We are so confused about the future that it is almost impossible to be sure about the next second. However, people are so eager for a stable home and definite love that they often endure it carefully knowing that it will break, but still cannot accept it at the moment of breaking. The wife in the film, I think, can represent some women, and the husband (also represents some men) has a different experience with the family, or more precisely, they have different understandings and needs at different times, plus sex. Disharmony in life or other conflicts accumulated over time due to lack of communication, thus breaking the situation that could not have been stable forever. I don't think it's pointless to give up your own choices in order to maintain family stability (although I've seen many family members who do this and live peacefully enough, it's very likely that they're just "making it right" together, which is indeed unacceptable. and for it). Of course, I don't mean to say this to avoid each other, but to think about myself.
On the contrary, I think that with chaos as the keynote, two people constantly search for themselves is a condition for their growth, and it is also a way to take care of each other and their marriage. After all, everyone hates being consistent and stable all the time. Human nature likes adventure, excitement, and even turbulence, but ultimately longs for love. There is a lot of talk about "loneliness" in the film - loneliness is absolute. Human nature may be loneliness, only the feeling of loneliness is always hidden in our hearts. Whenever we feel empty, we also blame it on loneliness. Maybe it’s better to stay with the crowd and drink and have fun.
But for me, this approach doesn't work. I hate most crowded scenes, I always thought I was too shy and others said the same. But I now find it's not shyness, at least not yet (more likely a lack of courage or tiredness of living in the expectations of others?). In all the years I've lived consciously, I've never given up on loneliness, and most of the time I've become so used to it that I've become seldom or barely aware of it (note that saying this is not the same as saying I don't Lonely). That's why I don't even judge how I feel about others by "who makes me feel less lonely." Moreover, the meaning of marriage itself is not in being maintained, not in how many years of marriage, not even in loyalty, not in keeping promises. Hold "Get rid of loneliness, live a stable life, be a good father and mother, try not to argue with each other nor get angry, always think about each other, be considerate, love the house and Wu, live up to the expectations of others, and hold the hand of the child. The idea of growing old with your son may gradually become like falling into the water or into nothingness (if it's just a promise or romance, of course, that's fine). This reminds me of another movie , Love in the Afternoon . In the midst of nothingness, both sides want to break free.
I'm thinking, maybe, marriage is just another way of life that people as individuals desire to love and be loved and then consciously choose. Although chaos is something we are afraid of and want to avoid, it is also an element of normality. Since it is life, we must not seek stability in one life. It is something that people who are immersed in and seem to have been numb to self-idealism seek. what do you say? It seems that only when we go in and out (referring to stability and things that seem to be incompatible with stability (here, "chaos" as an example)), can we say that I have a home, because the "arcade" formed between the two shelters us. While confirming this, there must be someone in our hearts that we love, and someone who can make us feel loved.
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