Here are some of my favorite lines:
"I tell you the story because I was raised the Chinese way. I was taught to desire nothing, to swallow other people's misery and to eat my own bitterness. And even though I taught my daughter the opposite, but still she came out the same way. May be it is because she was born to me and she was born a girl. And I was born to my mother and I was born a girl. All of us like stairs, one step after another, going up, going down, but always going the same way. But no, this cannot be. This not knowing what you are worth. This not begin with you. My mother not know her worth until too late. Too late for her, but not for me. "
(I think that there is a deeper inheritance between mothers and daughters, the same women, body structure, thinking mode, the dilemma of love and marriage, the imprisonment of the times, these intangible things are built Love and hate that are thicker, more delicate and more silent than family love. Because we are both women, because we are mother and daughter, we put expectations on each other, we want to be recognized by each other, we cannot find each other because we are Our own worth, we desire to be loved, and at the same time, we also find hope, value and love because of each other.)
"You are not taking any part of me. Cause you don't know who I am, I died 60 years ago. I ate opium and I died for my daughter's sake. "
(Is it a cycle? Will we never get out of the cycle? Can’t find our own value, depreciate our own love in order to gain the love of others, and compromise in order to gain the respect and tenderness of others. It’s never too late to get out of the predicament, choose The power is always in our hands. As long as you ask yourself: "Do you love yourself?", "Do you recognize your worth?", "Are you brave enough?")
Also, June thinks that her mother doesn't understand her, and that her mother's expectation of her is to hurt her. I burst into tears in the repeated "I am hurt." and "I see you.". Is it because the child has no talent, must bear the mother's disappointment? Do you have to be shrouded in inferiority all the time? Parents' expectations for their children are of course reasonable, not to mention that in the movie, the mother's hopes for her two sisters are also added to her, hoping that she can have the best. But this does not mean forcing their children to do things they do not like, it does not mean that even parents do not recognize the value of their children, and it does not mean that they cannot truly praise their children. Praise, encourage, express love, let the child know that no matter who she is, she has value, she is known by her parents, she deserves to be loved, she does not have to be hurt.
And, communication is really important in the parent-child relationship. All the feelings are not revealed, all the stories are not understood, is this too confident in family affection, or does it not believe in family affection? No one said it, no one expressed it, and watched things accumulate to the point of eruption before opening up in a hurtful way, with a sour nose and a corner of his mouth, holding back tears and pouring out his grievances and sorrows for many years. The ending in the movie is still lucky, but in reality, there are many long-term regrets of being separated from each other and never seeing each other.
The separation of June's mother and daughter reminded me of an interview by Chai Jing "No one who has cried in the middle of the night is not enough to talk about life", in which the son finally found his mother, but her mother died a few months ago, His mother kept a bowl of dumplings for him every New Year. He lived on the belief of "going back to see his mother" when he was going through life and death. Love and misses are more important than time. When he leaves, he is a child, and when he sees him, he is an old man. , life for decades, the person you love is not around, can life really withstand such love and loneliness? June's story made me cry until the end credits ended.
This film is very suitable for my daughter to watch, do you love yourself? Do you admit your worth? Are you brave enough? Also, love your mother and your loved ones a little more.
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