"We are like going up the stairs, step by step, up or down, repeating the same fate forever."
Discuss with my friends who watched the movie together, "On the Internet, it is said that the theme of the original work is about the differences between China and the West in the context of the times, and the theme of the film is about the difference in the fate of ancient and modern women." I said that I did not agree, I saw more It is the commonality of the fate of the mother and daughter of the family, a heavy inheritance in the genes.
Four stories, four mother-daughter stories of two or three generations, the storyline and the reflected social reality and emotional fate are mostly irrelevant to men. The four mothers have their own tragic experiences, which are unique to "China". The family genes, growth environment, and circumstances have affected their lives, and also affected the four daughters respectively. I am pessimistic. In my opinion, No one can escape the cause and effect of fate.
Every mother and daughter will see the shadows of the women in their family to some extent, whether it is suffering, understanding, reconciliation, or no reconciliation, it is full of resonance from beginning to end, and I can't bear to immerse myself in it, but in the end, the ending The story of the mother and daughter, the sincere dialogue between the mother and the daughter, the complete relief and reconciliation, still couldn't help crying.
A mother never expects her daughter to have a brilliant life. Her mother just wants her daughter to be happy and her life to be different from her own. She is always eager to summarize all her injuries into experience for her daughter to remember. At the time, however, the daughter seemed uncooperative or disgusted with this kind of "manipulation". However, her daughter was always like her mother, even if she grew up in a different cultural atmosphere of a different era.
Every story in the movie finally expresses that the mother and daughter have opened the knot that has been tied in their hearts for half a lifetime, and the complete reconciliation can also give the audience a lot of comfort. In reality, it is often difficult to achieve such an ideal reconciliation. The daughter may express, But it is difficult for mothers to open up from the heart, and perhaps no one has ever taught them to express.
A friend asked, why has the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law been tense for thousands of years? Why would a mother-in-law who was bullied when she was a teenager continue to oppress her daughter-in-law? good question~
I have seen Wu Zhihong analyze the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law before, "In Chinese families, the core relationship is the relationship between mother and son, and mother and son will stick very tightly, which will lead to the mother, the son is the first important thing Man, her husband has become less important to her. Imagine you have one thing that is most important to you, always number one, and that son grows up and he belongs to someone else The most important person in your life is to be taken away by another woman, which is very unbearable at this time.", "In the whole Chinese society, sons and daughters do have different positions. We talked about the social power system before. The power system of the family and the family was built with men as the unit, so in the past Chinese families, women had no status, and women had to “embed themselves” in a man.”, “Psychologically speaking, using Jung In other words: every woman has a male archetype in her heart. So she must be projected onto a man, so that she can get a certain satisfaction. The son gives her both social status and emotional sustenance, so The mother and the child are closely symbiotic together, and such Chinese families encourage the son and the mother to stick together.", "Symbiosis has two parts, the first is the symbiosis of the son and the mother; the second is the symbiosis of the son and the family, The symbiotic enemy is called "boundary", and many Chinese families have no boundaries."
My understanding is that, on the one hand, what Mr. Wu said makes sense. On the other hand, I think that the management and control of the family is to Chinese women just as career and politics are to men, while for mother-in-law, husband and son Often working hard for a career outside, the core of family relationship control is the sense of control over the daughter-in-law, so the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is prone to tensions.
As for the three episodes in the film that show women's epiphany and awakening, one is a daughter-in-law fabricating a lie to escape her young husband's play and her mother-in-law's extreme perverted bondage, a bereaved girl roaring for her mother's name, and a divorced woman recovering for herself Dignity, as a friend of men, expresses shock and even disgust at the reversal of this strong contrast, and I don’t think we need to make it a reality. It can be regarded as the director’s cry of awakening women in an exaggerated form of expression. Presented to the audience, such a cry in reality is difficult to achieve.
People have great resilience, especially women, who can be humbly proud or proudly humble.
The cycle of fate is endless, and the journey of women's self-redemption is long.
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