I watched the 5-hour TV version and watched it in four days. I always felt that the sounds of clocks and clocks often sounded in my life. I understand very well why the director and his wife were either yawning or falling asleep when they opened up about their feelings. There are too many moments like this in life, when people are not understood, when they are lonely. (I even just went through it, lol)
A few goose bumps. When the old lady told the heroine that she was going to leave a marriage without love, because without love, people would lose themselves, fall into role-playing, suppress the ability to love, lose "feelings", weaken their sensibility and numb their senses.
There's one more thing that really affected me - being honest with myself. To be honest, I've heard this phrase many times, and it wasn't until I saw this movie that I realized that I didn't fully understand what it meant before. Don't suppress your own feelings and emotions, "Accommodation ruins the love between us. If I allow myself not to be affected by guilt, I should have seen through it long ago. Everything we said and did to each other was wrong." What you think, tell others honestly, and stay true to your own feelings.
At the end, the hero and heroine's understanding of love. I love you, and I love you with a selfish, imperfect love. Yes, man is a broken animal. Although this imperfection brings many troubles and regrets to human beings, perhaps this is the lovely thing about human beings. Does true love exist? Can we feel it? It is this very moment, in the middle of the night, when all is silent, in a dark house, somewhere in the world, I am holding you tightly, you are holding me, and you are in my arms now.
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[Innocence and Panic] No problem is a problem (conflict always comes from too much harmony), and we know the dangers of this life. Moderator: Dangerous? What does that mean? Man: The world is going down (death) and I want all things to coexist peacefully (I want to live and survive). I have the right to think about myself first. I'm sick of the latest social remedies. Woman: I don't agree with him, I believe in compassion (human nature is good), the world would be different if we learned to care about our fellow human beings from childhood. Man: Honestly, things are not that simple. (Why not?) We used to feel stable, now we realize that bad things can happen anytime, and that's the difference. (Are you worried about the future?) If I think about it, maybe I'm already scared to death, so I don't dare to think about it. I like this old sofa and that lamp, they give an illusion of stability, of stupidity and fragility, I like Bach's Matthew Passion, although I don't believe in gods because it gives a sense of piety and belonging feel. I am very dependent on the interaction with my relatives, which can create a feeling of protection as a child. I like what Marian talks about about compassion (human nature is good), it's a reassuring conscience that would otherwise be disturbing at times. It takes a certain skill to maintain happiness (satisfaction), (it takes a lot of effort to let yourself not care) and it's hard to be independent of yourself. I really envy people who can do everything and laugh it off, I can't, and my sense of humor isn't that far. (I won't write it in the magazine, because it's beyond the acceptance level of female readers, I hope you don't mind me saying that) What the reporter saw was a mess (dining room ding + clock sound, clock sounding louder, bell sound) Female :( Can you explain what happiness is?) [Happiness] is satisfaction, I have no other desires, I want to keep everything I am now. [Loyalty] is a voluntary giving, it is not an obligation or a stipulation. Loyalty cannot be promised. Either you are loyal or you are not. I'm loyal to my husband because I like it and I don't know what I'm going to think tomorrow or next week. 【Love】The Bible (1 Corinthians) (Love is good) but it causes people to make mistakes. If São Paulo's definition of love is correct, it is so rare that few people actually experience it. But at a wedding or other special occasion, love is a useful statement. (For the length of the recitation, it certainly works.) Personally, I think you just have to be nice to your partner. Love is also important. Humor, friendship, tolerance and reasonable expectations. If you have these, love is not necessary. (you Why so dissatisfied? ) All I see at work are losers who break down with unrealistic emotional needs, which I find vulgar (barbaric). I hope... (hope what?) I find it hard to get a head start on this issue, so I'm not very willing to discuss it. I hope we're not forced to play roles we don't want to play so we can be nice to others. Don't you think so? (Yes, life needs romance) No, quite the opposite. Hopefully we don't have to play roles that we don't want to play. Whenever Pete said he was going to get a divorce, I knew how drunk he was. (Emotional, money, sexual bondage) They don't speak the same language, and sometimes listening to them is like talking on the phone in a mess, like listening to pre-set tapes on a tape recorder, like a dead silence from outer space. - Do you think the two of them can live together forever? - Who knows, where did this custom come from? It would be nice if it was a five-year deal, or an agreement that could be renewed. [The Art of Avoiding Talking] Couples should not be 100% honest and should avoid some discussions, the more they talk, the more they hurt each other. Old lady: He asked me what does love consist of? I don't know, how can I describe something that doesn't exist? I never loved my kids, I used to think I loved them, people would think so, but I know now, I never loved them, but I'm still a good mom, and I give it all, even if I love them There is no love. Let me tell you something, I have a picture of myself in my head that doesn't match reality. (Female) Is love real? I have the ability to love, but it is repressed. My life stifled my potential. It's time to change everything, the first step is divorce, my husband and I are removing each other from our world, it sounds scary. -Something weird happened, my senses, vision, hearing, touch started to fade, like this table, I can see and touch, (Cuts close-up, frowning) But my senses are fading away, do you understand? - (Frowning in horror) I think I understand. -Everything, music, smells, faces, sounds, everything seems insignificant, bleak, and without dignity. [Paula] Why can't we be fat and happy? Security is a trap, and you have to pay a high price. You have to accept the erosion of your personality. It is often easy to stifle the minds of young children in the early days when they are cautiously asserting their positions, and in my case, just injecting a perfectly effective poison is guilt. Guilt about my mother at first, then guilt about others, and finally guilt about God . [Valley of Tears] For a moment, I wondered what kind of person I would have become if I had not been brainwashed in the past? (Female) Where did all the love go? What about those joys? (Male) But I won't grieve for what I've lost, the children are grown up now, the relationship has faded, the love has been squandered, the tenderness is so, so is the intimacy, there is nothing to say, That's all. (Female) Sometimes I feel like we're like two spoiled God's darlings who, after squandering resources, suddenly become destitute and out of breath. (Male) Let me tell you something you are tired of hearing. We are all emotionally illiterate. We have all learned anatomy, we have learned farming in Africa, we have learned that the square of the hypotenuse is equal to the square of the length of two right angles, and we have learned We know nothing about the soul, we know nothing about it, and we are helpless to know ourselves and others. We are all emotionally illiterate. 【Illiteracy】 In the days of living together, I put too much priority on your feelings. I think this kind of accommodation ruins the love between us, and if I had allowed myself to be immune to the guilt, I should have seen that everything we said and did to each other was wrong. [In the middle of the night, in a dark house somewhere in the world] (Female) Sometimes I feel sad because I never fell in love with anyone. I don't think I have ever been loved by anyone, which makes me sad. (Male) Now you're getting emotional again. (female) is it? (Male) I know how I feel, I love you in a selfish way, and I also think you love me, in your cumbersome, entangled way, we both love each other deeply, in that worldly mutilated ( imperfect) way, but you're too demanding. At this very moment, in the middle of the night, in all the silence, in a dark house, somewhere in the world, I hug you tightly, you hug me, you are in my arms now, I am the one It's easy to ignore other people's feelings, I can't describe what my love is like, and many times I don't feel it. Security comes from within, material things used to be so important to me, what we call security is tied to outer material things, our possessions, our country house, our friends, our income, the food we eat , our parents, vacation... Let me talk about the sense of security I think, loneliness is absolute, everything else is an illusion, don't expect anything, there are always troubles, If something good happens, it's an unexpected gift (and it's good after all), but don't ever think about getting rid of loneliness, people can always find a sense of belonging in religion, politics, love, and art, but loneliness is inevitable after all , the most contradictory Yu- Once upon a time, you always felt trapped in the illusion of belonging, but you just need to remember that it is an illusion. Thinking like this, when everything comes back to reality from the illusion, you will be able to accept it easily. You have to accept the fact that loneliness rules everything, that it will stop your grief and you will feel safe and relieved. So you find out how meaningless this so-called satisfaction is, I'm not saying that you should just let it go, you should do what you can to persevere, and if it's just doing what you can, it's better than giving up. This inner emptiness is more of a physical pain, like burning pain all over your body, or pain all over your body like you cried as a child.
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