After watching "Parents Escorting", I remembered the term "protecting the calf". Speaking of protecting the calf, I think I must first talk about the recent butt-touching incident in Shanghai Disneyland.
The incident is as follows: Recently, at Shanghai Disneyland, according to eyewitnesses, when the theater ended, an 8-year-old boy might accidentally touch a sensitive part of a woman and was said a few words, and then the boy’s mother exploded and said The woman verbally attacked her son, and the woman accompanying her also stepped forward to accuse her, claiming that "you bumped into it, what are you yelling..." Then she cursed and beat people together. When Disney's staff arrived at the scene, the woman cried out that the other three not only beat her, but one of them pushed her to the ground. At this time, the beater immediately gathered around and explained: She said that an 8-year-old child touched her ass. When the staff evacuated the crowd, they were still reluctant and continued to swear words, "You have a delusion, you are like this, and you still touch your ass!"
The boy’s old mother really protects the calf. She protects the calf in black and white, right from wrong. This kind of calf protection (emphasis here) is absolutely absolutely wrong. This kind of calf protection will become annoying if you are not careful. Disgusting bear parents and bear children.
So, as a parent, how should you protect your calves in a correct and unobtrusive way?
The movie "Escort Parents" tells us the answer. This movie tells the funny story of the parents of three high school girls monitoring that their daughters plan to give their first night to the prom, so they go to the party to stop them.
In the movie, Julie's mother is a single mother, and Julie has been dependent on each other since childhood. Now Julie is going to college after graduating from high school. Julie hopes to go to college outside the city, but Julie's mother is looking forward to her daughter being at home. There was an unspeakable contradiction between the mother and daughter who went to college nearby. But this is not the subject of the film. The subject of this film is that Julie’s mother accidentally discovered that Julie and her friends Kayla and Sam were preparing to give their first night at the graduation party. Julie who learned of the news The mother seemed crazy, and started to organize the daughters together with Kayla's father.
Kayla’s father is even more a demon. He always feels that his daughter is still very small, a little girl who knows nothing about the world. When his daughter is dressed beautifully and preparing to attend the graduation party, he even burst into tears, so from After Julie's mother learned that they were preparing to give their first night's news, she relentlessly began to stop her daughter's misconduct with Julie's mother.
And Sam's father divorced her mother. Normally, it seems that he doesn’t care enough about Sam. Sam is also very indifferent to him. Sam’s father thinks that the children’s choices should be respected. Therefore, he has always been relatively passive in preventing his daughters from offering their first night. Under the stimulus of Ra's father, he followed them all the time.
In the process of catching up, they made all kinds of jokes and encountered all kinds of weird things, but this couldn't stop them from going to stop their daughters from giving their first night's heart.
At the end of the film, they finally caught up with their daughters.
Julie's mother saw that her daughter Julie and her boyfriend were in love, and understood that they should respect the child's choice, and then quietly left.
Kayla's father, after having a deep talk with Kayla, understood that his daughter had really grown up, and was so relieved that he was relieved, but he still chose to respect his daughter.
And Sam's father gained the understanding and full of love from his daughter Sam, which can be said to be a very unexpected harvest.
Finally, the three parents sat at the bar outside and drank together. Their tense mood finally relaxed. Perhaps they understood that letting go is the best love for their children.
The three parents in the movie also went wrong on the way of protecting their babies at first, but fortunately, they wake up in time and understand that to truly love children is to give them freedom and respect; to truly love children is not to do it for him. The decision is to respect his decision and bless her.
Protecting the calf does not mean to ignore the indiscriminate, black and white right and wrong, and blindly protect the calf. The correct way to protect the calf is to know how to let go and learn to guide. Because every child has his own thoughts, hobbies and judgments. We must listen to the children's thoughts more and try to respect the children's thoughts.
Remember the movie "Elves Hostel"? Dracula, the vampire inside, is also a demon.
Because of his wife's death, he raised his beloved daughter Mephis alone. In order to protect her daughter from human harm, he built this castle named Scream Hostel, which is absolutely inaccessible to ordinary humans.
On the occasion of Mayfis’s 118th birthday, she was eager to see the outside world, but Dracula was very worried that the humans outside would be unfriendly and malicious towards his daughter, so he asked his friends to make up human beings and circled one. Fake the village, and let the monsters dressed as humans scare her daughter, make her fear humans, fear the outside world, and never go out again, she can always be safe.
However, he accidentally brought the human boy Jonathan into the castle, and had to make every effort to conceal Jonathan's human identity, and threatened Jonathan to leave when his daughter Memphis and Jonathan had a good relationship with each other.
And Jonathan's departure left his daughter Memphis heartbroken. At the same time, Dracula began to reflect, thinking that he should no longer make important decisions for his daughter. She grew up and could take on her own responsibilities.
Finally, the happyending finale. Memphis and Jonathan held a grand wedding in the castle. Dracula looked at Memphis in a wedding dress with tears in his eyes but was relieved. His little girl finally grew up. Big.
In the beginning, Dracula had a mind to protect his daughter, but he never asked Mephis’ inner thoughts. Such a guardian is not what Mephis wants, nor is it the correct guardian. To truly love a child is to respect her and let him go.
Therefore, the true protection of the calf is to know how to let go, is a principled guide, and is a subtle influence. Learning to let go of your children is a compulsory course for parents.
Just like what Long Yingtai said in "Watching": "The so-called father-daughter mother-child game only means that your fate with him is that you are constantly watching his back drift away in this life and this world. You are standing there. At this end of the path, I watched him gradually disappear into the corner of the path, and he told you silently from his back: You don't need to chase him."
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