A sigh that transcends years but still can't let go

Muhammad 2022-04-22 07:01:45

"I'm getting old, and one day, in the hall of a public place, a man came up to me. He introduced himself, and he said to me: 'I know you, and I will always remember you. Back then, you were young and everyone said you were beautiful. Now, I'm here to tell you that, to me, I think you're more beautiful now than when you were young, when you were a young woman, with you I love your devastated face now more than your face then. "



I heard a music disc about an Oscar-winning film before, including "The Lover", and I got a general understanding of it through the cut clips. Because the hair was not tied at that time, and the selective education was blocked, It's easy to think about sex, and the description of sex in "The Lover" gave me a strong visual impact at least, so I remember "The Lover".


But I didn't expect that the parting from "The Lover" was so close Ten years ago, when I was casually flipping through books in the library today, I happened to come across Duras' "The Lover" on the shelf. It wasn't long to read it, so I decided to read it, so that I could pick up my childhood memories (after all, I cut The passages make the story look dry), and secondly, being single can be inspirational.


The novel's depiction of the psychological state of women in love and Roland Barthes's deconstruction of love are both amazingly similar, but the change of personal pronouns is amazing. It is implied that he is only half-understood, and when he has the opportunity, he will definitely find a Chinese classmate to discuss one or two. As for the plot of the story, there is no need to say much. After reading the original book, in the aftertaste, I feel like "the same as in the past... He said that she loves her and will When I love him until he dies", how can another sentence echo "one year less, one month less, one day less, one hour less is not a lifetime", scares me... Fortunately, I am very "straight".. It's just a joke. A necklace of love linked by time, and the only lobster clasp when the heart is first met. The trembling hands can not only open the door of a girl's heart, but also grasp the emotional line of their own. Mysterious love... Some people say that marriage is a love grave, but does marriage bury "his" love? No. Does that marriage bury the love of Hisagi ("Paradise Lost" male protagonist)? Neither. What should I worry about in marriage? Although a thousand people have a thousand love scales, at least I can choose myself.


Speaking of the movie, the childhood memories + the emotion of the original book made me have double expectations for this movie. Sure enough, the film lived up to expectations, very exquisite. In terms of details, even if I like crying in the corner of the room, it adds a tangled knob in the car that I never thought of. The film is commendable in terms of lens selection. The reverie about the senses in the original book is well explained in this film. But looking at the whole film, it has to be said that it has changed a lot from the original, which can be said to be scratching the head. For commercial purposes, it’s okay to omit most of the “me” in the original work, and even pinched my most sad time-travelling phone call. In fact, it was this phone call that I was waiting for... I can’t help but feel very sad! Very sad...


Maybe women who have experienced the hardships of the years will not be naive enough to look back to find the figure in the depths of those years, but they cannot suppress the passion and desire floating in the heart like clouds.

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Extended Reading
  • Rosie 2022-03-23 09:02:50

    Leung Ka Fai thought he was ugly when I first saw him many years ago... I was blind then

  • Alia 2022-03-20 09:02:26

    Walking through a city, falling in love with someone you shouldn't fall in love with, pretending to say goodbye peacefully. Whether it is Saigon, the Indian Ocean or Paris, whether it is New Delhi, Edinburgh or Boston. After many years, the stars have changed and the old man has gone. The world is changeable and things are vicissitudes of life. But there is still a Chinese man who silently thinks about her for decades until the end of life. Lovers are not prostitutes and sluts. Lovers are just naive fantasies developed outside the world.

The Lover quotes

  • Narrator: "Now and then I go back to the house in Sadek. To the horror of the house in Sadek. It's an unbearable place. It's close to death. A place of violence of pain of despair, of dishonour... But it's in this family's dryness in it's incredible harshness that I am the most deeply assured in myself. In the deepest of my essential certainties, all common history of ruin and shame, of love and hate is in my flesh."

  • Narrator: Dusk one evening on board ship, crossing the Indian Ocean under the luminous sky. Suddenly the sound of a Chopin waltz came bursting out from the main lounge. I had tried to play it for months without success. That's why I gave up the piano. There wasn't a breath of wind and the music pervaded the whole ship. I stood up as if to go and throw myself into the sea. Then I did weep because I had thought of my Chinese lover, and I was suddenly not sure that I hadn't been in love with him after all, with a love I hadn't been able to see because it had become lost in the tide of events, like water seeping through sand. Thanks to that music, spreading over the sea and filling the calmest night I have ever known, I could see my love for him for the first time.