Based on the exploration of the nature of "love", I am driven to watch various love-related movies, TV series, and romance novels. In addition to understanding the love between men and women, I also have a strong curiosity about the love between men and women. I even think that Through them, they can understand the essence of love (there may be a reproductive instinct between the opposite sex). Of course, what I mean by "love" is more of a spiritual emotion.
After reading "Morris Lover", here are three insights or experiences about love.
1. The essence of love is an unreserved blend based on two free souls.
This contains three conditions or three connotations of love:
1. The conditions of love are relatively harsh. People who know love and can obtain love must first be free in spirit, and only in this way can they have the ability to love.
2. Based on this, two people can achieve integration in spirit and body, spirit and body promote each other, love is confirmed and sublimated again and again, reach a higher level of emotion, and experience the completeness and beauty of life.
3. Of course, love also needs to give oneself to the other party without reservation under a very high sense of security. If either party has concerns, complete trust cannot be achieved, and it is difficult to achieve.
In Plato's "Symposium", Socrates made a wonderful argument on "Where does love come from? What is its purpose?" He proposed that love stems from the pursuit of beauty (wisdom); and it is not only that, but the desire to reproduce (creation) under the influence of love, so as to realize the desire of man from immortality to immortality. Therefore, the higher realm of love is to create eternity and immortality belonging to two people under the drive of love. It can be the birth and raising of common children, and of course it can be the creation of two people on the level of wisdom.
The former is the path most of us choose to achieve a complete and eternal life, while the latter presents a higher intellectual challenge to both. The latter often happens to some great people in history. For another example, Clare and Frank in "House of Cards" are extremes in this regard. All the foundations of their love and even marriage are to go to the top of power together.
Second, sex can be beautiful
From our traditional point of view, sex is always dark, shameful, and even dirty, especially between same-sex sex, and many straight men even call it disgusting; although I have always understood same-sex emotions, but It is more of a rational level of respect, and has never been able to achieve emotional appreciation. However, in this movie, when two men hug each other naked and caress each other, there is a feeling in their hearts. From their hearts, they feel relieved for the two men who are full of desire for love. They can truly feel that they have each other's happiness. . From this, I began to think, under what conditions can sex enter the category of "beauty" (beauty in the aesthetic sense, beauty under the sun)? I think there are two basic points:
First, it is based on emotional attraction. The deeper the attraction, the deeper the emotional engagement, the more aesthetically meaningful sex will be experienced? ----- On the contrary, pure desire-driven sex, we are often difficult to talk about, even if it can be understood, but it is difficult to say that it is beautiful. Plato also mentioned in "Symposium" that love can also start from the body, but in the end it must rise to the emotional and spiritual level before entering the essence of love (that is, the desire for beauty).
Second, both parties are free. This freedom refers to the freedom of all will, without any coercion or exchange based on obligations, powers, interests, etc. Only when you love deeply and can't help being close can sex become a natural beauty.
3. The sublimation and realization of love requires the same level of investment and commitment from both parties
One-sided love can only be a kind of love, but it cannot be called love. The realization and completion of love must be completed by two people, so two people are fully committed and committed to achieve true love.
In "Murice" Lovers, Clive and Murice reached a very high depth of love at the beginning, especially in the sense of uniqueness in spiritual communication, and they were fully devoted to each other. At first, Clive was more liberal in concept, agreeing with Plato's thesis on love between the same sex, and playing a more active role in their relationship; but when Murice gradually opened up, admitting and accepting his feelings, he was ready to give up everything and everything. When his heart was devoted, Clive was convicted of adultery because of his friend, and the cruel scene in the court made him return to reality, accept the ethical system in reality, and deny his instinctual desires.
This kind of love that has been created but not realized makes each other extremely painful, the desire for love and the moral repression make Murice extremely painful, and the love between them gradually becomes blurred. Until the idea of love in the body was realized through Alec, and the promise of the other party ignited murice's love god, which made murice have a higher understanding of love, and decided to abandon everything and stay with it.
In the end, murice's words to clive made clive fall into the abyss. He was bound by Victorian morality and traditional heterosexual marriage. There was more beautiful love in the distance, but he lost hugging him forever. chance.
Compared with Clive's restraint and escape, Alec's enthusiasm and bravery are so precious to Murice. Their love has sublimated from physical intimacy to spiritual fit. Here, Murice experiences the kind of desperate, A complete love that unites as one.
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