One night, I saw my friend Nuonuo, who had been brokenhearted for half a year, and posted a circle of friends: "I can't forget, as soon as I close my eyes, my mind is full of memories of us together, I dare not walk the streets we walked together, eat us The restaurants we ate at together, the movies we watched together, I'm afraid I can't help but contact you."
Seeing this tragic circle of friends, I thought about it for a long time and left a message below to reply: "Farewell to the past before we can move forward and start." After a long time, Nuonuo gave me a smile without words.
After about two weeks, Nuonuo private messaged me one night: "Thank you for waking me up before. I went to many places I went to before breaking up with my ex-boyfriend. After crying and making trouble, I finally let go. You said Yes, it is only after saying goodbye to the past that we can move forward and start. I have been addicted to the past before, so I can’t get out. Saying goodbye to the past that I can’t bear to throw away, I am relaxed. So thank you very much.”
I didn't expect that my reply could make her get out of the sadness of her lovelorn, but as she said, only by saying goodbye to the past can people truly move forward without any grudges and have a new life.
Just like the genius Speyway's family in the French movie "The Strange Journey of Young Speyway", they finally understand that only by saying goodbye to the sadness of the past can they move forward better, and then they will be happy and reunited. At the beginning, I thought it was telling the story of a genius boy, but then I found out that this is not a legend about the genius boy, let alone a biography of a young scientist, it is just telling us, no matter how bad the past, no matter how bad How sad the past is, we must learn to face it. Only when we face it can we have the courage to say goodbye to the past. Only when we say goodbye to the past can we start a new page in life. The young Speyway has a strange family. He has always regarded himself as a father of western cowboys, a mother obsessed with animal and botany research, an ordinary and ordinary sister, and a brother of fraternal twins.
But in an accident, the younger brother went off with a gun and died. Speyway's parents didn't say anything, only Dad became more silent, Mom was keen to find a bug that might never appear, and his brother's dog began to chew on the bucket. All this made Spivey depressed and empty, feeling that his parents were blaming him, and he fell into self-blame and guilt. In fact, the whole family fell into self-blame and guilt, so they couldn't take care of each other.
The whole family tacitly did not mention the death of his younger brother Layton. In fact, it was not forgetting, but escaping. Everyone tried to avoid facing it, thinking that they could pretend that his brother Layton was still alive.
Many of us do the same thing. Regarding the past, we are reluctant to face it, let alone be touched. We just silently think that we can be safe without touching or mentioning it, but forget that it is always a ticking time bomb. One day, if you accidentally touch it, it will explode in place, and the damage will be deeper and heavier.
It is never a good way to escape or hide the past. Only when you really face those pasts and say goodbye to those pasts bravely can you really move forward without any grudges.
The little boy Speyway became more and more depressed as he lived, and could not get the comfort he needed from the love he needed, so he thought about running away.
Finally found his chance, the perpetual motion machine he invented won the prize, so one morning he climbed on the train to Washington and started the road to accept the prize. The scenery along the way was beautiful, but his heart was desolate. When he was sitting on the train with tears in his eyes, thinking of his relatives, and imagining that his brother in a cowboy hat would experience this escape with him, he was in great pain and let go. The unstoppable past, the inescapable self-blame, almost made him unable to breathe.
When accepting the award, he said what he had buried in his heart for a long time, about what happened that day, and his infinite remorse for his brother's death. And his family also understands that no matter how sad what happened, it can't be changed, and only by saying goodbye to the past can we move forward and start.
The reason is very simple, but it is too difficult to do it in life.
There was a woman in our village who married into our village when she was young and gave birth to a son. Her parents-in-law and her family were very happy. Since then, she was pardoned and did not need to work, but only had to take care of the child. She also lived up to the expectations of her family and took good care of her children. Her parents-in-law praised her very much.
Later, when the child was four years old, she took the child out to play. When the neighbor's aunt called her to come over and make a table of mahjong, she repeatedly refused to bring the child. , the child is old, it's okay to play next to it. She couldn't stand the repeated requests of her neighbor's aunt, so she sat down at the table and played mahjong. At first, she remembered to see the child playing next to her, but then she completely forgot about the child when she got so excited.
Until someone in the village said that a child was hit and killed at the entrance of the village, and the driver who caused the accident had already run away. Only then did she suddenly realize her child, and when she looked back, the child who was playing there before was long gone. She ran out like a madman. She didn't care if her shoes were dropped on the road. She ran to the place where the child happened, trembling to the I walked forward, praying in my heart that it would not be my own child, not my own child. But when she got closer, even though the child's face was covered in blood, she still recognized it as her own child at a glance. She slumped on the ground and cried and couldn't cry. The husband who came to hear the news saw his son's death. In the tragic situation, she slapped her in the face, and was about to kick her, but was stopped by the villagers.
After the child's funeral was done, the woman began to become rambunctious, saying that the child was all the mother's fault, and that you should take the mother away. At first, her in-laws and her family would persuade her to open up. She was still young and could be raised again. Her husband also said that she should not have beaten her before, so that she should not worry about the death of her child. The days are still long.
But she didn't listen at all, and she became a little nervous. She didn't let her husband get close to her, and she didn't go to the fields to do farm work. Every day she talked about letting her children take her away. Slowly, the in-laws and family stopped persuading her to do whatever she wanted.
Later, her mother's family refused to want her, and her husband's family began to dislike her. She refused to give her husband a child, and there was no way for her husband to marry another. She didn't care, but she became more and more nervous.
Later, she went completely crazy and was picked up by her family.
People, who refuse to let themselves go, refuse to face the past, let alone say goodbye to the past, can only struggle in the whirlpool of the past until they drown in it.
So, learn to say goodbye to the past, learn to let go of yourself, so that life will get better little by little, and life will be overdone day by day.
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