Hurry up and happily travel together in a different place --- Comment on "Land Bridge Last Dream" Seeing the latter part, I couldn't stop crying. I regret it, I want to ask, why did human civilization bring us to this situation? Whether the essence of marriage has nothing to do with happiness, but for the protection of personal survival, as well as the product of social development that maintains the organization. It has never considered the faintness and vicissitudes of human nature, nor has it been ignorant of how superficial and meaningless it is to simply and rudely declare the past and the present based on the vows when it comes to certain moments when the requirements of responsibility violate human nature and fall into a moral dilemma. When it comes to words like "extramarital affairs," the first thing that comes to your mind is the moral condemnation, or is it true that you will experience a teratogenesis and produce a heartbeat and fragile spark. One of the grand tragedies that I can think of in modern civilization is that there is a possibility that can never be realized in my heart in the calm and boring daily life, but I can live by its existence.
"The dreams that were once were all beautiful dreams. Although they didn't come true, but I am fortunate that I had them." The photographer wrote this sentence. And Francesca said at the end of the diary: "I dedicate my life to the family, and I give the rest to Robert."-Together with her heart, her excitement and passion, she has been obsessed with each other day and night for the rest of her life. Thoughts. Maybe, just when Francesca helped the whole family dry clothes and prepare dinner, she added those four stuffy, sticky, sweet and bitter, as if it would not end, but finally ended on a rainy summer day. Spent again, and many, many times in this life.
In fact, in the face of living human nature, the so-called "morality" is at best a temporary label. However, people’s social attributes often overwhelm naturalness. Most people do not hesitate and obey the rules without knowing it. Some of the others are already concerned about the world, such as reluctance to let children bear things that seem beyond their scope of understanding. . The very few who finally broke free of the shackles finally became the Strickland legend in Maugham's "Moon and Sixpence", a madman in gossip, but also a victory in idealism. I am not criticizing the development of human society so far, and the entire moral system has wiped out the mistakes of human nature. But I just want to say that when some people are eager to break through the stereotypes, it is understandable if it is out of sincerity. They should not fall into the shackles of traditional values and blindly judge them negatively. In fact, if there is no civilization and morality, human beings will be more easily replaced by artificial intelligence and data codes: if it is only the "optimal choice" for a happy ending, it is better to use an algorithm to determine the day based on probability. Francesca shouldn't Open the car door at the intersection waiting for the traffic light. But in fact, we are in the midst of a series of entanglement, wandering, loneliness, and regret, personally completing the unknown arc of life. There are always people who are cool and decisive, who can clearly hear the voice of their own souls, but they are always very few. Regardless of whether Francesca chooses to leave or not, it is a movie plot that cannot be copied. In real life, the scenes are different, but they all lead to our only correct ending. During the filming process, the first tears broke through self-confidence when Francesca said, “No one understands that when a woman makes a choice between marriage and childbirth, in one aspect, her life begins, but in another aspect. , It stopped. She established a real life and put her personal needs aside so that her children could grow up. When they left, they also took away her real life. At this time, she I can't live my own life again, and don't remember what made her alive. Because no one asked her, and she didn't." This passage is too desperate and true, and I can't help but ask: Why is it a woman? Why is the impact of marriage on men not so great? Widowed parenting is almost always the lack of a man’s role. Is it because the cost of a man in the process of giving birth is far less than that of a woman who conceives in October, so the bondage is not deep enough? The tradition of male superiority and inferiority remains in the roots of inferiority. I hope that today when the feminist movement is becoming more and more popular, there are more and more equal relationships, but the prejudice is deep-rooted. We should not simply expect luck to meet a beloved person. We should first put ourselves on equal qualifications: economy and personality are independent. . Don't rely on who is attached to whom, let yourself be nourished by the relationship, rather than consumed. Childbirth It should no longer be the meaning of life for contemporary women, and only herself is her beacon. Of course, the film did not discuss this issue. I can’t see if Francesca has an independent feminist spirit, is it influenced by the traditional "family concept", or because of his true love for this family, he chose to stay. Come down, after all, stay. Born to be human, we are destined to suffer from freedom. Francesca explained that she could not leave, saying that her husband had done nothing wrong in his life and should not be treated like this. Her kindness and selflessness made my nose sore, and I even thought that maybe because of this, she was lucky enough to have those four days and have a source of nutrients that can be absorbed for the rest of her life. Most people, in fact, didn't even have these four days, or even the medicine to rescue them from peaceful despair. Meryl, who plays the heroine, also acted in another movie I love very much, "The Moment", which tells such a story. The vulgar and helpless life is an overwhelming huge cage. One day, avoiding the feeling of emptiness and loneliness after three meals a day, firewood, rice, oil and salt, break free from the paralyzed nerves, and suddenly see the true face of the absurdity of life in the imprisoned heart of broken dreams. The vast nothingness will secretly approach with the shadow of death. There has never been an unprovoked death, only an unintelligible death. So some people say that smart people are confused, choose not to look, choose to escape, and paralyze possible pain and struggle. However, in just a few decades, if we want to really taste a few bites of happiness, we must "Face life, always face it, understand its true meaning, always understand, love its essence, and then give it up"—just give up the question of time—I think Sisyphus of Camus will agree with me. There is an illusion, as if Francesca did not meet Robert, there would be no "Covered Bridge", but only "every moment" to death. It is the summer night wind and the wild flowers by the bridge in this story, the frank night talk and the honey lingering, gently watering the heroine's unwilling soul, allowing her to see the flash that still exists in her life, and keep it in her heart, in the future Every time the emptiness and desperation of the Great Depression took out this spark, with the unattainable but memorable warmth, he kept saving her. Zhang Ailing said that for young people, three or five years can be a lifetime, and perhaps for Francesca, those four days can be a lifetime. So, even though in the scene of heavy rain, I couldn't help crying with the performance of Aunt Mei tangled up in the car, I still don't think this is a tragedy at the end of the film, because there is such a beautiful romantic love. According to the film, "This kind of definite love is only once in a lifetime." Regardless of whether they live together or not, the two of them have been connected remotely and secretly. What's more, Francesca is not only kind, but also smart. In the meticulous married life, she has already vaguely glimpsed the essence of love-on the night Robert left, she said to herself: "I realized that love is It is elusive. Its mystery is pure and absolute. If Robert and I can stay together, that feeling will disappear." This conclusion coincides with me. As depicted in Junichi Watanabe's "Paradise Lost", even if it is already deviant love, it still needs to die in order to remain pure and full of heat-she wrote: "From acquaintance to mutual love, and then to the development of unrestrained and union, The process is so smooth. Lovers themselves are often unaware. The burning love makes them forget all the unsatisfactory things in this world. However, at the moment when the love gradually escalated and reached its peak, they suddenly discovered that a new line appeared in front of them. The valley often stops. When the two are immersed in happiness, thinking that this is the Eden of love, they realize the thorny wilderness in front of them and become nervous", "It's only now that I realize that the beautiful word love is extremely selfish, and it hides such poisonous things as destruction and destruction"-this is the reason. Maybe everything will have that "rush hour", and how you go down is downhill. Extremes don't want to see wear and tear, and choose to stay in full bloom forever. The doomed impermanence, change and disappearance, inevitably exist in our real life under the mud and sand. We have enthusiasm for the world, but we can only practice in disappointment. Indeed, I am generally pessimistic and skeptical about intimacy itself. Those common and inherent greed, selfishness, weakness, escape, indulgence, narcissism, change of thinking, and both ends of the first mouse. The closer the distance, the clearer you can see. Repeated encounters of unremarkable humanity on his face is dull and frustrating. The "later" who has seen too many stories is after the prince and the princess live happily together. As Wang Shuo said, "just like in a fairy tale, two greedy people dig underground treasures, but they dig out one person. Although they were buried quickly, and even planted trees and flowers on it, both of them knew exactly what was buried underneath. When they saw trees and flowers, they thought about the bones in the ground." . Waiting for idle change but old people's minds. But if you live like Gu Cheng's writing: "You don't want to plant flowers/you say/I don't want to see it/a little withered/yes/to avoid the end/you avoid the beginning of everything", it would be too cowardly. If the intimacy is destined to be a failure, it doesn’t matter. Anyway, life is good or feelings, it’s more of a small comfort after a big disappointment. I still remember what Wang Xiaobo said in reply to Li Yinhe’s letter: "Don’t be afraid of beauty. Everything disappears, let’s make it exist first." Too romantic answer. Perhaps, even if it is weak and secret, a spark of love is found in the cracks. Even if it cannot withstand the wind and rain, it does not have a clear and neat destination. Even if a little spark brings out a little smoke, it cannot become a prairie fire. The flames; it is to protect a match in the wind, and cannot be thrown out nor poured oil-even such a weatherless affection can still bring us sweetness and happiness: thin, short, but still real happiness, in In the short period of time before the thorns of the canyon woke up, they quietly passed through the weakness of human nature, and stood there clearly and loudly. Just like the love between Francesca and Robert, she can only be the real herself in front of him. In those light and shining folds, light weight refinement, even if some still need constant self-torture, but only the moment of each other is enough. Forget everything: life is certainly life, and love is another matter. It is this kind of love that is never perfect but irresistible, which makes people seem to have traveled through thousands of mountains and rivers, tired physically and mentally, and still want to embark on the journey to welcome all the sweetness and heartbreak. Even knowing the undercurrents and wrestling between the two sexes, the vainness and swaying in lust, and even the trap of reaching the same goal by different paths, are willing to go through lies to embrace you. I have always liked a song by Eason Chan, called No Man's Land, and the title comes from this. I also like one sentence: "The worst charge in the world is called too emotional. But I like this charge." About love, it is a complicated proposition that can never be figured out. There is nothing new under the sun, but everyone I meet In every relationship, there are always different shapes under the ripples. Regarding marriage, Moaro said in the "Five Questions of Life", "Marriage is attractive at first, but it is maintained by the integration of friendship and love, respect and courtesy. Accept and tolerate the various spiritual and intellectual differences of your partner. It is not a "romantic" style. It is destined to find that 100% match." I agree. So when Francesca could say that the romantic who was lucky enough to meet her was then attracted, I couldn't think of any stance to blame her. It's just a pity that the relationship between husband and wife is a more subtle relationship than the general intimate relationship, in which not only "love", but also inertia and dependence, together create all the sense of cooperation, friendship and many compromises. Wang Anyi also said, "What is a husband and wife? They have broken their bones and are still connected to their tendons." In modern civilization, we have long lost the freedom to meet the fragile and touching love that may happen at all times. We only have the right to be quietly emotional, so we still like this charge. I agree. So when Francesca could say that the romantic who was lucky enough to meet her was then attracted, I couldn't think of any stance to blame her. It's just a pity that the relationship between husband and wife is a more subtle relationship than the general intimate relationship, in which not only "love", but also inertia and dependence, together create all the sense of cooperation, friendship and many compromises. Wang Anyi also said, "What is a husband and wife? They have broken their bones and are still connected to their tendons." In modern civilization, we have long lost the freedom to meet the fragile and touching love that may happen at all times. We only have the right to be quietly emotional, so we still like this charge. I agree. So when Francesca could say that the romantic who was lucky enough to meet her was then attracted, I couldn't think of any stance to blame her. It's just a pity that the relationship between husband and wife is a more subtle relationship than the general intimate relationship, in which not only "love", but also inertia and dependence, together create all the sense of cooperation, friendship and many compromises. Wang Anyi also said, "What is a husband and wife? They have broken their bones and are still connected to their tendons." In modern civilization, we have long lost the freedom to meet the fragile and touching love that may happen at all times. We only have the right to be quietly emotional, so we still like this charge. I agree. So when Francesca could say that the romantic who was lucky enough to meet her was then attracted, I couldn't think of any stance to blame her. It's just a pity that the relationship between husband and wife is a more subtle relationship than the general intimate relationship, in which not only "love", but also inertia and dependence, together create all the sense of cooperation, friendship and many compromises. Wang Anyi also said, "What is a husband and wife? They have broken their bones and are still connected to their tendons." In modern civilization, we have long lost the freedom to meet the fragile and touching love that may happen at all times. We only have the right to be quietly emotional, so we still like this charge. I agree. So when Francesca could say that the romantic who was lucky enough to meet her was then attracted, I couldn't think of any stance to blame her. It's just a pity that the relationship between husband and wife is a more subtle relationship than the general intimate relationship, in which not only "love", but also inertia and dependence, together create all the sense of cooperation, friendship and many compromises. Wang Anyi also said, "What is a husband and wife? They have broken their bones and are still connected to their tendons." In modern civilization, we have long lost the freedom to meet the fragile and touching love that may happen at all times. We only have the right to be quietly emotional, so we still like this charge.
Do not rush to criticize this seemingly irresponsible argument. Luo Dayou sang 40 years ago: You once said to me that you will always love me. I understand love, but what is it forever? You do not belong to me, and I do not own you, girl, no one in the world has the right to possess. It is impossible for a person to "possess" another person in real life, because people and feelings are always changing, and losing oneself is also an inevitable part of life. Tiered bricks will not refuse to be abraded, window grilles must not be confined to the sun, good scenes will not exist every day, only change is permanent and normal. It's better to embrace the illusion of flow, because there is still a real taste of life in the endless flow. I once wrote in my diary: "Is it right? The gathering itself is a vain waste. Whether you are laughing or digging your heart out, they are all wasting each other's lives. Anyway, they will eventually go to parting. Suddenly. Stopped, slowly faded away, Yiyi said goodbye, did not have time to react. Does the word [Meet] have any real meaning? Sweet promises are made, and at the end, they all end up sadly, but they can’t stop believing in love-but just don't believe in "unchanging love"-even if it is a story of a feather, it cannot be because of the embarrassment at the end. , Just say that the sweetness at the beginning is not credible. Which relationship is not sincere at the beginning, "It is always wonderful to start every minute"? Not only love, each relationship itself is like a living body, will experience birth, old age, sickness and death, and the specific feeling of temperature with every drop of our body is the most precious part of it. Perhaps "consequentialism" is a highly efficient solution that caters to the needs of the elite, but for me, I can indulge in the whole world for a while. When I meet the person I like, I no longer think about where I will go, I just want to be happy. Of course, there are constant separations in life, but there are also constant encounters. You will not discover until the last minute of the end that the "gathering and wasting" The word "xu" is actually inevitable-it's better to be generous. Speaking of this, my thoughts are more general, and I think that Haruki Murakami wrote in 1q84: "The so-called life is nothing more than a process of constant loss. Very precious things will be one by one, like a comb with teeth, from you The hands slipped. Instead, what fell into the hands were all unworthy fakes. Physical fitness, hope, dreams and ideals, beliefs and meanings, or the same as your loved ones, one after another, from your side Quietly disappeared." Desperate and discouraged. But guess what? Ten thousand more times, I am also willing to reach out to hold the broken moon in the water. Everything is imaginary, but it doesn't matter: the moonlight is so beautiful, I enjoy it, and the emptiness in the end is also something I should bear. So it's okay. And the emptiness of this purely romantic love in the movie is always in the form of dreams, not some love, the emptiness that is ended by the triviality, quarrel, suspicion, and jealousy of ordinary life-just by this point, It is also enough to be extremely enviable. If the fantasy of possibility in the last few minutes of "City of Philharmonic" is [a better and rounder moon], then "The Bridge of Madison County" is about why we are willing to become prisoners of the universe. In the emptiness and solitude here, I can only meet the moonlight one day to save you and me.
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