If you love her, build a toilet for her

Murray 2022-04-19 09:03:15

Adapted from real events in India, in 2012, Indian bride Anita Nally couldn't bear the torture of going to the toilet outdoors. She fled from her husband's house on the fourth day after marriage, claiming that she would not go home without a separate toilet. After hearing the news, a charity built a toilet for her, and she returned home when the toilet opened.

When Jaya appeared, he taught a hooligan who intentionally or unintentionally illuminated women who were going to the toilet in the wild. When Keshav appeared, he was saying goodbye to his ex-girlfriend on a haystack before the wedding. He was going to marry, and his girlfriend was going to marry. Girlfriend said, if you hold on a little longer, we can get married. Keshav said there was nothing he could do, and the next scene was to defuse the bad luck on his star chart, following the advice of his devout Hindu dad and marrying his first wife, a cow.

Later, Keshav and Jaya had an argument on the train because of the toilet problem, so they met, and Keshav fell in love with Jaya at first sight. On the Holi Festival, Keshav made a strong confession, and then the two fell into a deep love and decided to get married. The father's requirement is that the daughter-in-law must have double thumbs, otherwise the son will suffer because of the discord with the son's horoscope. Keshav asked Jaya to knit a pair of thumb gloves and then make a fake ring so the two could marry. This is also their first compromise.

At 4:15 a.m. on their wedding night, Jaya was woken by a knock on the window. All the women in the village, also called the Women's Federation, told her to go out to the toilet together. Jaya asked Keshav, don't you have a toilet at home? Keshav said yes. Jaya said, I should have asked you before, if I knew you didn't have a toilet at home, I would not have married you.

This was a bolt from the blue for this woman who came from a Western-style family, went to college, and grew up sitting on the toilet. He thought of many ways to get Jaya to go to the toilet without having to build a toilet in the house.

At the end of the first day, Jaya failed to go to the toilet. After returning home, he communicated with her husband Keshav, hoping that there would be a toilet at home. Keshav felt sorry for his wife, so he tried to propose to the stubborn old father, but he was strongly opposed .

There was an old grandmother who was sick in the village, and the family had to build a toilet in the room. Jaya went once, and she couldn't accept this way of going to the toilet like a thief. She had to go to the toilet in the wild, and her condition was that Keshav would go with her.

But on one occasion, Keshav's father happened to pass by, and Jaya was furious. They clashed and Keshav was furious. The women in the village have been going to the toilet in the wild, why do you have to go to the toilet at home and cause so many conflicts.

After that, Keshav thought of another way. The train stopped by the village for 7 minutes, which was enough time to solve Jaya's problem. During this time, they started a happy 7 minutes: after calculating the time every day, Keshav drove Jaya to the toilet on a motorcycle.

As mentioned earlier, primitive defense mechanisms cannot deal with contingencies of all kinds - there are always many events that exceed our expectations. Jaya was stuck in the toilet, and when she came out, the train started. She stood on the train looking at Keshav calling him down, and followed the train away.

This time, Keshav can understand Jaya. She grew up in a home with toilets. It is unfair to her to ask her to go to the wild to go to the toilet after marriage. Also, Jaya told Keshav that she was fed up with all the expedients and that she wanted a toilet in the house.

After the compromise was useless, Keshav began to try to change, and there was still a compromise. Keshav wanted to have a toilet at home. The first method he thought of was to steal a mobile toilet from the crew and put it in his room quietly when his father was not at home. However, after being reported by his father, he was caught in jail and his father refused to bail him. Jaya and the crew director bail out Keshav, who decides to build a real toilet in the house.

Dad would not accept having a toilet at home. The first method of protest he used was a hunger strike. This time, Keshav decided to ignore Dad. He sold his beloved motorcycle and finally managed to scrape together enough money to build a toilet. The toilet is finished, and Keshav wraps the toilet with ribbons, waiting for Jaya to cut the ribbon. But what he was waiting for was not Jaya, but his father who found that self-abuse was useless and hired someone to smash the toilet.

This time, Jaya can also understand Keshav and why he just thinks of expedients every time, instead of building a real toilet: because the opposition is too powerful, and we are in front of this power, it is easy into a sense of powerlessness.

Jaya decided to give up, but Keshav was aware of the problem, and he insisted on making change happen. When Keshav went to the government, he found that the government had actually built toilets, but people didn't have the awareness to use them. Concept is a kind of public opinion, and they decide to use public opinion to change public opinion, so they use the method of "fake divorce" to promote the change of people's public opinion consciousness.

In addition to his father's objection to this matter, his grandmother, who is also a woman, also disagreed, believing that women should learn to compromise. Compromise is a traditional virtue of women. Other women who went to the toilet with Jaya also criticized Jaya for this. Small things sacrifice marriage. Some women even felt that Keshav had no ability to control his wife.

The reporter asked Jaya, what do you think is hindering your marriage?

Jaya said it was the women who got up early in the morning to go to the wild. Yes, it is not the perpetrators who prevent victims from redressing their grievances, but the victims who identify with the perpetrators.

Finally, the group of women who got up early in the morning to go to the wild for convenience also started to fight: "Either build a toilet or get a divorce."

This public opinion focused on divorce due to toilets finally alerted the government. On the one hand, it also urged the “Clean India” movement that had been stranded before. The government also quickly approved Keshav’s application for the village to build toilets.

The couple never divorced, and Keshav's father accepted the convenience of the family's private toilet because of his mother's emergency. In the end it was a happy ending.

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