always preparing for the worst
Olive Kitteridge, she's always preparing for the worst. Her greatest fear may be death. Her dad's suicide because of depression made her always watch out for it. She feels more depressed and more frightened. Will her depression get worse? Will she kill herself?
She replaced depression with anger and complaints. Object relations psychologist Melanie Klein coined the concept of paranoid-schizophrenia and depressive mentality. The paranoid position makes people act, and the depressive position makes people think. Depression is a state of lack of motivation and vitality. Paranoid anger makes people act, desire, and drive.
Olive seems to be addressing her depression with anger and complaints. This is a great feeling I have after watching this film, and I think it is also an important clue hidden in the film. Olive in the film seems to be doing things and acting all the time. She was washing the dishes, she was cooking, she was tidying up the garden. When she got to her son's house in New York, she didn't sit for a while, and she said, is there anything I can do? She was constantly doing things, and she was constantly angry, sarcastic, justifying, arguing.
She seems so alive, if you're just her neighbor, how can you think she's prone to depression? Yet this fear is ignored. Except for Olive, no one will take the initiative to bring up those painful, sad, and depressing things, and even if Olive does bring it up, there is no good emotional support. Her fears are still there.
It seems that you are prepared for suffering, and your mind will be more at ease. So Olive wants to make it clear that his son's first wife is not a bad guy and an opportunist. Then when her son divorced, she would not be so sad. So she doesn't have a good face for Denise.
From seeing to seeing, it is difficult for people to have real reflection
For the simple and nice Henry, Olive spent most of his life disapproving of his unpreparedness for life's hardships. Of course, Henry's friendliness didn't allow him to truly understand Olive's inner fear and give Olive real comfort. But, in this world, who is the savior of whom? Henry is already a very, very good husband.
But Olive never suffered from severe depression in his life. Maybe it comes from her daily efforts. Then the problem arises. Very bad things may not be covered in our whole life. Do we really need to be so vigilant? When living like Henry, try to feel happy things, and also bring happiness and comfort to others, isn't it?
After Henry's stroke, Olive had a real reflection. She found out what a good husband she had, a husband who had been accommodating and loving her almost all her life. How precious is a person like a husband, why was he discovered so late? Why did you only agree with your husband's behavior at the last moment?
People always have real reflection when something is lost forever or about to be lost. It was only at this time that Olive got rid of his past thinking mode and began to realize the reality. It turned out that everyone in the town liked Henry, and everyone liked my husband. He is really a good person. His existence makes the world beautiful. a little bit.
However, in the past, seeing and identifying with her husband was terrifying for Olive, which meant losing control over the sinister ocean of life. In her opinion, giggling couldn't solve the problem, happiness was always short-lived, and she had to go Be prepared to fight storms that may descend. That's why Olive is so resolute when dealing with some crisis scenarios. (discovered the girl who jumped into the sea in time, and asked the student to rescue it; found that the student's mental state was not right; helped the student's mother who was severely depressed)
But did Henry see Olive again? He may have seen Olive's extramarital affairs and dissatisfaction with him, but can he see the fear in Olive's heart? Are you always ready to be nervous? This may be too demanding of Henry, Olive's character is indeed one who wants to be avoided.
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The skit was really good, it made me see myself and the people around me in it.
It baffles me, this world. I don't want to leave it yet. I don't want to talk much about this topic, because everyone really does n't want to die instinctively . Let's go and see how many bad things happen in the world every day. How many people committed suicide. Whether it's Oliver not wanting children to see dead bodies or being influenced by children's voices, there are really many reasons why we don't want to die.
How to deal with fear is what interests me. What is our underlying fear? Am I running away from this fear or fighting it in a 'weird' way like Olive? The deepest fear is death, but the way to fear death is different for everyone. Olive is afraid of being too depressed and dying, some people may be afraid of being too poor, some people are afraid of leaving nothing, and so on.
The so-called life to death, but also to face the deep fear of death. I still admire Olive very much. She did not escape or let it develop like the mother of the student. She has been working hard to fight against this layer of fear, and she is trying to live.
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