It's amazing that I didn't watch it until 12 years after the QAF ended, and I live on Wellesley Road in Toronto on the main exterior of Liberty Avenue, just 100 meters away from Gay Village. QAF fans are half gay and half rotten. I saw on Zhihu that there is a point of view that women like to watch men and women because they don't project themselves on the protagonist, and they don't think of their own frustrations in intimate relationships and gender games. shadow. I personally think that homosexuality is more pure, that is, love is desire, does not involve reproduction, does not involve gene transmission and hormone secretion influenced by Mother Nature, and is limited by mainstream values, forbearance is particularly moving. But QAF still reminds me of the tears I shed for love in the past, regretting that I didn't have the courage to sacrifice myself and accept it all in love with someone, and to let go (ambition cut you down) because I had to find myself. Our male protagonist, successful in his career, tall and straight, handsome, rich in learning, outstanding in talent, cold-hearted, loyal and committed, venomous, honest and no nonsense, action-oriented and results-oriented, or an untamable beast, an untamable beast. A sex addict, being with his lover can't cure him, and his lover can't cure him when he leaves The two things that B needs most; I met Lindsey, Jie Yuhua, in college, and they had a heart-to-heart relationship, but unfortunately it was a girl, but she was still crooked; I finally met Justin, who was pure, brave, and persistent, Bingxue is smart, talented, and understands B, the only thing that will protect him in turn B's person, a perfect lover. The white scarf was a gift from B to him on his 30th birthday, and was tied around J's neck at Prom. It was a chance to give himself a chance to love. B took life and death so casually, but in the end, J was the only one on the line. The romance, but the other party had to forget it, B felt that he was not worthy of being loved, and no longer dared to express love, but J's forgetting also made J, who could already read B's unspoken voice, become unwilling to love. Then it must be written with talismans and spoken with mantras. B has always felt that once the words are spoken, he expects feedback, there is an element of performance, and part of it must be bullshit, because at that moment, I may be serious. I love you, how long is the validity period (Eternities aren' t as long as they used to be), only action is the most powerful, B doesn't need J to know that he visits the doctor every night, J doesn't need B to know that he dedicated himself to save B's lawsuit. B first said that the heterosexual I love you is often just a trick to deceive people into bed. Maybe he also thinks that marriage is more of a contractual bond. If you don't need to deceive you can have sex, or even love, homosexuality does not need to follow the so-called heterosexuality. Rituals and routines. And as a smart person, B can only speak directly to people with mediocre qualifications, and the simple and rude truth is spilled over his face (for example, Ted is addicted to masturbation and can't extricate himself from 'Get a job', such as M is addicted to Ben and can't extricate himself, 'Go fucking get him' '), for J, who is also a smart person, B always speaks in a twisted way, and confesses in a twisted manner. Control, for example: It's not the reason that I want you to stay I'll be also doing exactly what I want to do, coming home to you I want you around, for a long time Should Imake roomin mydrawersfor yourdrawers And as for the times when you're not around, I wouldn't particularly mind it if you were. B has always known what kind of person he is, and has repeatedly warned J from the beginning not to approach (because he who knows sex addiction is not a blank sheet of paper The average J wants happiness, so the indifference at the beginning is the greatest kindness), strangeness is the friendliest distance, the greatest joy, and the least lies (maximum of pleasure and minimum of bullshit. ), for B, whose original family lacks love, the biggest fear is not falling into love, but the person he loves leaving because he leaves (B is sick and afraid that J will leave him first), this kind of fear makes him even I didn't have the courage to start, and I didn't have the courage to make a promise. B, who kept his word, made a promise and it will definitely come true, until the fear of life and death surpasses the fear of lover's departure. B and J are very smart, and they can see the essence of things , It is not easy to obtain happiness, because it is not easy to believe in miracles, knowing that there are only compromises, sacrifices and lies behind the harmony, and both of them are very pure, they do not allow themselves or the other to lie or sacrifice, and only do things they want to do, No matter what can do or have to do. For B and J, it may be the best ending, just like that scene under the street light, J concentrates on doing what he loves the most, and B looks at him from a distance. To paraphrase the familiar words since childhood, don't care about eternity, only care about once owned, it's only time Why do you say B is a sex addiction? J: Aren't tired of it? B: Never enough. Encyclopedia: The external cause of sex addiction is a deviation in psychological development, which is related to the influence of family and social environment. When the mental pressure is too high, I can't find a better way to reduce stress, so I have to resort to sex, and finally form psychological dependence. Some people want to use sex to prove their charm. The more sexual partners they have, the more confident they will be. Quote: Twelve Characteristics of Sex and Love Addiction (reproduced in Li Yijing's book "The Miracle Course of Love and Sex", The book content is taken from the "Handbook of Addiction and Rehabilitation") 1. Lack of healthy boundaries, allowing yourself to get caught in a sexual or emotional relationship before you know a person. 2. Because of the fear of being abandoned, they put themselves in or return to painful and destructive relationships, and hide their feelings of dependence from themselves or others, and then become increasingly isolated, with friends, Relatives, God and myself are becoming more and more estranged. 3. Force yourself to pursue or be involved in one relationship after another, sometimes even more than one sexual or emotional relationship, because of fear of emotional or sexual lack. 4. Confusing love and need, physical and sexual attraction, pity and need, saving or being saved all together. 5. Feels empty or incomplete when alone, and continues to pursue emotional and sexual contact even when fearful of intimacy and commitment. 6. Sexualized different emotions such as stress, guilt, loneliness, anger, shame, and jealousy, and used sexual or emotional dependence as a substitute for nourishment, care, and support. 7. Use sexual and emotional relationships to manipulate and control others. 8. Because of infatuation with feelings or sexual desires, obsessive fantasies, make oneself unable to live normally, or even seriously destroy. 9. Often get involved in relationships with people who are unable to give love to avoid responsibility for themselves. 10. Staying like a slave to emotional dependence, love stimulation, or compulsive sex. 11. In order to avoid feeling helpless, he will cut off all intimate relationships, and regard sexual and emotional deprivation as a success in addiction recovery. 12. Excessive deification or pursuit of the other party, often blaming the other party for not living up to their fantasies and expectations. Because I had a relationship with someone like B before, my first reaction when I found out was to say to him, "Go and treat if you are sick, don't provoke me." Maybe it's because J worships B like a god, and the love at the beginning is With devotion, he couldn't see what was wrong. Maybe it's because J is too brave and tough. Just like learning to ride a bike when he was a child, he has to learn it even if his head breaks. Everyone has a different way of coping with pain. Maybe B has not been able to absorb the factory-set warmth of life from his original family since he was a child, and he has no way to deal with the cold and cruel world. For such a sensitive and intelligent person, he may have to go Choose a response to this stimulus. Shame of Fa Shark tells the story of a sex addict. Why is B not as painful and shameful as Fa Shark, because Brandon played by Fa Shark thinks that his actions go against his own values, and B does not think so. For self-protection, B has a set of logic Self-consistent values, fuck theory: one in, one out, the most pleasure and the least bullshit. Taking a step back, sex is B's three meals a day, and it has always been B's pain management tool. Over time, it has become an essential part of his life. But sex is also the most important part of intimacy. If other people in the world can have and enter each other's bodies, is the relationship itself enough to make the intimacy between two people so unique? Even if B's every move is silently shouting love for J, but for people who don't understand sex addiction, even if all relatives and friends collectively endorse and pass B love J with all votes, in the view of J who grew up accepting universal values, people To be as fuckable is to show no love, VETO, that's why J wants to hear the affirmation of love. B has always said that he wants to cultivate J into the best homo. The reason for this light source plan may be B's loneliness. He has always wanted a person in the world who really understands himself. In the first paragraph, he said, M is not, L also has Unfortunately, J is the closest person to his ideals. He wants to be a revolutionary who can compete with the secular moral standards, so he accuses M: you infected him, he felt angry and regretful, the perfect lover was thus influenced by universal values. B is most likely to fall in love with his gentleness. He always reveals the truth at once. He seems to be particularly ruthless, but he has several soft corners in his heart. The pastor is gay), and the gentleness given to J is even more throughout. It is precisely because the outside is cold and the inside is hot that this kind of gentleness is particularly moving. Regarding the development of Babylon after the explosion, I can only make up my mind, did B make a wish in the car, as long as J is fine, he is willing to give up his most important hobby, and only fuck alone in this life (similar to the vow to be vegetarian when we pray to God) . Even if the person you love cannot be together, but you know that he lives well in the world and pursues the things he likes, it is another kind of satisfaction and happiness, but if such a beautiful person disappears completely, even the possibility of such happiness All gone, and only his own destruction followed. Before J was bashed, B had faced that kind of fear once, and he almost couldn't survive it. Now this fear of permanent loss has greatly exceeded the promise and real establishment. Fear of intimacy. And J finally found out that the B he loves has always been the one who has a successful career, is tall and straight, handsome, rich in learning, outstanding talent, cold-hearted, loyal and committed, poisonous and honest, no nonsense, action-oriented and results-oriented, and sexually addicted. B, if he is forced to remove a part of himself, he is no longer a complete him, if the price of being together is not being able to be himself, as B said to J's father, it is not love, but hate B and J are ancient Greek combination , also father, brother and lover, without B, there would be no best J G and J appear at the same time, and at the same time learn to (re)take the first step and leave at the same time, B didn't expect to love them so much at first I see it myself A few details: The place where the wedding was originally planned to be Falling Water by Frank Lloyd Wright, the famous Liushui Villa B said to J in the car when his son came home, and the first word G said to B was tik, so is the company behind Kinnetik? It also echoes here (Kinney+Tik) Some people suddenly stimulated their abilities in music, art, mathematics, etc. after a head injury. Is there a Savant Syndrome after J is hit by a stick? After shutting down part of the brain's function, it stimulates another part of the potential, and more. The objective reason should be that he entered computer graphics earlier from traditional painting methods.
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