When we tell a story, we often regard ourselves as witnesses of our own lives and others as performers of the story. And often, it is difficult for us to find a correct angle about ourselves. It is difficult for us to see what we really are. When we face ourselves, we will deliberately avoid some things, but what we want others to see is something different from ourselves. This is normal.
Both Alison and Noah are good people (at least they think or want others to think), and they are both right. Treem said "Most people are trying to be kind but because communication is really difficult on a fundamental level, we end up hurting each other unintentionally. That was something I was keeping in mind as I started writing these characters: They're trying hard to be kind. But they fuck up, like everybody does. "
Even so, these two people still insisted on making themselves the heroes of the story. The narrative angles of the two people are different. You believe that the protagonist understands the voice of the other person better, and each audience has their own understanding.
Treem said "I think which character feels the most truthful to you does tell you lot about yourself because we were trying very hard as writers not to judge one side or the other, to tell both narratives as truthfully as we could. So I think when the balance gets tipped, it has to do with the audience member's own personality."
"When people go looking for affairs, it's not because they're unhappy with their spouse but because they're unsatisfied with who they've become." Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity
This is exactly what reflects the truth of this drama. There was nothing unforgivable in their lives before their marriage. The big mistake was that they had to change. Even Noah and Helen’s family made outsiders seem very happy; their personalities and their marriages all have something that everyone will have. The flaws and deficiencies, trivialities and small noises. Looking at the process of derailment and the burden after the divorce, the audience may not understand the choice of the protagonist, but Noah's inner feelings and his desire for the spotlight are destined to take this step sooner or later, and Alison is so unlucky to "break through." "When I came in, or when Alison was about to be unable to hold it during the most difficult time, Noah's change "broke" into her life. In this drama, every step of the development is not about right or wrong but closely related to the character's personality, so all of them Alison, Noah, Helen, Cole, Witney, Scott, Max, etc. all closely attract the audience, not the director. Manipulating them.
Our behavior and abilities are actually unpredictable. It's just that the circumstances are different, whether the environment allows it. You think you are like this, you create a role for yourself, and then the external factors have changed drastically, you are likely to make reactions and behaviors that you never expected. You will say that it depends on people, but In fact, the possibility of this behavior exists in everyone's genes. Alison, Noah, Helen, and Cole, gradually you will find that they are not one-sided, not always sweet or irresponsible, and they cannot be said to be worthy or not worthy of. The inner self is released, just like a wheel turning, one must move forward. Sometimes when you look back, you don't know how your life got here, you don't know what happened and how it happened, but it really happened. That once, no matter how badly you miss it, you can never go back. It's like a slap on your face, you can only stay awake. What's more, your memories have been processed by you. They may not be honest narratives. Regret is useless.
"You have a lot to lose. Life is dangerous. You don't have to necessarily go to war for certain days of our lives to feel completely treacherous."-Sarah Treem
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