Love is a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families or even two families. We already know this truth, but this film says that young people are still too naive. When you think you are in love with the person in front of you, you look at him, handsome or beautiful, poor or rich, humorous or rigorous, open or reserved, with arrogance and burden attached,
All the advantages and disadvantages are presented one by one, you feel that you already know everything, you still love him madly, and you plan to spend a lifetime with him.
So, to expand a little bit, what does it mean to live with someone who has been completely irrelevant for the past two or three decades.
First of all, in the next fifty or sixty years, you drink the same bottle of wine, eat the same dish, watch the same movie, sleep in the same bed, and watch the same city scenery... His family is also your family, his habit To fit into your habit, his future largely overlaps your future,,,,
Of course it's much more than that.
You don't just want to be with him, not just his work, wealth, living habits, not just his family, not just his future, but also his past, and the pain he has endured, the setbacks he has encountered, And his preferences, taboos, unspeakable secrets, the inferiority complex and knots he hides, all the embarrassment that no one knows about, people just take it as innocent, noble and reserved, even he himself thinks so.
Every time I have suffered, even if the wound has healed, the path has been smoothed out by time, but the scar is deeply embedded in the soul, and it lasts for a long time.
It's like a maze, and I don't know the way out. But the wound will bite back on you.
In "Love in a Fallen City", Fan Liuyuan said to Bai Liusu: I not only want you to love me, but also want you to understand me. Even I can't understand myself, but I want you to understand me.
At first glance, it makes people laugh and laugh, so willful and unreasonable, this is a small game used by lovers to add interest.
It was not until later that I fell in love, was powerless, and failed in love, that I understood the danger and the helplessness that was almost desperate—even I couldn’t understand myself, but I beg you to understand me, please.
Love me and you heal me - love can't bear the weight.
That's why the film finally crossed the class, but only maintained the marriage for six hours.
But ah, don't rush to despair.
A famous director said a paragraph, to the effect that you pay a price, not only to buy my current ability and time, but also to buy every sip of wine, every meal I have eaten, and every meal I have seen. Every movie, every book I have read, every city scenery I have visited... All these pasts constitute the current me and my works. You pay for these, how can it be cheap?
Is it similar to marriage?
Many people are afraid of trouble and try to save trouble, but they don't know that marriage is actually a higher-level cooperation. If you want a high-quality marriage, the difficulty factor increases exponentially.
Love may be at your fingertips, but marriage is never easy.
Good things are "expensive".
At the end of the film, the heroine is married to a cellist who loves her. She was frightened by the hero's semen and fled, but had three children with the cellist. They performed in the hall with thunderous applause. She lives everything she wants in life, except for the male protagonist. Finally, she glanced at him and shed a tear.
Sigh. Other than that, nothing else.
She had already been cured by the cellist, and the inner demons that had plagued her had been solved. As for the man, how about crying bitterly in the audience.
Love is such a simple thing, it can be done by instinct alone. However, if you want to get married, form a family, and want to love each other for a long time, you need both hard work and wisdom.
Don't give up, don't give up, pay attention to every gap and doubt, find clues in the old things, travel through time and space to forgive each other, embrace each other, comfort each other and redeem each other.
I don't just love you, I love healing you - the weight that marriage has to endure.
Only after experiencing it can you see the most beautiful appearance of love.
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