There is a kind of people who do not fall in love easily and seem to be sensible. However, once they fall in love, they are completely plunged into and completely believe in the destined love, the hopeless romance, and let the heart walk on the edge of danger; the other kind of people often fall in love and are naturally romantic. , But cannot equate love with eternity, enjoying the sweetness of love, rejecting the bitterness of love, and the extreme rationality in the bones is a kind of self-protection. The above is exactly the movie "500 Days of Love" (500 Days of Summer)'s love portrayal: When the boy Tom who believes in love meets the girl Summer who does not believe in love, Tom thinks that Summer is the true goddess he has been looking for for a long time. In a sudden love song, I never thought that it would last forever, just be happy now. The very different attitudes of love between the two are also a true portrayal of many lovers. However, when love comes, who can think about it so much, no matter if you have it forever or once, love first, let's talk about it. And this "more talk" is first placed in the humble corner of time. As the time gets along, it slowly evolves from the edge to the center point. Just like the relationship between the two people has not been clearly stated, a clear position is needed. Tom is no longer content with the natural state of "just happy". The more he likes Summer, the more he wants to confirm her love. If he is her "well-known" boyfriend, not just a good friend who can go to bed and make love; The weird Summer couldn't make promises. Her attitude was the same as at the beginning. When the two were together, happiness was the most important thing, and she didn't care about the others. The more Tom stared at others, the more Summer wanted to escape, and the joyous atmosphere between the two gradually disappeared, replaced by suffocating dignity and anxiety. Then one day, Summer left silently, and Tom's world suddenly collapsed. He didn't understand why love is so painful? He lost his soul mate, but also lost himself. He tried his best to find his true destiny, but found that what he had lost was not love, but his firm belief in love: once he loved, he couldn't let it go. I always thought that as long as I love, everything will change. I never expected that after love, what is left to him is the endless bitter fruit that can only be tasted by one person. This seemingly ordinary story is constantly being played out in real life. Sometimes we are deeply attached, Tom who loves to the end; sometimes we are Summer who loves freedom. And love occurs from similar magnetic fields. My favorite music and movies are almost 100% consistent. The childish nature makes getting along with each other interesting and romantic. The two get along very well, and they always talk about everything. We know that deep love for each other is love. , But after love, must there be results? Just like two originally independent individuals, after entering each other’s space, they got used to getting along day and night. Suddenly one of them wanted to return to the original world. The one who was left behind looked sadly at the back of the other, only feeling I was abandoned, but I forgot that what I fell in love with was the unruly disposition of the other party and the alternative behavior of not playing cards according to the cards. I used to like the most. Traits, in the end, became the fatal injury of the two gradually moving away. I think of a friend who, like Tom, has been guarding what he thinks is the "destiny girl" for two years. But the difference between him and Tom is that the girl was not his lover at the beginning. The girl has a boyfriend who treats her "very casually", and often hurts the girl's heart. As long as the girl is in a bad mood, he will complain to him. He is also willing to be. The girl's "important" confidant of the opposite sex, he thought that as long as he was always there, one day he would surely be able to "see the moon and the moon." He said: The way a girl boyfriend loves her is like "fire", crazy and enthusiastic, and he has to swallow her up to be reconciled; the way he loves a girl is like "water", rational and quiet, just wanting to give her a fresh and beautiful life like water. He firmly believes that only water can extinguish the fire, and only the long-flowing love can last. One day, he will become the only male protagonist in the girl's heart. Two years later, the girl finally broke up with her boyfriend in a state of extreme pain. He also appeared next to the sad girl in a timely manner like a guardian. He seemed to be the driftwood of the girl, taking care of her everything. He felt that the girl gradually couldn't live without him. After waiting so long, it was time to be promoted from a supporting actor to a leading actor. He confessed to the girl, and the girl accepted him naturally. Originally, he thought that the love affair, which was so hard to achieve, would continue as he expected. Unexpectedly, after only a month, the girl called out for a card urgently. The girl apologized and said to him: "You are really nice. I have never met a good boy like you. I know that I will be very happy to be with you, and I also want to be with you. However, it seems that I can only regard you as a confidant and cannot fall in love with you. So, I'm really sorry! You are very important to me, and I will always be your best friend. "A girl's words are like a bolt from the blue. After so long, he did not receive a love certificate, but he received a lifelong good person card. He could not accept this cruel fact. He spent all his time drinking to dissipate his sorrows, and even hated girls. I asked him: "Do you really love that girl? He nodded. "But I think you love yourself more!" He was surprised at my conclusion. "From beginning to end, you insist on being with the girl. Even if a girl breaks up with her boyfriend, it doesn't mean that she will fall in love with you. "If she doesn't love me, why should she accept my kindness to her?" "She thinks you are her confidant!" Besides, after you confessed, she also tried to associate with you, proving that she worked hard to love you! She didn't deceive your feelings, she told the truth, did she? "Her ex-boyfriend doesn't understand what she is thinking? She also said that we two really fit together, and only I really understand her. Why is this not love? She doesn't Can accept my love, but recently fell in love with another bad card, her misfortune was caused by herself. "Understanding does not mean love, nor does love mean understanding. You are a good man, but she will fall in love with a bad man. You say you hate her a little bit now, it is because the fact that she doesn't love you hurts you. It’s just because the result she gave is different from what you expected. Just like you said that only water can extinguish the fire, but she only likes the feeling of moths fighting the fire. No matter how important water is, if she doesn’t want to drink, she just wants to jump into the fire. No matter how moisturized water is, it's useless! If you really love her, respect her choice. If love becomes hate, it means that you don't love her that much, and you love yourself more. Since you love yourself, the pain will always pass. Since she is not your true destiny, you can let her bless her, and don't let hate destroy the beautiful friendship outside of love. I feel that my friends, like Tom, are in love with the imagination of love. I imagine that the destined goddess in my heart will one day be touched by my dedication. I imagine that the throne of the first actor next to the girl must ultimately belong to me. Or it should be said that they believe that the imaginary result is the only result, so that it is difficult to accept the actor's throne even if he changes his master, the owner will never have his own embarrassment. It doesn't matter because I care too much and can't ignore the other party; because I have expectations, I can't bear the heavy loss of hopelessness. Of course, as long as there is love, there will be expectations. If you love someone deeply in your heart, of course you will long for love to continue. It is not wrong to seek a beautiful result, but the "result" should be the consensus of the two, not your own wishful thinking. Think. The two have a similar spirit, get along naturally, and everything in life fits perfectly, but why can't they come to an end? The key may be that one believes in destiny, but the other is still unable to determine his mind. Different attitudes to love are the fundamental problem, and the answer to the problem is hidden in the daily relationship. There are always strengths and weaknesses in the relationship between the two. People who love more deeply will unconsciously match each other's preferences, and everything will be based on each other. Tom in the movie focuses all his attention on Summer. He can't see anyone except Summer. He knows what Summer likes him, and he is used to pleasing her. The inexplicable fascination with Summer makes her unique in his eyes. Top diamonds, he likes even Summer's weird behavior, he also accepts them all. You can even turn yourself into someone who doesn't look like you in order to make her happy. The difference is that Summer is still the original calm appearance: cry as you want, laugh as you want, do whatever you want, don't change for anyone, and don't want Tom to change for her. When the scales of love are completely tilted, lose The one who goes to self is destined to be the loser. How to keep oneself in love and be able to fall in love with each other is always the biggest problem in love. When we were Tom, we wished to turn ourselves into Summer’s favorite appearance; when we were Summer, we didn’t want to accept everything Tom gave. Only because of the unequal relationship, it is impossible to carry too much love. The extra love becomes a heavy burden on the other party's heart. In other words, love that is only left with a heavy burden will no longer be happy, and love that begins to feel pain has no meaning for Summer. However, does Summer really know nothing about love? That's not all. When the two met again after breaking up, Tom suddenly realized that Summer, who didn't want to be anyone's "girlfriend" before, was married as a woman. This cruel fact slapped him severely. It turns out that her love is not asking for results, she just doesn’t want results with him; it turns out that she can’t establish a relationship, she just can’t determine her relationship with him; it turns out that she can’t live with another person for a long time, she just doesn’t want to be with him from time to time. Just be together. He had thought about thousands of ways to save Summer, and finally realized that the truth was only one sentence: He was not Summer's "true son". So it's useless no matter how much he spends his thoughts, his knowledge of Summer is only his imagination after all. In the end, it was not Summer’s decision that hurt, but his paranoia about "destined": he opened his eyes clearly, but jumped over the shadows in front of him, thinking that as long as they are together, the sun is shining, and they ignore the difference in love between the two. , Is what made him so sad. If there is no mutual agreement, "destined" is just a love dream that is difficult to realize after all. Just like Tom who just wants to live in "summer", he can't feel the breath of spring, autumn, and winter, nor can he feel the beautiful life outside of his dreams. Until "Summer" walked far away, it took away all the madness and happiness, leaving only a huge black hole that was not filled in any way, leaving him alone to struggle between love and hate. There are countless questions in his mind, and thousands of answers have been thought of, but the correct solution is "unsolvable" that he can't think of. Just because there is no logic to follow in love, just like the unbelievable Summer, there is no plan, and it is not clear what is right? But one day, she suddenly felt Tom's feelings for herself, and she also found a complete match in that person's eyes. She finally knew what "destined" means! Tom feels right about her, but it's a pity that Tom is just the second actor in her heart, and after all, it can only become a beautiful episode in her life. When T Om finally stripped off the coat of imagination and found that everything was empty. Only then did he understand the truth of love: there is no right or wrong, just different. He finally stopped asking why? Gently put down the sad soul, turned and walked out of the dream. The oncoming breeze reminded him that it was time to say goodbye to summer and walk into autumn. Like Tom, I believe in destined encounters, and I was obsessed with the unique world with my lover. I simply thought that it was all about love. It wasn't until the boy's similar confusion and painful feelings appeared that he finally realized a simple truth: it turned out that he thought differently from me. The reason why I get hurt is because I think we think the same, ignoring that similarity does not mean the same. We can love each other, but we are not the same country, and this is something no matter how hard we try. Besides, love is not a matter of one person after all. Now I have learned to look at love from a different perspective: Tom recognizes that Summer is the first heroine in his heart, but Summer thinks that Tom is only her second heroine, so he can only look at her back forever, thinking Love can only be imagined. Different cognitions are destined to become parallel lines after the intersection. If Tom understands the difference between each other, he won't be stuck in the quagmire of "I love Summer so much, why doesn't she love me enough?" There is no reason, but the fate of walking the long road together is missing. Love is complicated, but it is simpler than any emotion. On the last day of Tom’s splendid "Five Hundred Days of Love in Summer", I saw him bravely step out of summer, and truly feel the beauty of autumn. It turns out that he can also be the first actor in autumn; it turns out that the so-called love does not require guessing at all. As long as each other's hearts are determined, and on the same road, walking forward, you may be able to see the correct answer to "destined". Originally published in: It's not a person's business. Now I have learned to look at love from a different perspective: Tom recognizes that Summer is the first heroine in his heart, but Summer thinks that Tom is only her second heroine, so he can only look at her back forever, thinking Love can only be imagined. Different cognitions are destined to become parallel lines after the intersection. If Tom understands the difference between each other, he won't be stuck in the quagmire of "I love Summer so much, why doesn't she love me enough?" There is no reason, but the fate of walking the long road together is missing. Love is complicated, but it is simpler than any emotion. On the last day of Tom’s splendid "Five Hundred Days of Love in Summer", I saw him bravely step out of summer, and truly feel the beauty of autumn. It turns out that he can also be the first actor in autumn; it turns out that the so-called love does not require guessing at all. As long as each other's hearts are determined, and on the same road, walking forward, you may be able to see the correct answer to "destined". Originally published in: It's not a person's business. Now I have learned to look at love from a different perspective: Tom recognizes that Summer is the first heroine in his heart, but Summer thinks that Tom is only her second heroine, so he can only look at her back forever, thinking Love can only be imagined. Different cognitions are destined to become parallel lines after the intersection. If Tom understands the difference between each other, he won't be stuck in the quagmire of "I love Summer so much, why doesn't she love me enough?" There is no reason, but the fate of walking the long road together is missing. Love is complicated, but it is simpler than any emotion. On the last day of Tom’s splendid "Five Hundred Days of Love in Summer", I saw him bravely step out of summer, and truly feel the beauty of autumn. It turns out that he can also be the first actor in autumn; it turns out that the so-called love does not require guessing at all. As long as each other's hearts are determined, and on the same road, walking forward, you may be able to see the correct answer to "destined". Originally published in:http://blog.sina.com.cn/aiyung
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