At the beginning of the film, the hero and heroine are being interviewed by reporters. At this time, they were a couple that everyone envied, and the two had been married for ten years without any contradiction. It seemed that everything could not have been better.
However, the two actually have a potential emotional crisis. The two were interviewed in front of the camera, and they did not have very intimate physical contact, but rather avoided intimate gestures. The wife is obviously very nervous in front of the camera, but the husband is very relaxed and told the reporter that he is not nervous at all. Shouldn't the husband comfort his wife and ease her anxiety at this time? And in the whole conversation, the eyes of the two people basically fell on the reporter's notebook and the camera in front of them.
To put it simply, in the opening interview scene of the film, all the husband and wife worry about is the inappropriate behavior of themselves and the other party. To put it bluntly, they are concerned about the outside world's view of the marriage, not each other in the marriage. At this time, the outside vision constituted their common burden of life, occupying the first place, instead of love.
In order to live in the world, we are all fully armed. However, couples who are closely connected do not need to wear armor. - Morova [France]
Husbands and wives are supposed to be honest with each other, and they can see themselves in each other's eyes, but this is often the case when they are in love. After marriage, as Schopenhauer said: marriage means equal sharing of personal rights and obligations. The husband and wife do not regard each other as the most important thing as before, but regard the heavy life burden derived from marriage as the most important.
They are busier and more focused on raising their children, taking care of their common elders, balancing their common interpersonal circle, and working harder to add to the common treasury. As the heroine in the movie said, "We were all too tired, so we went straight to bed when we got home."
At this time, in order to find the original love with her husband, the heroine in the movie even wanted to stop having dinner with her mother on weekends, and deliberately arranged a summer trip. However, the husband told his wife at this time that he was in love with someone else and planned to go to Paris together for half a year.
The husband felt that his wife was chattering, nitpicking, arranging everything so tightly that he could not breathe. The wife also feels that she has not found herself in the marriage, and the husband is too demanding of her. So, divorce seems to be the best option. However, the two of them have been procrastinating again and again, and they have never been able to sign.
The marriage of the male and female protagonists seems to have made them both lose themselves and be bound by each other for ten years. But when it came time to sign the divorce, they found that they were deeply dependent on each other. This dependence was also accompanied by a huge sense of shame, and the dependence on the other party mocked their cowardice.
So in the end, the two finally signed the divorce agreement. In the final scene of the film, the newly married hero and heroine meet in a cabin, when they discover that they love each other. There really is a simple love that has nothing to do with flesh and money. In the past, he was too demanding.
However, it was only after they got rid of their married life that they realized that when they had a tryst in the small dark room, there should be no more banquets and interviews in each other's eyes except each other. After finding love, if they go back to married life, they may still be demanding.
The male and female protagonists in the movie actually had many conflicts during their ten-year long marriage, but every time they covered up their negative emotions and told each other how beautiful their love was. Using the love in each other's mouths to maintain a suffocated marriage life is nothing but the bondage of the soul under the skin of love.
When the heavy life after marriage is constantly oppressing and frustrating them, each other becomes the only sharing and dependence of each other. Therefore, in order to bear the burden of life, many excessive demands and control of the spread and growth have locked the other party in the cage. So they hated each other, thinking that the other was trapping them, but in fact they were just too dependent and became cowardly.
This seems to be the cruel reality of marriage. When both parties pick up life, they also let go of love at the same time, lose themselves in the increasingly close dependence, and when they get rid of marriage and embrace freedom, it is a huge unsuitable loneliness.
But maybe, the so-called lost love is just because it is not as hot as it was at first, so the feared love has disappeared. But it's just not as strong as it used to be. After all, life is an unsolved mystery. Many people trap themselves because they think too much. They cling to the past and let it go.
Marriage is a book, the first chapter is written in poetry, and the rest is bland prose. - Knicks [Hungary]
Nonetheless, for a bird that longs for freedom, the burdens derived from marriage are indeed cages, but it may also gift a long-lasting love and affection.
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