old book review is very interesting. At a certain moment of blessing to the soul, looking back after a long or short period of time, many things that were solidified in the memory in the mist of smoke suddenly distorted and took on a different appearance, which made people unable to resist. Exclaimed: It turned out to be like this... I
accidentally watched an American drama "Ghost Whisperer" (translated as "Ghost Whisperer"). It should be regarded as a "spiritual movie". It is about how a "gifted" woman can help ghosts of all kinds to fulfill their unfulfilled wishes, and then save them to heaven. In fact, it is human emotions. I have limited patience with images. A soap opera that is insignificant and sensational can still allow me to pursue it. In addition to pastime, the reason is mostly due to the heroine. Well, think about it. A young woman who runs a small craft shop and her husband, who is pleasing to the eye, but not overly handsome, considerate, yet romantic, forms an ordinary family, which is the same ordinary town as the surrounding group. Residents live a life without waves. Every day, I get involved in the world of the "ghosts" for no reason, rushing around, causing countless troubles, and even getting panic and "ghost crimes" from time to time. This "talent" is inherited from the family and becomes a family responsibility, or a burden of the family. Although she was unavoidable when she was a child, she accepted it when she was an adult, and considered herself a benevolent act of helping others. The part I am most interested in is here: she always "for no reason" put the mess of others, no, other ghosts, consciously on her own. She still has a lot of emotions, treats others as herself, and shed tears from time to time. I turned this sensational scene into a vicious conjecture: Why is a person so sympathetic? Is it a reaction to the quiet, perfect and boring life? And with this intense emotional investment, is there no limit to her endurance? Also, think about it, if your wife is such a woman who is good at worrying about herself, what will you do? In the play, her husband, who understands and tolerates his wife's natural talents and abusive personality infinitely, always stands behind him with open arms to protect her. According to my general understanding of men, this is basically not included in their nature. So I waited with great interest: when our hero's endurance comes to an end after his wife frequently helps "ghosts" and endangers himself and his family members?
But American screenwriters seem to be unaware that this is a problem. In the third season, the heroine is still teary, the actor is still gentle, the relationship between the two people is still as stable as a mountain, just like a play-look, someone threw a rotten egg at me: isn't it just a play!
So Maupassant's masterpiece "Necklace" was connected for no reason. Not long ago, a friend apparently experienced the shock of “looking back” at the beginning, and sent me a long message: “Seeing someone talking about Mathilde in "Necklace", I suddenly thought, how her husband is. He loves her! He is not a capable person, but he is also trying to please his wife and get her invitations for the prom; for her to make clothes, take out the money for buying shotguns, on the condition that'you You have to make this dress look better.'; lost the necklace, he took out his father’s inheritance, borrowed a lot of loan sharks, copied books to earn money late at night, and took on the responsibility of the man and the head of the family. His wife because of love The United States has caused a catastrophe, and the monetary losses caused are several times that of their own property. How many husbands can bear this? If it is an old and new Chinese man, how will he deal with it?"
I replied without hesitation: Chinese men, Of course it was to drive her out and let her bear it alone. In addition, he hurriedly scolded his wife and ruined his life, and public opinion would overwhelmingly support him. For example, Hong Kong movie star Zhong Zhentao failed to invest, and instead blamed Zhang Xiaohui's extravagant prodigal who married him in spite of his parents' opposition.
Yes, this kind of woman is the root of the prodigal. Although the "old-style" Chinese men move out of the "Seven Goes" rule, the procedures are quite simple, but the "old-style" women are also divided into two classes. Ximen Qing, what benefit has given a group of concubines, Wu Yueniang has to draw a big head. As for concubines, the "old-style" men also acquiesce to a rule: those who are entertaining with sensuality should not hesitate to support them. The head of the family is not so good. If you want wives and concubines in groups, you have the obligation to "raise" them. To this day, "new-style" women, like men, support their families from 9 to 5, and if the money they earn is not returned to the warehouse, or even to support the family members, it is still a major crime to spread the powder on the powder; but if She was so disgraced that she became a yellow-faced woman early, and she still inevitably attracted the contempt of "do not know how to preserve the self-charm in marriage". Women have added the burden of the "new style" but cannot exempt them from the obligation of the "old style".
The friend continued to sigh: "The big people do not love the country and the beautiful people, and the way of retreat is far better than the life of ordinary people, but it will be a little lonely. The small people face such a number, it is a huge disaster. Compared with the latter, the pressure on the latter is greater. Much more. Mathilde loves beauty and vanity, but once encountered such a thing, he immediately shows the heroic spirit of bearing the consequences, dismisses the servant, competes with others for a copper in the vegetable market, and consumes it in labor. The beauty that I am most proud of, and I never thought of squandering accounts and escaping..."
So, look, the theme of "Necklace" is not like what we received in the era when we regarded textbooks as a standard, but "criticizing the vanity of the petty bourgeoisie." The mind and the thought of pursuing pleasure". The loss of the necklace was an accident and a mischief of fate. It overturned their peaceful life overnight, but in the face of a huge blow, the vulgar clerk, Mathilde, and the vain little lady, all showed extraordinary performance. Yes, no, "mortal" courage. Mathilde lost his youth and beauty, so that he could finally raise his head and say: "Now that I have paid off, I am strong and satisfied." Then he smiled with "a burst of arrogance and innocent joy." . But the necklace is fake, and their patience and sacrifice for many years suddenly floats and is worthless. Maupassant lowered the curtain sternly in one second, leaving Mathilde alone in the pit of fate, much more cruel, not giving a line, leaving only a permanent silence. Yes, destiny can stretch out a finger at any time to crush them—no, us mortals—and we can't do anything about it, but dignity and spirit do not disappear because of the cruelty and absurdity of fate. Because we can make a choice. I think this is what Maupassant said.
Zhang Xiaohui was originally a rich daughter, and luxury was not a guilt to her, but a habit. Her "guilt" was marrying a man who could not bear it. But she refused to learn from Zhong Zhentao's self-delegation and became a poor citizen and escaped. She would rather take on astonishing debts alone, earn money to repay the debts, and still enjoy the luxurious style she loves. I like this kind of spirit.
Needless to say, a man like Loisel, Mr. Bovary described by Flaubert, now looks quite rare. Emma committed not only "vanity", but also "fascination". After suffering the shame of deception and betrayal, Emma committed suicide by poisoning herself. In order to pay off her debts, Dr. Bovary sold all her possessions. Later, he accidentally discovered his wife's secret and was heartbroken, but he still chose to forgive, thinking that "what is wrong is fate." This "talking like a sidewalk is as flat as a sidewalk, with vulgar opinions, and dressed as ordinary pedestrians, can't arouse emotions, nor can it arouse laughter or dreams", a boring man who can't swim, can't compete with swords, and can't shoot guns. Emma who can tolerate naive and naive dreams. So, maybe I was wrong. Isn't it too difficult for a husband to tolerate his wife in "Ghost Whisperer"?
Just looking around in life, there are so many bad examples.
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