The old couple is married for 45 years, and the old lady is actively preparing for their anniversary party. The two have gone through 45 years hand in hand, how difficult, how precious, how happy. But a letter from Sweden completely broke their peace. The letter informed that the body of the male protagonist's ex-girlfriend who was killed in the iceberg many years ago was finally found. The male protagonist began to recall his ex-girlfriend, how he died, what was his motivation to climb the mountain at that time, his mood at that time, his girlfriend's hair color, his girlfriend's age, etc. We found that when the male protagonist in the camera talked about his ex-girlfriend, his original dull and sluggish expression changed, he became smiling, his eyes were clear, he was happy, his words were clear, concise, clear, simply, affirmative, completely gone. The slowness and vagueness when talking to his wife at ordinary times is the other side of his life that his wife, who has lived with him for 45 years, has never seen. Why did they stay together for so long and the male protagonist never showed that side. With the wife's conversation with her husband again and again, and her husband's behavior in the attic alone late at night, the woman finally understands that in their marriage, the man is about where they go on vacation, has no children, has a camera but never takes pictures, Not going out for a walk with a woman, etc. are all related to the deceased ex-girlfriend. The ex-girlfriend has always occupied a man's heart, living between them, but the man has never mentioned it, and the woman has never known about it. If that letter hadn't come, women would have felt how great their love was over 45 years. After all, they respected each other like a guest and were peaceful and quiet. There are so many rowdy ones, so many who have ended up and left, and so many who haven't, and those whose partners have passed away. But the question is, now that she knows, will she shudder when she thinks back to the past 45 years between them, a huge sense of being deceived, and think that her love is a lie and a joke. In the end, at the memorial day event, she restrained and restrained herself, and finally shook off the man's hand.
Some people say that love really has nothing to do with marriage. If there is love, it is not necessarily that two people can survive in marriage for a long time. There is more tolerance in marriage. But I think that the problems between the old couple can't be solved by tolerance alone. You can not love me, you can feel that I am not worthy of you, but you can't let go of your ex-girlfriend for so many years, and pretend to be nothing and spend 45 years with me. take me for a fool? You decide that we don't want children, you are immersed in memories alone, and you choose not to accompany me more often, and do some things that we should do together. It turns out that you have other secrets. But I don't know, I foolishly thought you wouldn't do those things in the first place. How can this feeling be defined simply as jealousy, jealousy?
Their contradiction is that what women have always thought of as the most precious love life is actually just a second-best choice in men's hearts. A woman is just the right partner. An ex-girlfriend is the most precious person in a man's heart.
How do you continue to play with this man who suddenly turned 180 degrees in attitude on the anniversary day and became attentive and enthusiastic to you? It's impossible for you to be the same as before, is your trust still there? Is the intimacy between you still there? It's okay for men, because for so many years, he has come here like this, but what about women?
It's like a lot of love, marriage stories in life, if your lover has been in love with someone else, you're just the right fit, or a substitute for another, do you think it's okay? Would you be willing to stay with your partner who treats you like this for the rest of your life?
When I was young, I thought that the marriage of elders should be such a sacred choice and union. Later, when I grew up, I found that it would not be the case. The choice of adults is somewhat helpless and ambitious. I want you to be nice to me. Figure you think I am precious and worthy of love. I want you to be rich, I want you to look good. I want you to have a house and a sense of responsibility, so you can give me a stable home. Nothing, sorry. I don't want to talk here. That level is too high for me to talk about.
But when two people decide to be together, they must both agree with each other's existence value. Well, we can go into marriage. In fact, there is no agreement between the male and female protagonists in the film on mutual recognition. Women, think this is the love of a lifetime, a lifetime companion. A man thinks his love is dead and his wife is just a companion. This does not prevent him from treating their marriage honestly and faithfully. But they are not equal. Misplaced all the time, only the woman finds out at the end.
Anyone who has experienced marriage knows that marriage is not perfect, and it is impossible to be full of love all day long. It is the tolerance and understanding of one person towards another. But the premise is mutual trust and honesty. There are some truths that I cannot tolerate and cannot tolerate.
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