What is the ideal lover? Everyone probably has their own answer, or tall and sexy, or intellectual and elegant, or gentle and considerate, or superior ability. But when true love really appears in front of you, it's still not enough to catch a glimpse. At that time, there is no longer the so-called standard, because the person you love has become the standard. But as it is said in the movie: "Life is not like a movie at all. There are too many unbelievable places in life, cruel and realistic." Faced with reality, we are not afraid to choose, and making mistakes may be a positive choice, which means We are at least willing to try different things until we find the one we really like. But too many times we live in fantasy, lock ourselves in the comfort zone, and be defined, restricted, and even restricted by that imagined self.
There is a famous experiment in psychology called the scar experiment - this experiment draws ugly scars on each subject's face, and then tells them to add a few more strokes to the scars to make them more ugly. Wipe it off and then ask them to go to the hospital, it's a big hospital, the emergency room is full of people to give them enough time to see how people react. Their feelings are surprisingly consistent. Volunteer A said: "The fat woman in the waiting room is the most annoying. As soon as she entered the door, she looked at me with contempt. She didn't even look at herself, she was so fat and ugly!" Volunteer B said: "The people nowadays are really Lack of sympathy. There was a middle-aged man sitting on the same sofa as me. After a while, he slapped his butt and walked away. Isn't there a scar on my face? As for hiding like a plague Me? Such a person is very abominable!" Volunteer C said: "Among the strangers I met, I was particularly impressed by two young women. They dressed very well, like a knowledgeable and cultivated person. The white-collar workers, but I found that the two of them have been laughing at me in private! If it were two young men, I would definitely beat them up!" The volunteers gushed endlessly, and indignantly expressed their feelings of indignation. . They generally believe that many strangers are very disgusted and unkind to their disgusting self, and their eyes are always rudely staring at their scars.
The experiment found that people's one-sided understanding of themselves can so profoundly affect their perception of the outside world.
In the film, jacks only sleeps with people he doesn't love, and wants to be friends with those he loves. This is also a problem that we will encounter in our life. Many times the unaccustomed to some things is just because he broke his own example, but A lot of good things are accidents, aren't they?
And Peter also found the courage he was willing to try in the conversation with Jacks, so there was the last scene of Peter rushing off the subway.
A true invincible good friend! !
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