reconcile with yourself

Eula 2022-04-21 09:03:08

What would you do if, at the age of 50, you suddenly found out that the so-called love you experienced when you were 13 was just an adult sex game, and that you were just the object of sexual assault. You might deny all this and insist that it was just a love affair and that you were not some poor victim. In fact, you have already vaguely noticed something, but you do not want to face this fact, but it is very strange that although you have erased this experience from your memory for so many years, it silently affects your life. relationship with love. Do you continue to deceive yourself or choose to face it bravely. I don't know what you will do, what I will do, but I know how the heroine does it.

The female protagonist is a typical intellectual and middle-class, living a good but fun life, sometimes calm and sometimes witty, but the tranquility of her life is shattered by letters from the past. These letters of hers reminded her of a freaking relationship in the past. At first, she still thought there was nothing special about the relationship, because at the age of 13, she kept this memory in the nature of love. However, through her mother's repeated inquiries and self-recall, she gradually realized that this relationship was not as simple as it seemed on the surface, so she followed these letters to find the truth. When she kept getting closer to the truth, she began to feel both fear and anger. She couldn't accept what she thought was just wishful thinking. She was also angry that her innocence was being used by others, so that she had become a sexual tool for others at such a young age. . However, she did not run away, and in the end she bravely confronted the childhood demon and exposed his evil deeds. The most unacceptable thing is that the heroine is not his only victim. Over the years, he has used his coaching status to sexually assault many girls. Of course, his sexual assault is more inclined to be a seduction. He deceived the little girl's virginity in the name of love, and polluted the girl's body and mind in the name of admiration. Wolfs like this in human skin are not uncommon in real society.

This is a true story, and the director of the film is the person who was sexually assaulted. The director is brave and lucky. However, not everyone can bear this misfortune. Lin Yihan chose suicide after writing "Fang Siqi's Paradise of First Love" to end his painful memories. There are also many children who have been sexually abused who will live their lives with painful memories. He or she will recall the sad event from time to time, and even sometimes this painful past will sneak into their subconscious and affect and change. the trajectory of their lives. Some people will no longer believe in love, some choose not to get married for the rest of their lives, and some become violent and perverse. And the perpetrators sometimes get away with it.

So we will reflect on whose fault the child is sexually assaulted. is society? are the parents? system? Or human nature? Facing the rape of a girl under the age of 14 a while ago, some people thought that it was the girl's mother's lack of education, otherwise why would a little girl's family go out at night with a few boys. Some people think that, fortunately, the girl's hymen is not broken, so that she will at least not have to worry about finding a husband in the future. The parents of raped and sexually assaulted children are at fault, if at all, a minor non-subjective fault, and this must not and should not be the main reason why the child is a victim. As for the behavior of some people who would rather consider the child's hymen than her psychological trauma, I really don't want to comment on it except that I don't understand it.

You must know that this feeling of being violated will accompany them all their lives. They will occasionally feel that they are dirty and unbearable. Lam Yi Han the same way.

For the continuous occurrence of this ugly behavior, I can't give a solution to the problem. I can only hope that the person concerned will be able to face it bravely and go on fearlessly like the heroine of this film.

Faced with this situation, we can only reconcile with it. I know past traumas are not so easily forgotten. It will come out to torment the person from time to time, sometimes late at night, sometimes when you feel like life sucks, and sometimes when you finally feel like you've gotten rid of it. At this time, all we can do is to accept, to accept what has happened, so that we can accept ourselves. Of course, this is only an effort on an individual level. As for how the society should act, how the law should protect children, and how parents should prevent this from happening, it is left to everyone to think about.

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  • Jenny at 13: I'm the hero of this story, NOT the victim. They fell apart, I didn't.

  • Jenny at 13: [regarding her parents] I'm sick of all their stupid rules!

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