One extra sentence: Surprisingly, the male lead and the female lead got married very early in the film! ! ! I thought it was a love story.
(1) The feeling of loneliness of the hostess, in fact, every unhappy housewife has it.
Scene 1: The
male protagonist goes to buy drugs, he comes back after the addiction, the female protagonist waits impatiently (and loses the opportunity to share, and sharing can fill the loneliness), angry and unreasonably complaining.
Scene 2: The
male lead watches TV, and the female lead complains that the sound and dazzling light affect her sleep. The male protagonist discusses the matter and wraps himself and the TV with a big screen instead of shutting down to accompany the female protagonist.
Shot 3: The
male protagonist is doing crosswords under the lamp. The female protagonist complains that the light is bright and the pen and the paper are noisy, and still can't make the male protagonist to accompany him. After the effort is ineffective, it breaks out and throws the ashtray to the male protagonist. Bleeding.
The woman wants to be company and love. If they can’t get it, they complain and find fault. As a result, the man is even more reluctant to accompany him. This is different from the lifestyle of many ordinary couples! !
Shot in ordinary life, but is replaced by the husband to work overtime in the unit to play games, buy food or to complete the task fling into the kitchen to lay into the sofa watching TV ......
(b) desperate life, can temporarily moment in the drug Forget to get a little pleasure.
Both people are lack of love.
The male protagonist does not care about his parents, and the female protagonist is too strict with his parents, but loves very little. The film hints at this point. The heroine's mother is a strict mother and has no tolerance or patience for the heroine. Both of them like art (the male protagonist writes poems, the female protagonist loves to draw pictures). This plot setting is not hypocritical, but very real: art can release and relieve part of the mental anxiety and pain. But art cannot solve the problem of eating.
Ultimately, art, sex, and drugs cannot make up for the lack of love.
Only company is better. However, it is difficult for two people who have lost heat to hug each other, and it is easier for them to get cold on each other.
In the film, when facing the heroine, he will clearly see his incompetence, and the hero will begin to avoid the heroine. In the beginning, the male protagonist borrowed money from his old friend for many years (it is estimated that he has not returned it). Later, the male protagonist borrowed money from Mr. Zhun Yue, the female protagonist sold jewelry in exchange for money, and the female protagonist sold his body to make money...Any man with self-esteem would wither. Although the heroine herself doesn't mind, even though the hero doesn't say anything. So, there was a gap, and we started quarreling.
In the poor and humble life, men lack a sense of responsibility for life or are not considerate or even beat and scold their wives. Sometimes it is not because men do not love their wives, but because they cannot face their incompetence, and therefore cannot respond to their wives’ requests for concern. How can a person with low self-esteem have the power to love?
Later, the hostess developed to live in a mental hospital. The male protagonist found a job to make a living (refused the assistance of his parents-in-law).
Later, the female lead was discharged from the hospital and came to the male lead happily, but the male lead hurt the female lead with ruthless words and eliminated the chance of reunion.
Yes, the hostess still has a family behind her back. The male protagonist has nothing (materially), and he does not want to go back to the life without self-esteem (and don’t want to rely on the female lead family).
Despite love, people yearn for. However, if one thing called self-esteem is missing, love is ultimately just a dream.
In the movie, it is hard to meet a fellow of the opposite sex, but he gives up because the man cannot afford the material conditions needed for life (tragic for both parties).
In reality, there are marriages where only the man’s financial ability + the woman’s physical appearance, and giving up the pursuit of emotional communication is another tragedy.
People always say that they are willing to live an ordinary and happy life. It seems that you can be happy if you are willing to be ordinary.
In fact, ordinary happiness requires emotional ability while giving up unrealistic material goals, then happiness can be achieved. But if you don’t have the emotional capacity and emotional conditions to be happy (at least have a loving relative, parent or mother or spouse), then no matter whether you endure hardship or enjoy the best, you will not be happy.
The reason why people put their happiness on the hope of having a lot of money is that on the one hand, there are indeed many difficulties in being poor. On the other hand, emotional difficulties are too difficult to solve. It is better to transform into the pursuit of prosperity and wealth, regardless of whether it is achieved or not. , At least the goal is specific.
However, emotional problems cannot be circumvented. Without knowing it, it plays a decisive role in the dark. It is often:
disordered parent-child emotions, disordered growth, disordered resolution, disordered earning, disordered life, disordered next generation.
So don't talk about spirit. It is the source of all activities.
Going back to this movie, although it starts with tragedy and ends with sorrow. But, at least, ever loved. Although the two older children are unable to protect and maintain this love.
(3)
All addictions are addictions...workaholics, foodies, games, sexual promiscuity, eros, drugs...
all addictions are escapes. Escape the pain. Suffering stems from lack of love and creates emptiness.
The most extreme escape is suicide. But taking drugs is just another way-slower than hanging up, faster than smoking and drinking.
[Digression]
(1) I
really like the performance of the actors in this movie. Although I don't know each other, but the acting is really good.
For example, when the heroine said that she had a baby, she embraced her father and wept. The expression on the side of her mother was sad, without any joy. If you haven't seen such a real mother in reality, you don't know how well the acting is.
(2) After
having a child, the male lead and the female lead are determined to detoxify the child. But it's hard to control yourself. The scene of a conversation at the water's edge is a scene where they make up their minds after repeated failures. The bleak sky implies that this is another time of self-comfort and self-deception with great determination and difficulty in action. In the end, they are still young, without external support, and not strong enough to get rid of the inertia of the old life.
Later, the male protagonist worked every day to earn money, and his mental state was better. But the heroine is unaccompanied every day, and she has a nervous breakdown. The pain in the heroine's heart comes from the mother's injury, far more than the lack of parental love of the heroine. Therefore, the female protagonist's need for spiritual support for the male protagonist is far greater than the material need, which is why she can endure selling meat to make money. But the male protagonist can't stand this, he wants to support the two people's food and clothing problem (rather than relying on relief).
After all, the protagonist is just an older child, whose emotional ability is stronger than that of the protagonist's parents, but he really doesn't have the ability to take care of the older child of the protagonist in all aspects. (No one can replace the role of parents. Parents are not good, children are pitiful)
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