The beauty of movies, a very important point, is that we can sit on the sofa or in the movie theater, watching other people's lives through the screen, moved to tears or angry, the screen is the safest isolation shield.
After all, we don't need to experience the life and death of the story, we can feel the taste of all kinds of life. However, once the story becomes clear with reality, the sadness of spring and autumn may not be so beautiful, but a dilemma that makes people want to escape but cannot escape.
How did Olive's son speak his mind to his mother after the second marriage?
It makes me feel really bad to say bad things a lot,
I never realize my own problems,
After seeing a psychiatrist, I gradually realized that I don't need to be responsible for my mother's emotions.
The greatest fortune of this family of three is that they have such a warm and tolerant husband and father as Henry. Henry's generosity can fully accommodate Olive's harsh words, and the handwritten card he sent him responds with indifference, and he can accept it calmly.
In an intimate relationship, getting along with Olive was like a disaster. After a young Chris grew up in such an environment, he gradually became estranged from the present. But Henry was really a sunshine that God gave to Olive, melted away so many possible quarrels, and loved Olive from the bottom of his heart.
After Henry had a stroke, Olive's way of doing things became a little softer, lying beside Henry's hospital bed to talk to him, taking care of the nurses changing the water in the vase every day.
As for Olive herself, the tragedy of her father's suicide has not been well dealt with in her heart, which has become a very important part of her personality. She wraps herself around herself and gets along with her family like a hedgehog. She is deeply involved in it without knowing it. .
My mother is a person with a very similar personality to Olive. When I watched this show, I could very well understand Chris's final rant about his mother, how such a relationship is distorted, painful, and difficult to change, only distance can Make each other a little more comfortable with each other.
At the same time, I was looking, trying to understand Olive's more complete side, the more complex emotions beneath her avoidant personality.
Until she cried and told her son in the final quarrel with Chris,
I never meant to hurt you.
Seeing this moment, I suddenly felt a little relieved, but also very sad.
Olive's growth experience made her not know how to express her emotions, and she was used to arming herself with indifferent language. She loves her son, but in the end she uses the wrong way to let the two sides go further and further apart. What the son feels in this mother-son relationship is hurt.
But all of this, she didn't do it on purpose, and there was nothing she could do about it.
The most troublesome thing is that despite trying to understand the contradictions in the mother's personality, the sleepy emotional feedback and habitual mean expressions are still difficult to digest in getting along.
When you go far, you can't feel the affection, and when you get close, you feel the tingling.
Although I can appreciate Olive as an artistic creation, if she is really your mother, then the hardships of being Chris may be very tormenting in reality. To understand the mother-child relationship that is constantly unclear, the intergenerational trauma invades the next generation with a strong inertia.
The end of the movie lights up a bright point in Olive's character. She still has hope of living, with a tragic character. Maybe she accepts such a self in her heart.
As for Chris, maybe with the help of a psychiatrist, he can gradually accept that his mother is such a person.
At least, she never intentionally hurt her own child.
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