From "God Bless Bobby", to "Haven", and then to "The Erased Boy", three movies have given me more influence on the influence of religion and culture on homosexuality, and sexual orientation correction therapy has more influence on homosexuality. A deeper understanding.
The families in the three films all believe in religion, so the initial views on homosexuality are all disgusting and disgusting, thinking that this is a sin. Therefore, the children in the three films were initially sent by their parents to receive so-called sexual orientation correction therapy, hoping to change themselves and become "the person that God loves." But is sexual orientation correction therapy really useful? The answer is of course no. As the female doctor in "The Erased Boy" said, this is not a pathology, it's just a matter of her own choice. Sexual orientation correction therapy, it sounds good, but how many people have really changed themselves from it?
In my opinion, Bobby in "Blessed Bobby" has the shadow of Cameron in the treatment camp, and James in "Safe Haven" has the shadow of Gary in the treatment camp. Like Cameron, Bobby was spurned and broken by his family when he didn't know how to continue because he was a homosexual. How could such disappointment and even despair be bearable by a young man? Therefore, they chose the way to end their lives, and left nothing but regrets and sorrows. James also participated in orthopedic treatment and came out of it, but when he returned to real life, he realized that he had not changed. He still loved Charlie, and this love was only hidden during the treatment. Therefore, he is very similar to Gary in this movie. He hides his true emotions in the treatment camp and shows only the side that the instructors hope, because they don't want to change and will not be changed. The protagonist Jared in "The Erased Boy" gradually discovered the distortion of these treatments in the treatment camp, and found that these treatments would not be effective at all, so he finally escaped, and he faced himself again and made a choice—— I will not change.
I believe there are many more of these examples in real life... Sexual orientation correction therapy not only does not help these children, but it is forcing them to go to a dead end. Those crazy experimental homework, those inhuman training and punishment, are they? This is what a different child who only loves should endure. Is this what God wants to see? I think it's not! As the pastor in "God Bless Bobby" said, there are faults in the Bible. As Bobby's mother said in "God Bless Bobby", God did not heal Bobby because he was not wrong. I believe that God loves every kind person, and he will not be scrupulous about him because of the difference in love. Even if the road ahead is bumpy, you don't need to change yourself, because you are not wrong, and love is not wrong. So, when you are still wondering and hesitating about being gay, please believe in yourself, go on firmly, learn to accept your own differences, and learn to be proud of yourself. In addition, I would like to talk about "God Bless Bobby" and the two mothers in this film. The change in their attitude towards their children can be regarded as a turning point for the two films. In contrast, Jared may be more fortunate, because when his mother learned about the real situation of the treatment camp, when Jared asked her for help, she resolutely chose to stand up and help and rescue her child. And she also realized that some things can be corrected, but this can't be done. After she rescued Jared, the conversation with Jared in the restaurant made me deeply touched. She realized that her silence on this issue caused irreparable harm to the child. At the same time, she also made up her mind to do something this time. With a different decision, she will support Jared and even persuade Jared's father to learn to accept Jared.
In "God Bless Bobby", Bobby's mother believed that Bobby was at fault before and even after his death, and was looking for ways to let God redeem Bobby. It was not until she walked into a church that accepted homosexuality, read books about homosexuality, and contacted the parents of homosexual children, that she gradually understood why God did not heal her children because he was not wrong. Afterwards, Bobby's mother's speech at the hearing hit the heart directly and heartbroken. She regretted that she hadn't listened to Bobby's heart, and regretted her lack of knowledge of homosexuality, so that she stepped Bobby step by step, and finally came to an end. From then on, Bobby’s mother devoted her life to fighting for gay rights. She said, “When you say Amen at home or in church, please remember that a child is listening.”
The attitudes of the two mothers changed, not only because they loved their children deeply, but also because they finally understood that this is not a disease, that there is nothing wrong with the children, and there is nothing wrong with love. I hope that more family members will be able to think more deeply and empathically when facing the problem of their children being gay, more understanding and tolerance, more support and encouragement, this is just a choice about love, it has nothing to do. other. They don't want to lose you, they need love and support, because the road they take is more bumpy and harder.
Finally, the ending song "Revelation" of this movie also touched me a lot. I ended with my thoughts on this song. Maybe we sometimes feel confused for ourselves, maybe we sometimes stay away from home because of conflicts with family members, but please remember that God loves every kind person, and God loves everyone who they are. There are always people just like myself, and there are always people who can understand and support themselves. Even if the road ahead is bumpy, you don't need to change, please continue to move forward slowly and continue to be yourself.
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