"The last camel in the caravan runs as fast as the first one. Whatever happens to a few people will affect all of us." This is the hometown that the heroine Wallis mentioned in her speech proverb. The life of the heroine, Hua Lisi, may not be experienced by us who were born in China, but the ideas behind her experiences affect the life of every woman.
After reading the synopsis of the movie, I also finished watching the plot. The film does not have the usual inspirational atmosphere, let alone the unbearable grief. It just adopts the method of narration and interlude to tell the life of the girl born in the Somali desert. But it will make people unable to calm down for a long time after watching the movie. The calmer it is, the more power it breeds.
1. What does the family of origin bring us?
Hua Lisi was born in the desolate, arid, and turbulent Somali desert. In this place, one thing in life is to live. When she was 12 years old, her father married her to an old man with yellow teeth for the sake of 5 camels. Wallis was born here because of her mother. Her mother ran away to this desolate place when she was young, for her father's sake, seeking love. In the face of such a life setting, I saw a completely different consciousness from the people around me who did not follow the crowd.
With her father's survival skills, she tried her best to escape the desert barefoot the night before her wedding. Then she found her grandmother, and later came to the UK to stay illegally; at the same time, she has the courage of a mother, even if she wants to die, she still has to pursue the life she wants, and she can keep her eyes on the people she likes, and she can't take her eyes off the people she doesn't love. She can be sober all the time; finally, she has her own kindness and innocence, so that she can feel the kindness of others after she has experienced so much, so she has met important friends in life.
I don't want to forcibly whitewash or smear anyone. Her family was everything she had at the time. The director was narrating a fact, and I only talked about my feelings for the heroine. In any case, the original family depends on how we face it. And the heroine is the one who was not defeated, she did not choose to submit to it. What the family of origin means to us is actually more a reflection of how we view ourselves. How to see yourself in this environment.
2. Never enter a compromise marriage
In an emergency, in order not to be sent back to the Somali desert, Hua Lisi temporarily accepted a marriage proposal from a local person and agreed to marry, but after all, it was a real marriage identity. Getting along in the middle made the heroine finally break out in less than a year. She told friends that she would rather be sent home.
Think about it, the girl who fought for her life and had to escape from the Somali desert, and then later, when various difficulties followed, as long as she could not be sent back to the country, the heroine could endure it all, but it happened in a marriage. , she would rather give up her job and go back to that desert. The pain in this marriage can be imagined.
Never underestimate the pain of being with the wrong person.
3. The real face of circumcision
This is an African tradition that can be creepy without looking at the whole picture. I would rather call it "torture". I want to speak out about these heart-wrenching behaviors. It is reported that circumcision, which is practiced in Africa and other places, cuts off all the genitals of girls (including the clitoris, labia majora, and labia minora), and then sews up the wounds. Female circumcision is just a euphemism, another euphemism is female genital mutilation. Female circumcision has traditionally been performed privately and individually. Except for a few people who go to the hospital to do it, most of them, as always, are run by folk witch doctors, midwives or relatives and friends.
Compared with the 1940s, the prevalence of circumcision among girls aged 15 to 19 in Egypt has dropped from 96% to 81%; however, 91% of women aged 15 to 48 still have undergone genital mutilation, which removes part or all of them The external genitalia (clitoris and labia minora), some countries even suture the vulva, leaving only a small hole for menstrual blood.
One of the purposes of circumcision is to provide men with a reliable method of "testing their virginity." He can tell if a bride is a virgin by examining her vulva. Women's wounds are ripped apart during sex, then healed, then ripped again, and it's a cycle of misery. When the husband goes out to herd or work, this circumcision function can also be used to test the wife's fidelity when he returns home.
These are infuriating.
However, what is even more surprising is that some scholars have found that female circumcision was first used in matrilineal societies as a means of controlling reproductive resources. That is to say, female rulers take control of male reproductive rights in order to enslave males as slaves, but correspondingly, males can also obtain corresponding psychological achievements. This further distressed me about the living conditions of the female community. Later, the matriarchal society disappeared, but this kind of cruelty to women still continued.
At the same time, there is also male circumcision, the purpose is much simpler than female circumcision, for the male power of male. So even if it is the same kind of torture, the purpose is completely different. Women are always subjected to psychological abuse, intentionally or unintentionally.
"The last camel in the caravan is as fast as the first, and whatever happens to a few people, it affects all of us." This is something that every woman and every man deserves to see Movies do not have to distinguish between men and women. Anything that goes against human nature should be boycotted. At any time, even in the face of tradition, the judgment of human nature and morality should not be lost.
Films like this are worth spreading.
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