Knowing a son is better than a father, and knowing a husband is better than a wife.
Maybe it's too old, and I often can't help but smile when I watch the whole film.
Especially in the wedding banquet hall, the scenes of operations and dialogues made me feel that maybe the weddings of the Chinese people at that time were really like this. After all, although the weddings I am in contact with today are still centered on joy and excitement, they are rarely as messy as in the film. group.
And the explanation of "group of demons dancing wildly" can be regarded as one sentence, "let you experience five thousand years of Chinese people's sexual repression". This is really the case. We have been deliberately educated to stay away from things related to sex since we were young, and when we become adults, we have to decide the major events of love, marriage and life in an instant. Such a span makes our own emotions and thinking more or less fragmented. And marriage is when that energy spews out of the cracks.
I was particularly impressed by the bridal chamber, and preparing for a bloody battle with a mahjong table until dawn was probably to promote the quintessence of the country; and in front of everyone, covering the quilt and stripping off the clothes was even more of an unprecedented scale. Even in a sexually open country like the United States, it is rare to hear about having sex in public. Such an arrangement and setting make it hard for me to believe it.
As for family relationships, it is more likely to dig deeper.
Wei Tong, Simon and Wei Wei, I am afraid that only Wei Wei is heterosexual, while Wei Tong and Simon are more likely to be bisexual. During the same period of anger, he also went out to play with another girl.
Besides the Gao family, there seems to be an uncle Zhang between the parents. When Gao's father went out to fight for a long time as a soldier, it was he and Gao's mother who brought Weitong up together. Perhaps Uncle Zhang was Gao's father's "Simon".
And Father Gao knew the relationship between Wei Tong and Simon before everyone knew it. On the one hand, Father Gao said, "I see, I listen, and I feel." On the other hand, Father Gao's own situation may be one of the causes.
Gao's mother probably also knew about Gao's father's situation in her heart, so she said to everyone "don't tell Gao's father", but when Gao's father left together, she was so calm.
The last thing I want to talk about is the unique Chinese expression.
Silence is golden, everything can be conveyed through silence.
In a scene where Wei Tong and Simon quarreled, Gao's mother asked, "Is it true that Wei Tong didn't pay the rent?" Gao's father said, "No one will think you are dumb if you don't speak." The same is true of normal family communication.
As a son, Wei Tong's childhood education made it difficult for him to tell his parents the fact that he was gay, because in his eyes, this burden can only be shouldered by himself, and his parents must not be saddened by this.
Father Gao was puzzled, because he clearly knew the pressure that Wei Tong was under, and he knew the truth. As long as he told the truth, everyone could relieve a burden, but he only told Simon the truth. . In Father Gao's heart, as a Chinese, these things can only be understood but cannot be expressed in words. He may have been expecting Wei Tong to understand himself, but it is difficult to tell them outright.
We euphemistically call this kind of communication "implicit", but in fact, can we really understand all the other's thoughts in silence? I'm afraid it will be difficult. But this way we have continued for thousands of years, and may continue in the future. If this is the case, then everything should be kept silent.
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