None of the married men and women in the film can escape the cruelty and exploitation of marriage, and the same is true in real life. We rejoice for every old couple holding hands while walking in the park, not knowing that quarrels and resentments take up most of their lives. Just like at the beginning of the film, John and Marianne calmly watched the couple and friends who came to be guests after drinking, and they vented their anger, showing the darkness and violence in marriage. At the end of the film, after the divorce, John and Marianne hugged each other. John constantly comforted Marianne, who was awakened by nightmares. Marianne said that she had never been loved or truly loved others. In the hug and comfort of the two, the two lay close together. This is the most tender moment in the film, and this tender moment comes after the divorce. Squeeze away the sweet time of the two people, 90% of the marriage life in the middle shows quarrel, indifference, contempt, control, possession, affair, violence, after these elements are combined and superimposed, it is Marriage.
At a certain point in time, people can fully devote themselves to spiritual and physical communication, but if the time span is lengthened, such full commitment will inevitably be slowly diluted. And marriage, a man-made contract that binds two people together for a long time by law and morality, is like an anthropological experiment in the name of love and the Holy Spirit. In this experiment, some quit halfway, some completed the experiment but lost both, and some looked at everything, gave up themselves, made compromises, and won the title of "model couple". The results are different, but the long-term relationship brought about the retreat of passion, the reduction of sexual desire, the dullness and even the numbness and indifference of the heart are similar. There is never an empathy in marriage. Both men and women play different roles, do different tasks, stick to different labels, and experience different things. If there is no sexual connection, such two people will live together for a lifetime, but sadly, in marriage, sex is often the desire that disappears the fastest, when the fig leaf of sex is torn off, all the black secrets hidden behind the cloth Immediately out of the nest, cheating, betrayal, accusation, resentment, all the dirtiest and most real desires hit like a flood of beasts, and the absurdity of marriage has nowhere to hide.
Shortly at the beginning of the film, after the friend leaves, Marianne tells John that a common language is a good thing in a marriage and why they don't fight and resent like their friends because they have a common language. But John obviously doesn't think so, and the direction of their marriage negates the role of common language in marriage. The bonding of common language to feelings is more suitable for love, not marriage. Even sexual desire can be wiped out by time, not to mention the "common language" of "literature and art". Just like when Marianne read the article she wrote aloud in front of John, John fell asleep from boredom, and when Marianne woke him up, he immediately pretended to be very interested to let Marianne continue reading... ....John always appeared in front of Marianne as a wise man, and Marianne satisfied her husband's psychology and her own personality with a dependent and submissive image. This is a typical mode of getting along with men and women. Always sacrifice ego for a man's self-esteem. John's indifference in the face of Marianne's unplanned pregnancy is the best explanation for their marriage. His heart was long out of marriage, and Marianne's final choice to have an abortion was directly related to John's attitude. The pretense of a quiet life before was revealed at a momentous moment, and no one was a fool. As a divorce lawyer, Marianne received a white-haired old lady who chose to end her marriage of more than 20 years, which she and her husband had already discussed. There was no love in her marriage, and when her husband asked her what love was, she said she couldn't describe what didn't exist. She doesn't love her children, but she plays the role of mother dutifully, so she waits until the children become adults before getting a divorce. Such a monologue pierced the nerves of Marianne and the audience, whether we can look at our marriage calmly and rationally like an old lady, can we follow our heart like an old lady, rather than go along with the secular Choose marriage and say "I love you".
When John told Marianne that he fell in love with another woman and planned to live with this woman, Marianne was shocked, sad, and dignified at the same time, but she did not forget to set the alarm clock for John to leave the next day, and help John Organize away clothes. This is a cruel picture. Marianne is still fulfilling her wife's obligations and functions while she is betrayed. This is a woman who is bound by marriage and alienated. All her actions are out of inertia. Her mechanical life has long been lost. self. And John's indifference and arrogance in front of her shows that a man is successful in domesticating women and transforming women. Even if he leaves now, his wife is still under his control. John got the investment in the project, and enjoys the pleasure of another woman and the undignified retention of his wife. At this time, he is in high spirits and candid. , mother, children, etc. all the trivial nagging, John seems to have found true happiness, so he went so decisively. However, every relationship will slowly show the same state over time. The antidote in the past has become poison, even more poisonous than the previous one. No one can predict the future. Everyone is gambling with dice. John made the wrong bet, so he never got down to writing when he signed the divorce agreement, he stopped arrogant, the wife he thought he was in control of now has found another man, and Marianne yearned for a divorce at this time, but John But do not want to lose the last straw to save self-esteem. He even beat Marianne angrily and vented all his grievances through his fists. Finally, the two signed the divorce agreement peacefully. John admitted that he hated his children, and such words agreed with the old lady before. And Marianne's mother told Marianne that she did not love Marianne's father, she had fallen in love with someone else before marrying her father, but she finally compromised with reality and married Marianne's father. She would be under the command of Marianne's father from her bed to complete her wife's tasks. There are many statements in the film that reveal the functionalization of men and women in marriage. Such descriptions are cold but rational.
After the divorce, the two people are like returning to the period of love. They each remarried, but they relived their old dreams behind their respective partners. When they met again, their eyes were full of tenderness and their faces were full of smiles. Their love was swallowed up by marriage, and divorce was the only antidote for that.
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