The film tells the love story of an American writer and a married French woman who is 9 years older than him. For most people, extramarital affairs should be criticized. But the husband of the female protagonist actually invited her to have dinner at home after learning about the existence of the male protagonist. This is of course not a French "gentleman's trap", but an open marriage chosen by the female protagonist and her husband. "Qi Hua Shuo" once discussed that the necessary basis for an open marriage is that both parties in the marriage have a good economic foundation and high cultural accomplishment. Both parties in the marriage can transcend the secular in material and spiritual levels, and they can imprison each other without secular morality. The body and mind... The same goes for unmarried people.
At many moments I felt that the institution of marriage was against human nature, and these thoughts have been intensifying in my mind lately. Wenger Julie famously said: "Even in the happiest marriage in the world, there will be two hundred thoughts of divorce and fifty thoughts of strangling each other in a lifetime." Marriage may be the time to meet Once you feel the right person to live together, but after getting married, you will find that you are not marrying the right person. Love will inevitably fade due to the polishing of trivial life, until people forget the romance and passion of the past, and human beings are such insatiable animals.
In the film, the heroine strictly limits the rendezvous time to 5 to 7 o'clock. In addition to enjoying the pleasure of the body, she and the hero are more discussing culture, life, and doing everything that seems interesting. In the eyes of the female lead, the male lead is very talented and funny, sincere and kind. The husband of the heroine even said to the hero in a conversation, "I'm glad she met you. From the short time she knew you, I saw a light in her eyes that I've never seen before." Fundamentally, the human craving for sexuality most directly reflects animality, and no matter what stage of evolution it is, this animality may never be able to get rid of it. Love without sexual desire is nothing, but sexual desire has never belonged to love or is completely different. What is really fascinating in love is each other's unique and rich lives. Gao Xiaosong's ex-wife Xu Canjin can be described as beautiful, but she still likes a fat pig like a pig, because Gao Xiaosong, who is full of knowledge, can teach her to understand the world and open many windows for her.
Love and marriage are two completely different things, but too many people like to be consistent, and they are still entangled in the fact that these two things did not happen to the same person. For the male protagonist who is only 24 years old, love is to occupy each other more in time and space, and the way to realize this desire is to propose to the female protagonist. In Kant's "Metaphysical Principles of Law", he said that marriage is a union for the purpose of possessing each other's sexual organs for life. The theory of social evolution says that marriage arises from a patriarchal society and from the private ownership of land and property. In order to ensure the continuation of their bloodline, men need to bind a specific spouse for marriage, so as to ensure that the offspring born are their own and wear the shackles of marriage to women. Instilling the morality of chastity and single-mindedness, if you dare to betray, it means moral corruption, and there will be extremely cruel punishment. After seeing the essence of marriage clearly, understand the complex human nature, be a simple person, no longer have so many sacred illusions about marriage, and no longer ask so many expectations from the other party. In the film, after the male protagonist proposes to the female protagonist, the female protagonist keeps repeating the age gap. This section is really interesting and helpless. For love, age and even all external things are not important, the important thing is love itself. Marriage is a compromise of life, and the union of men and women is more reflected in co-existence and shared responsibility. It's hard to imagine how many problems they will face next if the heroine really agrees to the man's proposal, and how bad these problems will make their lives.
Rousseau said, "Man is born free but is everywhere in chains. He who thinks he is the master of everything else is more of a slave than everything else." Too much selfishness often makes it complicated and uninteresting. And when love appears possessive and controlled, it becomes hideous. High-quality lovers should always give each other free space, and it may be more important to know how to respect each other's alone time in addition to high-quality company. To enjoy being in one place without being immersed in it, to not feel embarrassed even if each other is silent, to talk for the sake of talking is boring, communication should be effective, straight to the soul. After realizing that loneliness is the ultimate destiny of life, don’t yearn for the permanence of any relationship, and don’t have any delusions of a relationship, let love return to the original innocence and selflessness, become the proof of life, and become the incision for each other to understand themselves better.
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