor ignored it and answered "Yes" and started asking questions—"I know you like fighting. ". The doctor is anxious to enter the therapeutic relationship in the third question, and it is an offensive question, to make it clear-you are wrong, you have a problem, and I know what happened to you. After the client took the initiative to extend a hand of friendship to the doctor and was rejected, the doctor’s aggressive behavior was exchanged for the client’s answer: “For some people, only this method can be learned.” The client resists, defends, and transfers Focus, and re-interpret "I am passive" and "I am teaching the other party to learn~", not only decriminalizes and decriminalizes, but also explains that aggressive behavior is an act of helping others out of kindness and good deeds.
The doctor didn't notice, and continued to expose the other side's scars—"But, you taught them, and you paid the price." Of course, what I got was the client's—silence. The doctor asked the third unprofessional question-"Do you want to discuss this? No matter what the problem is that bothers you." After the doctor picked out the question and was rejected, he immediately generalized the question to " Any questions?" And a new window "What bothers you" has been added. The subject of "aggressive behavior" has been transformed into "that bothers you." The subject of the semantically referred to behavior has shifted from the subjectivity and initiative of "you like to fight" to the subject of "what? who? bothers you" , Passivity. The client followed the doctor’s suggestion and guidance to answer "Why is there something bothering me?", the client entered a passive and reactive behavior mode, not only acting as the victim, but also opposing "why" and "there is something" ""want". Next, he operated the mode of "exemption-lying" when facing the captain, and connected to the issue of racial discrimination-"Because I jumped on a white man? Am I going to be a little wrong? Send him off." See a psychiatrist, the nigger tried to kill his master, he must be crazy."
"Is that your wife?" Fischer was strangled by the psychiatrist when he took the initiative to change. And he was forced to a corner by the doctor-out of the "prototype". Assuming that the doctor is willing to destroy the therapeutic relationship, Fischer must be forced to immediately show the original form of S-R (stimulus-response). So how does the doctor plan to use it? No use! It seems that the client cannot cooperate and is unwilling to discuss the issues specified by the doctor. Therefore, the doctor immediately increased the threat and forced the client to return to the topic set by the doctor with the after-effects (results) of the behavior-"Are you seeking to retire?" and "That is the direction you are heading". Of course, the client denied that "I didn't expect that", and then began to fight back-if I wanted to leave the Navy, I would leave. The doctor again forced the provocative "Leave without authorization", forcing the client to jump over the wall in a hurry, "Yes, if the Navy wants that." The doctor also defined the client's response as an "avoidance strategy" and immediately said, "How can you solve your troubles if you escape?" The answer was "I have no troubles." After the two sat down, the doctor asked the first question "Do you like to fight" to "I have no trouble." The dialogue time was only 50 seconds. However, an unprofessional psychiatrist repeatedly attacked the patient with words (not drugs) and forced the patient to Liangshan. If it were paid for psychotherapy, this kind of aggressive behavior at the first meeting would be impossible-the clinic would have been closed long ago.
However, the doctor didn't care at all. He immediately cut into what he estimated: the cause-the trauma of the original family in childhood, and the result-the irritable and aggressive behavior in adulthood. He asked, "Who are you, Fischer?" The client ignored him. He asked loudly, "Where did you spend your childhood?" After the client answered "Cleveland", the doctor asked "Do my parents still live there?" The client answered "I never had parents." "They are dead?" The client replied embarrassingly, "I never, I never had parents." The doctor watched teasingly with his glasses hanging on and said, "That will make you a miracle in the medical world, Fisher Fischer." When the client expressed strong sentences and emotions, the sentences answered by the doctors were indeed miracles in the clinical psychology community. The doctor asked again, "Where are you from?" The client replied "I'm coming down from the rock" without even looking. Then he turned to look at the doctor to see how you look like. The doctor was unable to face the war he provoked, so he had to say "Okay" "Okay, OK!" and then "I hope to see you again next week." "I won't come back again." The client squinted at the doctor. After the doctor asked "Why not", he said "The reason is that I don't have any problems." The doctor finally looked up, put down the file and said, "I agree with you"-this was the only professional word in the whole process. But after the two sentences were added, even the child knew that the doctor was lying--opening his eyes and talking nonsense. "See you next week" and then got up and opened the door and said, "Watch out for the waiter at the door." The client took back the medical certificate and went out, and threw it directly into the trash can.
The first scene construction ended in the above-mentioned unprofessional linguistics and resistance. The psychotherapeutic consultant invited by the screenwriter from nowhere gave the first contact with psychotherapy and described it in an extremely crude way. The doctor sits low, always looking up at the client from the top of the glasses, and never looking at the client very much. Every sentence is offensive. At the beginning, the client said yes, "Is that your wife?", and at the end he showed weakness—"I have never, I have never had parents." The doctor can neither hear nor see. The client was sent here-humiliated. The doctor seems to be accustomed to it, and the client seems to be accustomed to it. Fischer threw the consultation slip in the trash can, walked into the bookstore and saw acquaintances and immediately chatted and laughed. It can be seen that this humiliation did not harm him?
Why did the doctor "dare" to attack the client, and "dare" to not deal with the resistance, but just say "see you next week"? The first reason is that he is unprofessional, and the second reason is that he is confident. The truth will be revealed next Wednesday afternoon-two tall military police escorted Fischer into the treatment room. Fischer said, "You may be able to get me here, but you can't let me talk." The doctor said, "Don't you want to talk to me?" The doctor directly moved out of the law. The beginning...there is no end without beginning...I don't care".... The next step is every Wednesday from 2 to 3 in the afternoon. One sits in a daze, and one sits in office. It turns out that this is forced treatment.
Most of the forced psychological counseling and psychotherapy in institutions (military and police, prisons, schools...) are in a "passive mode." Especially the students in the school are reluctant to be "invited" to the counseling room. The person concerned does not feel that he is wrong, bad, or willing to change, and often adopts obvious resistance or uncooperative attitude-either nonsense or silent. The client yells and the helper yells accordingly; or the client is silent but the helper persuades or blames endlessly; it will destroy the scene construction and the establishment of the therapeutic relationship, and the treatment will never start. The model used in this film is exemplary: 1. Flexible notification of the treatment course and appointment time. 2. Mandatory implementation and description of the norms of the course of treatment. 3. With the silence of home court advantage, waiting for the client to break the silence. 4. As soon as the client opens his mouth, he will start the course of treatment immediately. In this mode, whoever speaks first loses. Helpers can do other things freely because of their home court advantage. Because of the away disadvantage, the client can only be in a daze. When the client is a student, he cannot take up class time, nor can he use lunch break or sweeping time. Instead, he must use get out of class, no class or end of school time. It is forbidden to use mobile phones, computers, and sleep on your stomach, otherwise it will be useless.
Until the fifth time, Fischer began to clear his throat! cough! respite! Started to say "Wasting time...what do you want me to say?" "...There are only three courses of treatment, right?" The client succumbed. "My father's name is Edward... I was born in prison, two months after my father was murdered." "Are you trying to find her? Your mother," the doctor asked. The doctor uses not a typical psychoanalytic model, but from the very beginning, he digs into the traumatic events of the past. This is the doctor’s first question and the last solution that the doctor insists on guiding to the reconstruction of the lost family affection system.
"It must feel good!" "When you brought the shoes from her." A smile appeared on the client's face. "Yes, I feel like I'm about to get on top of her head. But I froze. That's it!". After the doctor gave empathy to the emotions of the client's behavior, the client expressed the conflicting compound sentences. The doctor asked the question later in the conflict and threw out why "Why are you frozen?" This question made the client unable to answer, and could only say "I don't know." It is great for the client to be able to correctly describe what, but it is rare for the client to understand the reason. Although the doctor gave a beautiful supporting sentence, "Okay! I'm glad you did it like this." "How do you feel?". But the client still answered the conflicting compound sentence, "It feels like I was rewarded, but I was frightened." The doctor again misused why "why?" The client tried to answer, "This is the first time I feel stronger than her. It's like a surprise." At this time, the doctor ended the topic and got up and opened a new window. " What happened to Jesse?". When the sentence pattern "A but B" appears in the client's language, especially "+A but-B", it is the time when the therapist intervenes. The doctor slipped away with "why questions" twice in a row, which meant he hadn't seen this Timeing at all.
Under the guidance of the doctor, the client recalled the past step by step. From being abandoned to being adopted, Mrs. Tate’s domestic violence, insults, beatings, intimidation, sexual assault, closing the basement... until "I won't let you beat me again! No more!" The awakening at that time. ... "Slave society"," "Why should I understand those who beat me?" The client smiled and described the current awakening. Because it was the third time (the last time), the doctor began to explain with the book. ... "We all have choices, they chose the wrong one." ... "You were sent to me because you have anger problems." "You have the right to be angry, but you must also learn to guide that anger and use it in There is a suggestive aspect." "Instead of fighting, go to the gym, punching bags, and lifting weights." "You have to put your energy in a place that is good for you." The client picked up the book and said, "Can you talk about this next week?" The doctor took advantage of this opportunity to start the second course of treatment.
Five, the second course of treatment
After the therapist has a long talk or a short summary or explanation, if the client continues to give feedback, it is an effective counseling (therapeutic) language. If the client does not give any feedback and starts a new topic, it is invalid language. The curative effect in the whole process is not the client’s past experience, the doctor’s explanation, or the book. It is the interpersonal relationship that the two people have established during the interaction process, a positive, warm, non-aggressive, and non-irritating interpersonal relationship. The attempt to continue this interpersonal interaction experience allows the treatment to enter the second stage. "I'm going to suggest you a second chance (A), isn't that what you want (B)? Stay in the navy (C)?", the client said, "Yes, sir!" What the client wanted was not A but C. The doctor used B to link AC and wisely manipulated the conditional sentence's counseling language. Most people would say, "If you want to stay in the Navy, you must continue to see a doctor."
On the aircraft carrier, the provocative Grayson said to Fischer, "Why do you read this shit book?" Fischer replied two sentences. The third sentence began to scold back, and the fourth sentence was already close to the opponent. In the sixth sentence, he pushed the opponent's head with his hands---began to attack. When the two sides pushed and were pulled apart, Grayson kept laughing-he was joking. Fischer fell angrily and turned around. Fischer went to see the doctor on time. When he saw the doctor, he burst into anger. He ridiculed the doctor and other patients with the doctor's tone and words, and even slapped the two seamen on the head. The doctor demonstrated standard processing techniques: Don't ask why you are going crazy here; Don't condemn improper behavior, don't explain the focus of his attack; Instead, he calmly asked "Do you want to come into my office?" Fischer walked in. He slammed the door hard (show it to people outside). Then he scowled and snarled loudly (showed to Fischer), but he screwed it up! Of course the fierce roar is the authority of the operations chief over his subordinates. Generally it doesn't work, and it fails here. The fact that Fei Yier faced was that after receiving the first treatment, he was angry and fighting again. The pain in Fischer's heart is manifested as a conflict between clinics. Faced with the pressure from the doctor, he failed to empathize with his pain-why am I still angry after three treatments? Why, besides being angry, I still don't know what to do? He honestly said to the doctor: "What am I going to do? Commander" "Because I don't know what I am going to do?" "I don't know what I am going to do?" Then he turned his head and left the office. The second course of treatment broke down.
The doctor went home in frustration, facing his husband and wife's problems. The doctor ignores his wife or sleeps with his wife, just prevarication with work. The doctor boarded the ship to find Fischer and asked him to resume the treatment, but Fischer did not immediately agree. When the time came, Fischer showed up on time and talked about the first trip with Cheryl. He also said to the doctor that he "want to tell you" before going out with her. The doctor goes to the patient and invites to restart the second course of treatment, which is almost impossible in the real world. Although the doctor's action is unreasonable, it is not even allowed. However, because of the initiative to visit the proposal, the second course of treatment that was originally broken was rebuilt. And the conflict between the first course of treatment and the transfer of the second course of treatment even concluded a medical-patient relationship recognized by the patient.
The conflict was a turning point. The client lost his temper to the doctor and apologized. When the treatment was restarted, both sides regarded it as okay, and they talked and laughed more familiarly. The doctor did not take the initiative to visit the invitation, and the conflict became a bad result of the first course of treatment. Because of the initiative to visit the invitation, the conflict becomes a good start for the second course of treatment. Even so, the first course of treatment must be reviewed: What are the three interviews doing? They were all talking about the client’s past life history. After three times, the client found himself “I don’t know what I’m going to do?”. Except for fitness, sandbags, and reading suggested by the doctor, the client did not know how to face the provocations of others in real life. Meaning: In the past three weeks, he has not grown or changed. Can recounting past painful experiences produce curative effects? I didn't see it on Fei Yier. The reason for this is the default orientation of the doctor.
After Ferry went out to sea, he pounced on Grayson at the bar and was locked up again. The doctor went to visit the prison and questioned the reason. He said, "Someone insulted me", "I can't accept" "I'm a joke of a virgin." Phil said that he was sexually assaulted by his eldest sister Tading in a foster family as a child, so "I hate him. (SEX)". The second outpatient visit was at the doctor's house. The doctor asked him to talk about the house he lived in. He explained all the way to joining the navy until the doctor said, "You are finished today!" Finally, the doctor agreed with his wife's idea and invited the patient to have Thanksgiving dinner at home. In fact, going to the home to see a doctor or going to have dinner at home is not something that a doctor should do to a patient.
After the abrupt questioning at the dining table caused conflict, "I have never had a real Thanksgiving." Fei Chuer, who left the table, took out a poem in front of the fireplace and gave it to the doctor. The two read aloud "Who wants to cry for that child?" ??..." Anthony himself replied "I do, I have always been willing", Anthony told the doctor through a verse, "I am very pitiful, no one pity my pity! Only I pity my pity! I am willing to help myself, no longer so pitiful !" The person concerned expressed his willingness to change, but he couldn't wait for the doctor to answer "I do too." After the doctor used nonverbal means to communicate with the client, he developed an incisive and classic "transcendence consultation language." The doctor began to explain: Because you are honest and upright, you are more honest than many people. Even when you are angry, the only dishonest thing about yourself is your desire for your family." The client said, "I don't think I need to find them." The doctor continued to convince him: "You are very upset with them because you think they don't need you, maybe they don't know!". The client asked, "Why don't they know?" The doctor said, "That's the question you need to ask them." The doctor said forgiveness, and the client immediately answered "Why should I forgive?" "You must liberate yourself so that you can continue your life" and the doctor replied. The client said, "Why do I want to go back to my home, I see, doctor." Interpreted "furious and aggressive behavior" as "honesty" and "dishonesty" as "desire for my own family"; and "forgiveness" Interpreted as "free yourself" and used as the reason and motivation to go home. This status quo of escape events, behaviors, and ideas is connected to the specially selected concepts of "honesty" and "forgiveness", and then use these two concepts to explain and connect "traumatic events", "traumatic reactions", and "unwinding solutions." , This is a perfect demonstration of "transcendence-style counseling language". Regardless of whether the doctor knows this technology or not, he succeeded in adding new intermediary variables to reassemble an upgraded version of the cognitive content without changing the client’s cognitive content.
6. Case closed
When Feiyar’s Japanese class was over, the doctor brought a book to congratulate him, then took it to the bathroom and said to him, "Do you want to go to your family?"... "Our talks are over." The doctor suddenly rushed to terminate the treatment, making the client sad and angry. He fell the book, beat the wall, screamed, and screamed. "Everyone abandoned me...My mother abandoned me, my father, Jesse and you.", "But I have always believed in people...No one will take anything from me." Hear "Jesse" The doctor immediately asked Jesse? Hearing "cow bell", the doctor immediately asked cow bell again? These are very clumsy, unprofessional helping behaviors. After the client Xu released the language of positive expectation, the two moved forward and embraced each other. The doctor said, "When you settle down, remember to tell me, I want to know everything"..., "I love you, child!" "Me too." The doctor closed the case in a strange way and strange language from the East. The time, place, method, and language that can be closed are not permitted by professional assistance. This is a bad way to close a case. Said it was for the benefit of the client, but the audience knew what it was for: for his wife to accept the invitation to the graduation ceremony of the Japanese language class of Fei Yar. What are the doctors afraid of? Along the way, the doctor became the object of Phyllan’s confession of the past and his active attachment. Instead, the doctor compensated for the abandonment of his mother and father and the death of Jesse. At the beginning, the doctor said, "Are you trying to find him? Your mother!" After closing the case, he said, "Do you want to go to your family?" Asking questions from things, all the explanations are focused on "going home." This is the theme of this film and the doctor's treatment strategy—return to the original point of being abandoned and seek the asylum of the original family.
7. Ending: Seeking Roots──A Family Journey
"Yes, I have to find them, but I can't do it without your help." Fei Yier began a journey to find his roots, but found a new object to attach to --- Cheryl. Born in prison, did not see his father, and was sent to a social support institution at the age of two months. How can he find his roots? He accepted Cheryl's suggestion, took the courage to rang the bell of Mrs. Tate's house, and faced the nightmare of six years old again. He refused to hug, he said the feeling of being oppressed back then, and said "I stilling standy, I stilling strong, I allway it ." --- He healed himself in the moment. The object of treatment is the abandoned and abused "crying child". The insight, awareness and expression of these two sentences reconstruct the positive self-image, and after affirming the self-satisfied self , Can you no longer regard the suffering of childhood as difficult and suffering? This is curative, but I don't know that it is enough to "heal". Another question is that if the curative effect is locked in the "crying child" instead of the "furiously attacking adult", will the curative effect automatically migrate? "Your father's name is Edward Earle," Mrs. Tate said moved. After flipping through the phone book and calling all day and night, I finally found Aunt Annette at midnight. "I found my family!" he said to Cheryl.
The ritualized act of redemption began: Aunt's house, found her mother's name from her birth certificate, Eva, who lives on Hodge Street. Philippine. "Do you want to see her? Are you sure?" The aunt left his girlfriend and asked her uncle to take him to see her mother. The wise aunt asked him to face the original trauma alone, leaving his girlfriend to protect his face, so that he could "react" without scruples. When he got downstairs, the Dependent Habit reappeared and said, "You won't let anything happen to me, right?" The uncle immediately replied, "Yes, Anthony, I won't let you trouble." After entering the door, after the uncle told him, his mother cried and was at a loss, the uncle took the initiative to return to the car to wait. Every word and every action of my uncle is a model for helping others. Too good! Amazing! Fei Yier introduced herself, put her hands on her mother's shoulders, told her how much she missed her, dreamed of her, and asked her why she didn't want me... Mom had been indifferent, so he kissed her and left. Back at the aunt's house, the door was crowded with dozens of relatives from the paternal line. Opening the door of the restaurant, a dozen elders sat at the sumptuous dining table. The grandmother told him "Wellcome Home!" He was no longer alone. He had a girlfriend and a lot of family.
Fei Yier told the doctor, "I accepted your suggestion, and I found... my family, and found my mother." "I forgive her in my heart, even if I don't see her again." The way to see my mother feels funny, but I did," "I have an obligation to tell you that you are right!". Next, the doctor confessed to him the secrets of his family and thanked him for being an opportunity to change his family. "Because of you, Anthony, I became a good doctor and learned to be a good husband." The two thanked each other. Does this happy ending show the two-way effect? Many helpers have achieved curative effects in the process of helping others. Phil did not go to treat the doctor. It was the doctor who treated himself in the comparison of multiple roles and relative roles. Fei Yier also treats himself in the comparison and change of multiple roles and relative roles, because the doctor's operation of curative effect cannot be detected in the whole process. In the three sessions of the first course of treatment, Fei Yier recounted his past life and role-playing experience. Fei Yier (the client) will think that these three times are treatments, he has been treated three times, and the first course of treatment has ended. When he encountered a conflict and attacked with rage, he felt heartache and frustrated. His ultimate reaction was that the treatment was ineffective. This is something that every therapist must be vigilant about. After the start of the second course of treatment, the first treatment was in the clinic. The doctor followed the current events of Fei Yier and assisted Fei Yier in the dating role. The second treatment was at the doctor's house. Because there was too much interaction with the doctor's wife, after the second half of the story about how to get to the Navy, the doctor immediately ended the meeting. The third time was in the toilet on the ship, and the doctor went to the client to close the case. The doctor did not conduct the third meeting, and directly closed the case but did not start the third course of treatment, which left the client at a loss. Fei Yier was thinking: You asked for the second course of treatment, and it hasn't been finished yet, and nothing happened yet; suddenly you came to stop - what's wrong? Where did I go wrong? I was abandoned again inexplicably. As a result, Fei Yier was once again angry, yelling, throwing things, beating walls, complaining about others, and defending himself. Is Feiyar cured? of course not. But the doctor resolutely bid him farewell and asked him to help himself --- go to your family. The ending of the film is: the doctor treated himself with the treatment of Fei Yier. Fei Yier failed in both treatments. Through the journey of seeking his roots, he started the third treatment: doing family treatment by himself...
Discussion Questions
(1) On this journey of root search, if you only find a mother like that, without the huge and passionate group of relatives and friends like the paternal line, what will the result be? Will it report back to the doctor "you are right"?
(2) Re-face the two original traumas (mother and Tate's) and speak two sets of positive language, so will the special emotional disorder that is prone to violent attacks on others be healed?
(3) Eva said, "He is my eldest son", but she is unable to face him, she dared not even look at her,...what happened to her?
(4) Please compare the doctor's wife and Fei Yier's girlfriend. What are the similarities and differences between what they do to their men?
(5) Has Feiyar's anger-prone and anger-loving problem healed? What are the efficacy factors?
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