The reason why face has a lot to do with love is that face is essentially blocking individual freedom in the name of the collective, and true love must be based on freedom. Therefore, if face is preserved everywhere, love will be suppressed. So the film is passed on to us, for the sake of love, we have to lose face. But there seems to be a contradiction here, that is, we often say "loving face". Maybe someone will say that face can also give people a sense of happiness to a certain extent. There is face, and this face will give him a sense of happiness. In this way, face does not seem to be a negative value orientation, but varies from person to person and from culture to culture.
But is it actually so? Let's take a closer look. In the film, when the grandmother was in critical condition, she tried to save face, insisted that she was all right, and refused to notify her daughter. As a result, she and her daughter could not see each other until they died. On the surface, grandma's wish is not to let her daughter come, but in fact we can infer that she wants to see her daughter in her heart, but because of the face of herself and her wife (grandfather), she chose not to let her daughter come. As a result, for the sake of face, she gave up her best choice. In the same way, for the sake of face, my mother gave up her lover and chose to marry someone she didn't love. Wil almost lost his lover in order to save face. Therefore, we can find that the choice made for the sake of face will never be the best choice, because the opposite of face is the freedom of the individual, and the choice that can hurt your own freedom will definitely not be your best choice.
In fact, I think that the face in "Love Face" is not only unique to the Chinese. Conformity, restricting individual freedom in the name of the collective, exists in many places and cultures. And Chinese people's face actually contains a large part of inferiority complex, but in the material-rich Chinese American community, this is almost non-existent. Professors, doctors, dancers, the characters in the film are already very rich in material life, and the face caused by inferiority is basically gone. In relatively backward China, this kind of face is still prevalent. Giving gifts, setting wine, these faces are closely related to inferiority. Li Yinhe's research on China's rural areas shows that the main expenditure of a peasant family is spent on weddings, funerals, and marriages. It can be seen that this has something to do with people's inferiority complex.
Well, we're going to throw away our face and release our freedom. But the deep-rooted culture of face has existed for thousands of years before you were born, that is to say, if you were born in an environment of face culture, it is difficult to get rid of its shackles, so to a certain extent, you are also will love face. But it is also the love of face, but I think there are three levels: the first is that I have seen the drawbacks of the face culture, but lack the courage and opportunity to formally declare war with it, and are still entangled with face, such as Wil in the film; second The first is to live in the face culture, which is not pleasant, but I don’t know where the problem is, so I don’t know where the way out is, like the mother in the film; the third is to be trapped in the face culture, although I understand the drawbacks of the face culture, Not only does he not face the problem, but he is proud of his face, and he also wants to let the people around him join the ranks of the face, taking self-abuse as the pleasure, and opposing all the good things that go against face, like the grandfather in the film.
In my opinion, the first two kinds of people can still break free from the whirlpool of face, while the third kind of people have become the guardians of face, the enemies of freedom, and they are almost unchangeable.
About gay love, I experienced in the film the same as what I experienced and learned about heterosexual love. The love between Vivian and Wil is very beautiful and touching, especially the image of Vivian who dares to love and dare to do something deeply captured me. Her dedication to love and dedication to love make people love and move, and also remind me of "Tokyo" Li Xiang in Love Story. I gradually discovered that I like free women more than reserved women. Not only because free girls are closer to human nature, but also because when two people are together, the freer side actually suffers more. Although both are gay, Vivian is more free than Wil. When she was very successful in ballet, she resolutely transformed into modern dance. Vivian also came out with her father long ago, and the career choices of the two also changed. It can be roughly seen that Vivian is more free.
At the age of eight or nine, Vivian planted the seeds of love for Wil because of an encounter. Many years later, the two met again. Although it was love at first sight, the active party was Vivian. She took the initiative to create an opportunity to meet Wil and invited her to watch own performance. After being together, Vivian's love was also released very enthusiastically. The part of meeting at the barbed wire was really touching. At the same time, Vivian also actively hopes that the two people's lives will be more integrated. She took the initiative to meet Wil's mother and let Wil meet her friends. On her birthday night, although Vivian was pissed off by Wil's flowers and being late, she forgave her and felt so blessed to be able to spend the whole evening together. For Wil, Vivian is willing to give up the opportunity to go to Paris, and she also knows that Wil needs more courage if they want to achieve true happiness.
Vivian and Wil are the same-sex love, but they can also resonate with me and arouse my own desire for love. It can be seen that the most essential commonality of any love is love itself, and nothing else is important.
It seems that the Chinese female director Wu of this film is a homosexual herself, and this film is also an inner monologue she dedicated to her mother. No wonder this love can be expressed so touchingly, and I like this kind of autobiographical film with strong personal emotional expression. The creation of this movie is also quite legendary. The female director became a monk halfway through her dream. It took six years to finally complete this dream work. Maybe her own story will be better than this movie.
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